Theme: Initiating Conversations With Strangers
MotU:
Recruits, congratulations on finishing the first week!
By looking at the many posts to the thread, I can tell that this has been one hell of a power-packed
week for many of you… and this is only the beginning!
Just like in a military boot camp, we’re going to maintain this high intensity atmosphere until we melt
the AFC out of us, and become the DJ that’s just burning to get out.
Purpose of this lesson: So, now that you’ve practiced establishing eye contact, and have got more
comfortable saying Hi to strangers, this week’s lesson takes us into the next phase – starting a
conversation with a stranger!
For many people, this is the second most difficult step, right after dealing with rejections. So if you
persevere through this week, you will have attained an unbelievable skill… one that will serve not only
in meeting women, but in all aspects of your life.
Your mission is to go out and have short conversations (2 – 10 minute each in length) with 10
strangers. You can talk to them about anything, and you can talk to any person whom you have never
spoken to before. You’ll find that it might feel a little awkward in the beginning to talk to strangers for
any length of time… but after the first couple of times you’ll find that it’s actually a wonderful feeling.
You’ll really get a rush out of this.
Also, keep in mind that most people want to meet other people and have conversations with them, but
are just too shy or insecure. So in fact, you will be doing a huge favour to those people whom you
decide to hold a conversation with. Plus, I’ll bet you’ll learn new things from them, and maybe even
make a couple of new friends. And in this phase of the Boot Camp, don’t let yourself feel limited to
speaking to only girls… speak with anyone you want!
In fact, if you’re a bit apprehensive about talking to people, you can start out with those people who
are easier for you to approach. For me, this is senior citizens, since I’ve found that most of them love
talking with anyone who would give them half an ear, and I’ve found them to be very interesting
conversationalists.
After each conversation, write down in your journal what you thought of the conversation, and
approximately the length of the conversation (estimate if you don’t have a watch). Once you complete
this lesson, post your results, plus the topic of your most interesting conversation, and anything else
you wish to share.
You have until this time next week to complete this lesson. Also, make sure you keep on practicing the
skills learned in the first lesson (e.g., you can practice establishing eye contact with someone, saying
Hi, and going into a conversation. However, initial eye contact or a Hi is not a requirement before
initiating a conversation).
Also, a tip that might help you with this lesson, and the next few lessons, is the 3-second rule (You
can find it on ASF). What this means is that when you find someone you might be interested in
approaching, don't give yourself more than 3 seconds from the moment you are able, to approach
them. Anything longer than 3 seconds highly increases the chance that your nerves will work against
you, and that you'll chicken out. Even if you have nothing planned to discuss with them, you'll find that
you'll amazingly have something to say if you can only force your feet to propel you to the person.
Good luck recruits, we are kicking ass!
Here is the original thread including the articles to read:
DJ Boot Camp Week 2
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I'll post a bit later who's doing week 2
One thing though, you have to post your end results every week till Thursday, that means not later than wednesday 24:00, but as we live in different parts of the world, you cannot know when each of us posted, so I'll allow posts till Thursday evening, who doesnt post is out.
MotU:
Recruits, congratulations on finishing the first week!
By looking at the many posts to the thread, I can tell that this has been one hell of a power-packed
week for many of you… and this is only the beginning!
Just like in a military boot camp, we’re going to maintain this high intensity atmosphere until we melt
the AFC out of us, and become the DJ that’s just burning to get out.
Purpose of this lesson: So, now that you’ve practiced establishing eye contact, and have got more
comfortable saying Hi to strangers, this week’s lesson takes us into the next phase – starting a
conversation with a stranger!
For many people, this is the second most difficult step, right after dealing with rejections. So if you
persevere through this week, you will have attained an unbelievable skill… one that will serve not only
in meeting women, but in all aspects of your life.
Your mission is to go out and have short conversations (2 – 10 minute each in length) with 10
strangers. You can talk to them about anything, and you can talk to any person whom you have never
spoken to before. You’ll find that it might feel a little awkward in the beginning to talk to strangers for
any length of time… but after the first couple of times you’ll find that it’s actually a wonderful feeling.
You’ll really get a rush out of this.
Also, keep in mind that most people want to meet other people and have conversations with them, but
are just too shy or insecure. So in fact, you will be doing a huge favour to those people whom you
decide to hold a conversation with. Plus, I’ll bet you’ll learn new things from them, and maybe even
make a couple of new friends. And in this phase of the Boot Camp, don’t let yourself feel limited to
speaking to only girls… speak with anyone you want!
In fact, if you’re a bit apprehensive about talking to people, you can start out with those people who
are easier for you to approach. For me, this is senior citizens, since I’ve found that most of them love
talking with anyone who would give them half an ear, and I’ve found them to be very interesting
conversationalists.
After each conversation, write down in your journal what you thought of the conversation, and
approximately the length of the conversation (estimate if you don’t have a watch). Once you complete
this lesson, post your results, plus the topic of your most interesting conversation, and anything else
you wish to share.
You have until this time next week to complete this lesson. Also, make sure you keep on practicing the
skills learned in the first lesson (e.g., you can practice establishing eye contact with someone, saying
Hi, and going into a conversation. However, initial eye contact or a Hi is not a requirement before
initiating a conversation).
Also, a tip that might help you with this lesson, and the next few lessons, is the 3-second rule (You
can find it on ASF). What this means is that when you find someone you might be interested in
approaching, don't give yourself more than 3 seconds from the moment you are able, to approach
them. Anything longer than 3 seconds highly increases the chance that your nerves will work against
you, and that you'll chicken out. Even if you have nothing planned to discuss with them, you'll find that
you'll amazingly have something to say if you can only force your feet to propel you to the person.
Good luck recruits, we are kicking ass!
Here is the original thread including the articles to read:
DJ Boot Camp Week 2
-----------------------------------------------------------------
I'll post a bit later who's doing week 2
One thing though, you have to post your end results every week till Thursday, that means not later than wednesday 24:00, but as we live in different parts of the world, you cannot know when each of us posted, so I'll allow posts till Thursday evening, who doesnt post is out.
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