Girl flaking

I can't believe I have resorted to coming back to sosuave after not using it for so long, but I am really on the fence about whether or not I screwed myself over.

So I was suppose to have a date with a girl yesterday after she was done work, but then she later asks me if I wanted to go out drinking with the other students in our program, because someone posted a suggestion on facebook for everyone in our program to go out drinking at a bar. I didn't feel like going out with these people because firstly, I already made plans to spend time alone with her and secondly, I hate these stupid social events where everyone is fake and is just going so that they can get into the so called "cool crowd". This is a professional masters program btw. So I tell her I'm not really interested in going to that event, and ask her what she thinks. She says she doesn't mind going.

At this point I got pretty pissed off, and I sent her a text message saying something along the lines of" Well I actually wanted to go out drinking with you alone but if you rather go hang out with the other people in our program, then we can grab drinks at another time"

Her reply back was" I feel so guilty"
I ask her "why do you feel guilty" but get no answer to the question.
Then right afterwards she switches the subject to her work place and how its stressful.
My reply" don't worry about it, I know work has been stressful lately, you can make it up to me"

I then attempt to take longer to reply back to her text messages and only give her really generic responses like the type you would give a co-worker or colleagues. I believe this drove her nuts as she kept on texting me several messages back to back nonstop even though I was only sending her one text message every hour or so. I didn't budge and continued to do this.
She then tells me she has decided she is going home for work, and that apparently she forgot it was suppose to be friday tmr and that she has to work tmr and couldn't have stayed out late anyways. She then asks me if I going out tonight. I tell her I just packed my things and am leaving my apartment to go back to my parents house. She continues to send me text messages about her work and stuff and I continue to give her generic responses.
Eventually she sends me a text saying " is everything ok?"
my reply " ya, why wouldn't it be?, whats wrong?"
She replys" nothing, I'm just used to you texting a lot more, I guess I was reading into it too much"

So later that night I was feeling pretty crappy and depressed so me and my buddy went out for drinks at a bar. Unbeknownst to me, she actually called me while I was out at the bar, but I didn't hear the phone ring. I was actually quite surprised by this. So anyways I call her back. The conversation went something like this, I can't remember clearly exactly what I said because I was really tipsy.

Me: Hey, did you call me earlier today?
Her: Ya, I wanted to ask you about how were suppose to register for our placements. I can't seem to register using my student number.
Me: I'm sorry I can't really hear you, its really loud in here. I'm just out drinking with my buddy right now. I tell her to do something on the system.
Her: Ok thanks, have fun. Bye
Me: Bye

20 minutes later she texts me again, saying she figured it out. She used her wrong student number from another university. Her asking about the school related stuff was clearly an excuse as the system was extremely easy to use, and the fact that she lied about her using her old student number from a university that she attended several years ago confirmed this. Like come on, you don''t suddenly forget your student number that you have been using for several months now and instead use your old student number from another university.

I felt really bad afterwards but I didn't call her nor text her back. I was pretty wasted anyways. I noticed she stopped texting me today. So today my buddy finally convinced me to text her back, so I sent her a text message that says something along the lines of" did you manage to register for the placements before the deadline last night?" I didn't want it to seem like I was wrong or anything so I just sent her that generic text to gauge her response level. So far I have heard nothing back from her. The feeling is kind of killing me. I kind of feel like I ****ed up. Did I make a mistake by not going with her to that stupid social event even though we already had plans to go somewhere else? The last time I was out at one of these things I could barely talk to her as it was so loud and noisy. I'm kind of worried about her, like maybe I could have made her cry or even commit suicide.

So experienced DJ's what should I do? Should I text her back right now and ask her how she is doing or should I continue to ignore her until she starts texting or calling me back?

update: well it looks like she cracked first, I just received four long text messages regarding my earlier texts. What should I be now? continue to ignore her or text her and pretend like nothing happened?

I have no idea why you are texting her at all honestly. This ṣhit ain't goin anywhere! Text her to ask her out only, and stay radio silent until you see her in person. Your texts are doing nothing, you are both just looking for attention. You're both just ping-ponging text messaging nonsense.

Don't text her for a week. Stay busy, then text her once that you've been crazy busy and that you should meet up. Gauge her response. It's either a yes or a no, that's it. Be pragmatic and expeditious. Move on if she refuses, unless you wanna be her girlfriend with a penis.

My hunch is that she's not too interested and just wants attention.

She's obviously interested in you and wants to go out with you. Just ask her out. Stop the mind games. She'll eventually get tired of it, get bored of you and move on to another guy. Just ask her out again and don't jump her head off if she flakes.

VladPatton said:

I have no idea why you are texting her at all honestly. This ṣhit ain't goin anywhere! Text her to ask her out only, and stay radio silent until you see her in person. Your texts are doing nothing, you are both just looking for attention. You're both just ping-ponging text messaging nonsense.

Don't text her for a week. Stay busy, then text her once that you've been crazy busy and that you should meet up. Gauge her response. It's either a yes or a no, that's it. Be pragmatic and expeditious. Move on if she refuses, unless you wanna be her girlfriend with a penis.

My hunch is that she's not too interested and just wants attention.

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I actually didn't even consider dating her until about a week ago, when my friend suggested it. We're classmates and haven't really been texting much up until the last few weeks. Most of my encounters with her have been in person. She has called me an ass on a few occasions, said that I was mean to her, and once in a while shoulder bumps me so I'm pretty sure she is interested. I have noticed tension building up as the weeks go by which was why I eventually caved and decided to ask her out.

Why Did You Engage in a Marathon Text Session?

thunder_god said:

Did I make a mistake by not going with her to that stupid social event even though we already had plans to go somewhere else?

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This was a sh*t test and you passed. She wanted to see if you were going to allow her to change the frame and cede control of the relationship over to her. If you would have agreed to this she would have threw you another sh*t test and if you would have failed she would slowly started to lose respect for you. Also, using the Celebrity Scenario, suppose she had a date with Gene Simmons and she tried that sh*t on him, do you think that Simmons would have went to this social event. Homegirl didn't want to be alone with you.

thunder_god said:

The last time I was out at one of these things I could barely talk to her as it was so loud and noisy. I'm kind of worried about her, like maybe I could have made her cry or even commit suicide.

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1) Why are you messing with suicidal hoes?

2) Why would you care if she killed herself?

thunder_god said:

update: well it looks like she cracked first, I just received four long text messages regarding my earlier texts. What should I be now? continue to ignore her or text her and pretend like nothing happened?

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Call her, as in SPEAKING TO HER, invite her to Stone Cold for later today.
The conversation so go as following:

Thor: Yo! What's up?

Flakey Chick: Nothing much. How about you?

Thor: I'm cool. You were out of line the other day.

Flakey Chick: Out of line about what?

Thor: Don't act like you don't know.

Flakey Chick: Seriously I don't.

Thor: Damn girl, you're on slow motion, (or some or line that questions her intelligence.) You're out of line about trying to change our date to group social event.

Here is the Rubicon and you'll see if she's willing to cross it. The word, "date has a romantic connotation to it and if she was unsure about your feelings towards her, you've just made them clear. If when you ask her out and she doesn't accept, she's not f*cking with you, if she does an invitation to a date, then you might have a shot, assuming that you act accordingly on the date.

Flakey Chick: Oh, well I didn't know it was a date.

Thor: You're cute, but not cute enough to get away with that. Playing dumb isn't one of your greater attributes. Anyway....I'm going to Stone Cold (our whatever destination,) come with me.

If she accepts, cool. If not next that b*tch. She's playing too many f*cking games.

Thanks for the great reply guys. Should I contact her to ask her out again and if so how long before I do that, or should I make her do the work and come after me?

BTW she kept on texting me last night asking about what I was doing the night before, like where I went, who I spoke to,etc. She was acting like a total jealous girlfriend, and I called her out on it but she wouldn't admit anything so I cut the conversation short and told her I had to go.

thunder_god said:

Thanks for the great reply guys. Should I contact her to ask her out again and if so how long before I do that, or should I make her do the work and come after me?

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Neither. You find mo' betta b*ches and focus in on important things in life.

thunder_god said:

BTW she kept on texting me last night asking about what I was doing the night before, like where I went, who I spoke to,etc. She was acting like a total jealous girlfriend, and I called her out on it but she wouldn't admit anything so I cut the conversation short and told her I had to go.

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Look, the next she contacts you, you tell her unless she's willing to meet you for date there's no reason for her to contact you and if she flakes on the rescheduled date, from that moment forward she's to act as if you never existed because that's how you're going to treat her.

I just received two text messages from her that seemed like she was angry. I didn't reply back. I think I'm gonna text her tomorrow and ask if she's free to talk on the phone and then I'm gonna ask her out again.

Interesting. It seems she is reaching the panic point where she has realized that her hooks on you aren't working. She's panicking as to why you haven't fallen under her spell like most other men do. She will say she hates you but deep down, she will have you reserved in a new romantic spot as the one who she couldn't control or the "one who got away".

Tread lightly and if you must text her tomorrow, act like nothing happened or you didn't even hear her outbursts. Be cool, calm, collected and treat her like a little child. Don't succumb to her outbursts or you will lose.

Holy**** I feel like a complete ass. So I called her today but she didn't pick up. Later in the day, I get a text from her saying " did you pocket dial" I was like wtf, really more ****ing games. So she then calls me, and she sounds really upset like she was crying her eyes out or something. She said she was sick (obviously a lie) She told me she went out with her friends and got wasted and stuff. It was a very awkward conversation, I tried to throw a joke in there but man did it seem strange. I never did this **** to a girl before but **** that was a ****ed up feeling inside. When I asked her how she was, she tried to brush it off that she just woke up, like really who wakes up in the middle of the afternoon? I ask her out and she is like ya, but I didn't want to seem to eager so I said one or two days that I am available. She didn't want to commit to anything so I was like ok fine, when you figure it out you give me a call then and just said goodbye.

Man that was ****ed up. I feel like **** inside but at the same time, if she hadn't pulled that stunt a few days ago, none of this **** would have happened.

Ain't Nare a Nigga Got a Heart Like Hitler, But You Got To Pimp Accordingly

Question, so what you're saying is that you feel bad about not playing along in her little hoe games? Really dude? You have to pimp accordingly or these hoes will take advantage of you. F@ck this b@tch and her emotional outbursts, both literally and figuratively.

Tell This B*tch to Give You Some P*ssy

Thor, listen man, you need to stop being so soft hearted and quit being a rest haven for hoes. Are you familiar with heroin addiction? Well if you aren't, as somebody who's seen a person go through withdrawals, I can tell that you that sh*t ain't nothing nice. When a person becomes a fiend, his only focus in life is to have enough money so he can cop in the morning in an effort to to stave off the symptoms of withdrawals. The same holds true with females, these b*tches need attention like junkies need "hairron." Whether the attention is positive or negative, it's a source of mental sustenance for them.

You, my friend are acting as this b*tch's attention fix and you to stop this sh*t IMMEDIATELY! So what you need to do is the next time baby girl contacts you tell her to call you. If she's like, "Why?" You tell her that you need to speak to her. If she persists with the bullsh*t, you proceed to hang up on her, download, Mr. Number," or some other number blocking app, and add her number to it, after that you delete her from your social media thingys.

If she calls you, you tell his this, VERBATIM. "Look, you're a cool chick and all, but you're doing some things that are just straight up disrespectful and it's causing me to see you in a negative light." She's going to play dumb and ask you what you're talking about. You respond with, "What you did the other day is flakey and disrespectful behavior on your part. I made plans to kick it with you, but inexplicably tried to change a date to group outing. Also you're over here acting like your my girl (when you're obviously not), and you have nerve enough to get b*tchy about sh*t." Of course she's going to argue to the contrary. Then you hit her with that Fleece Johnson line, "I like you and I want you. Now we can either do this the easy or the hard way. Right now you're choosing the hard way and I have to seriously consider it if's worth my time to even f*ck with you because you're being needlessly difficult. Any chick that I f*ck with gives me 100% cooperation because they know I'm a fun and cool guy to be with, but you're over here playing games and giving me problems." Of course she still be with her b.s. and you'll ask her explain to you why y'all haven't gone out yet. After that little exchange she'll either tell you that she isn't feeling you like that or she'll give you some bullsh*t reason as to why y'all haven't gone out.

Here's where you stop b*tchin' out and you reach for the mack within. You tell her that you're coming to pick her up right then and there. If she hems and haws, give a counter date, if she still doesn't accept, tell her to have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, you hung up and add her number to a call blockin' app. If she accepts, then you get bold and ice cold with the pimpin', and you tell her, "Cool, by the way, before we go out, you're going to give me some p*ssy." She's going to be taken aback by such a forward and bold approach or she might be offended that you think she's a slut, but this does these things.

1) Eliminate this flakey b*tch from your life.

2) Establishes the parameters in which the relationship will proceed.

3) If she gives you some, it probably be some booty movie sex.

When you tell her to give you some a$$, as I said before, she's gonna be like "What?" Then say, "Don't play dumb because I know you heard me, but if you didn't let me repeat for your deaf a$$. Before-we-go-out-you're-going-to-give-me-some-p*ssy. Now that I think about it, I'm also going to f*ck you like an animal." Then you move in to kiss and undress her, if she resists. You'll give the appearance of capitulation, when she gets cozy, you ask for her phone, go to your name and delete it from her contacts, get up, and leave to go home.

Yo, me is gonna stick my man stick in yo mutha fvcking hoe hole. Yo Yo GD king, bloods, snoop dawg, I got 45 inch rims on my dodge mini van.

I pop a cap in yo ass, muda fooka

Maximus Rex said:

Question, so what you're saying is that you feel bad about not playing along in her little hoe games? Really dude? You have to pimp accordingly or these hoes will take advantage of you. F@ck this b@tch and her emotional outbursts, both literally and figuratively.

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Yo Rex, I should have listened to you man. This chick has been playing games after games. I'm getting to the point where I'm ready to next this girl. I was ignoring her text and stuff and she starts getting all angry. I call her, she don't pick up, so I'm like screw her then. Next she calls me and I ignore her phone call cause I was pissed at the disrespect she was showing me. She starts texting me saying I'm not picking up, and that I suck and that she hates me. So then she finally calls me again, so I pretend to make an excuse up as to why I didn't pick up the phone. Sounds like the girl was crying or something earlier and she says she hates me blah blah blah. I think I let her anger and crying get to me. Anyways I ask her out, and then she is like I don't date guys in my program, etc. 5-10 minutes later, this girl is telling me how she wants to make out with me and how she finds me cute and **** then tells me I can't hold her accountable for it because she is drunk. I'm like on the phone going wtf in my head. What kind of a ****ed up game is this, first they say they don't wanna go on a date with you then next they say they wanna be making out with you.

Today she acts like nothing happened and stuff saying she was under the influence of alcohol. Next time she contacts me, I'm telling her straight up, either we are going out on a date or she is to never contact me again, unless its about school stuff. I think this experience has taught me to grow thicker skin and not fall for all those BS from women even if she's crying. I can't believe I even let it get this out of hand, I wasn't even initially interested in this girl, I actually had my eyes set on another girl that right now seems like a way better catch. I can't believe I let this girl get into my head and make me stop doing things I need to be doing such as studying, working out, and setting goals in life that I was doing 2-3 weeks ago.

Leave that Punk Ass B*tch the F*ck Alone

thunder_god said:

Yo Rex, I should have listened to you man.

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Well, listen to me now. Leave this b*tch the f*cked alone. Her moods vacillate too f*cking much. One minute she's talking about how she doesn't mess with her classmates and the next she's talking about how she wants to suck and f*ck you. In addition, you mentioned that she's always crying and she's a drunkard. Bad news my nigga. If you keep f*cking with this broad she's going to have your a$$ caught up, best believe me.

This is the type of broad that if you f*ck her, she'll wake up in the morning with "hoe's regret," she'll get to talking to her friends, then she'll come to the conclusion that you "raped," her. I'm telling you dude, for the sake of your future and freedom, LEAVE THIS B*TCH THE F*CK ALONE! Delete her from FB, Twitter, Instagram, your phone, put her on a call blocking app, and when you see her in school, when you talk to her, make sure there's a least two other people around, one of which being a male.

By all means I am no expert...but the minute she asked you if you wanted to go out with her college friends I would have said no thanks and just gone cold on her with all the texting back and forth and telling how you were planning on being alone with her blablabla. Then, the next day or two when she asked what you did that night....I tell her you were out and had a great time and did not get back till three am.
That's it....none of this texting bs... Text to make dates and plans...not all this other bs stuff. F her...she could have told her college friends she could not go out for drinks cause she had a date with you. Instead she almost suckered you into cancelling and going out with her little friends.
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