Dear Oboman,
Never judge a Woman by what she says,rather watch what she does.....The Dog that is going to attack you rarely warns you of his intent by barking,he just does it,that's how my two divorces went,out of the blue,emotional Pearl Harbours...No this is a cry for attention,give it to her in a cool rational manner,my initial reaction would be "That's a bit extreme isn't it?what did I do this time?leave the top off the toothpaste"so defuse things a bit,use a little humour....A highly intelligent friend of mine had his wife confront him thus over leaving a soggy dish cloth in the sink,he's still with her...The one thing you don't want to do is lay the law down and beat your chest,won't work in 2009,they have to many bvitchy mates to give them advice,too many bolt holes....Sure surrupticiously secrete some brass,see a Solicitor,work out a plan of action should the axe fall,if you have to vacate in a hurry think what you need to grab and where you are going to put it,have a good friend wised up to help you....remember any overt reaction on your part will be seen as an escalation by her,once you start down that road it leads to one place only...In our actions we often initiate in others their anticipated reactions..So consider whether you want her and if you do maybe take her on a holiday,keep her happy,defuse this silly situation,perhaps she has some dumbassed divorcee pals whose life style looks a little alluring,that's often the case,but then again maybe working so hard to put the fruit on the sideboard you have dropped your game a bit,it's not easy is it?
