Lotus Effect
Master Don Juan
Hey guys!
I just want to tell one thing I've learned in the past few days for myself.
We are all preaching about how b*tchy our Exs are for treating us like sh*t, for dumping us, for feeling good about themselfs when we break NC and chase them so that they can easily move on from us. And I agree with this 100%.
However, aren't we all trying to do the same? Remaining NC, so they could eventually chase us, them we will feel good about ourselfs and move on from those hos?
I'm not trying to pick sides here, because I'm well aware of which side I am. I'm sad, I'm angry, I want everything to be back as before and I miss her. But this sh*t ain't happenin (at least if you [and me] have a little bit of self-respect). But my point here is one. We are being selfish as well. And I'm not saying we should not be. Or that we are better than them. What I'm saying is:
We are all trying to get a good ego stroke. We just want to feel good about ourselfs knowing that b*tch that broke our hearts are crawling in the mud for us.
THIS SH*T IS WRONG!
As I've stated previously. F**K her and f**k her ego. But most specially, F*CK YOUR EGO AS WELL. I know how much it hurts. I haven't done anything this year besides thinking about her. SHE DUMPED IN MAY. The relationship was sh*tty way before may. We are in november. The year is gone, and I've done nothing besides crying and plotting. But not anymore.
I will repeat it. F*CK YOUR EGO!!
There is nothing to be done. Stop being selfish. It's over. There is nothing to be done about the "relationship". That sh*t is dead. The only thing to be done is to MAN THE F**K UP and let her go. Anyway, she had already let you go LONG ago. She didn't dumped you the day she dumped you. You have gone ghost to her way before that. Way before.
So just let it be. Take the blow as a man. And as a MAN, live with your regrets to yourself. F*CK closure. Closure is just another word for being a f*cking p*ssy. It is the biggest sign of insecurity. Walk away. Never look back.
You may read this and think, "Yeah, but my situation is different. My girl is special/I haven't chased/She's my soulmate/We have kids/I like noodles/We can work things out" STOP IT!! Your situation is not different. I'm in here for something around a month and I got 100+ posts. Go read some of them. I was a f**king p*ssy.
And I haven't chased her, but then I chased, then I played cool, then I opened up. Only to push her far far away from me. And do you know what chasing her made me? A bigger p*ssy. This girl have no respect for me whatsoever anymore. But that's is good. It made me see things from a clearer view. If I kept worrying about her, she would have the upper hand indeed, since I sent her a 3 pages long email for "closure", in which she replied with a two lines message 20 days later...
...The words that she said were only directed to hurt me. But the words were meaningless. The important thing was the message she conveyed. What message she conveyed you ask? That she does not give a F*ck about me... So, if she does not give a F*ck about me, why should I give a f*ck about her?? If she texts me again. F*ck it. Not interested. If she does not text me again. Better, really not interested.
What you guys are failing to see that they do not mean you any well, otherwise she wouldn't dump/cheat/leave you, and be indifferent about it. OPEN YOUR F**KING EYES
Bottomline:
There is no hand!!
They do not have an upper hand. Nor we. It's over. There are no more cards to be played. The game is over. Nobody is playing sh*t.
F*CK YOUR EGO. Just deal with it.
Dealing with it will make you a better and stronger man than having a useless b*tch crawling for you.
Wake and Man the F**k up guys.
Peace!
I just want to tell one thing I've learned in the past few days for myself.
We are all preaching about how b*tchy our Exs are for treating us like sh*t, for dumping us, for feeling good about themselfs when we break NC and chase them so that they can easily move on from us. And I agree with this 100%.
However, aren't we all trying to do the same? Remaining NC, so they could eventually chase us, them we will feel good about ourselfs and move on from those hos?
I'm not trying to pick sides here, because I'm well aware of which side I am. I'm sad, I'm angry, I want everything to be back as before and I miss her. But this sh*t ain't happenin (at least if you [and me] have a little bit of self-respect). But my point here is one. We are being selfish as well. And I'm not saying we should not be. Or that we are better than them. What I'm saying is:
We are all trying to get a good ego stroke. We just want to feel good about ourselfs knowing that b*tch that broke our hearts are crawling in the mud for us.
THIS SH*T IS WRONG!
As I've stated previously. F**K her and f**k her ego. But most specially, F*CK YOUR EGO AS WELL. I know how much it hurts. I haven't done anything this year besides thinking about her. SHE DUMPED IN MAY. The relationship was sh*tty way before may. We are in november. The year is gone, and I've done nothing besides crying and plotting. But not anymore.
I will repeat it. F*CK YOUR EGO!!
There is nothing to be done. Stop being selfish. It's over. There is nothing to be done about the "relationship". That sh*t is dead. The only thing to be done is to MAN THE F**K UP and let her go. Anyway, she had already let you go LONG ago. She didn't dumped you the day she dumped you. You have gone ghost to her way before that. Way before.
So just let it be. Take the blow as a man. And as a MAN, live with your regrets to yourself. F*CK closure. Closure is just another word for being a f*cking p*ssy. It is the biggest sign of insecurity. Walk away. Never look back.
You may read this and think, "Yeah, but my situation is different. My girl is special/I haven't chased/She's my soulmate/We have kids/I like noodles/We can work things out" STOP IT!! Your situation is not different. I'm in here for something around a month and I got 100+ posts. Go read some of them. I was a f**king p*ssy.
And I haven't chased her, but then I chased, then I played cool, then I opened up. Only to push her far far away from me. And do you know what chasing her made me? A bigger p*ssy. This girl have no respect for me whatsoever anymore. But that's is good. It made me see things from a clearer view. If I kept worrying about her, she would have the upper hand indeed, since I sent her a 3 pages long email for "closure", in which she replied with a two lines message 20 days later...
...The words that she said were only directed to hurt me. But the words were meaningless. The important thing was the message she conveyed. What message she conveyed you ask? That she does not give a F*ck about me... So, if she does not give a F*ck about me, why should I give a f*ck about her?? If she texts me again. F*ck it. Not interested. If she does not text me again. Better, really not interested.
What you guys are failing to see that they do not mean you any well, otherwise she wouldn't dump/cheat/leave you, and be indifferent about it. OPEN YOUR F**KING EYES
Bottomline:
There is no hand!!
They do not have an upper hand. Nor we. It's over. There are no more cards to be played. The game is over. Nobody is playing sh*t.
F*CK YOUR EGO. Just deal with it.
Dealing with it will make you a better and stronger man than having a useless b*tch crawling for you.
Wake and Man the F**k up guys.
Peace!
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