...and why it doesn't matter.
I have transitioned away from cold approaching and instead have been going to a bunch of parties and social events where singles can meet. The parties are much more fun and relaxed than bar/club cold approaching BUT I've noticed:
1. there is almost always a gender imbalance; men usually outnumber female attendees 2 to 1, if not more.
2. the single gals at these events are not the hottest, typically maxing out at a '7' with an occasional '8' now and again. Most are just average looking.
3. most of the gals are a bit older, 30+ is the norm.
4. the girls screen very hard: they are often rude, hostile, condescending, or just flat-out insulting to nearly every guy they meet at these events, and they can get away with it.
Why are these average often ugly women, able to get away with such terrible behavior? Why do men put up with it?
Very simply put, it's the sexual marketplace. Men want sex more than women, and are willing to "work" in order to get it. This means going out more, paying, putting up with bad behavior, etc.
Second, women are waiting longer and longer to get married or have "relationships." They'll drag these things out indef. over text message, facebook, or through occasional contacts through these parties.
Third, most guys get nothing out of these parties from what I can tell except a case of blue balls for prolonged periods of time.
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So, here are some tips for distinguishing yourself.
1. tall guys and good looking guys almost always have an advantage
2. aggressive guys who are less selective are more likely to get laid
3. the 'leader' of these events can have a slight advantage.
4. walk away immediately from insulting, rude girls. You can insult them back, but I think it looks petty.
5. don't assume you will see these girls again. A facebook request is a safe, conservative way of staying in contact, but a personal number is always better.
6. create as many social circles as possible, while still continuing to cold approach. Neither approach is better or worse, just different.
Anyway, just thought I'd put a few tips out there.
I have transitioned away from cold approaching and instead have been going to a bunch of parties and social events where singles can meet. The parties are much more fun and relaxed than bar/club cold approaching BUT I've noticed:
1. there is almost always a gender imbalance; men usually outnumber female attendees 2 to 1, if not more.
2. the single gals at these events are not the hottest, typically maxing out at a '7' with an occasional '8' now and again. Most are just average looking.
3. most of the gals are a bit older, 30+ is the norm.
4. the girls screen very hard: they are often rude, hostile, condescending, or just flat-out insulting to nearly every guy they meet at these events, and they can get away with it.
Why are these average often ugly women, able to get away with such terrible behavior? Why do men put up with it?
Very simply put, it's the sexual marketplace. Men want sex more than women, and are willing to "work" in order to get it. This means going out more, paying, putting up with bad behavior, etc.
Second, women are waiting longer and longer to get married or have "relationships." They'll drag these things out indef. over text message, facebook, or through occasional contacts through these parties.
Third, most guys get nothing out of these parties from what I can tell except a case of blue balls for prolonged periods of time.
---
So, here are some tips for distinguishing yourself.
1. tall guys and good looking guys almost always have an advantage
2. aggressive guys who are less selective are more likely to get laid
3. the 'leader' of these events can have a slight advantage.
4. walk away immediately from insulting, rude girls. You can insult them back, but I think it looks petty.
5. don't assume you will see these girls again. A facebook request is a safe, conservative way of staying in contact, but a personal number is always better.
6. create as many social circles as possible, while still continuing to cold approach. Neither approach is better or worse, just different.
Anyway, just thought I'd put a few tips out there.