I'm not sure how many people on here have dated or are currently dating interracially, but I thought this is an important topic worth bringing up. I'm sure most of you heard about the Michael Richards racist rant and are aware that in the past week or so, CNN has been doing a series of specials on racism in America to help heal the wounds and promote dialogue. I have enough experience, being in America now for over 10 years, to know that racism is still alive and a big problem in this country, especially when it comes to interracial dating. Most of all, interracial dating between black men and white women continues to attract much scorn and remains a heated topic of controversy. During my senior year as an undergraduate student, I made a move on a white woman at my university. She told me she had a boyfriend but claimed to be interested in keeping in touch, so she gave me her email. When I emailed her, I got a reply supposedly from her boyfriend saying:
"So apart from hitting on my girlfriend, she tells me that you are a N-----?"
Those hateful words pricked at me very sharply, but I chose not to reply to his email and give him what he wanted. I had a suspect in mind, a wimpy looking, skinny white dude who I used to see walking with that woman from time to time. Since that email, I never said a word to that woman ever again when I saw her.
Not much has changed since then. I'm tired of continually getting hateful stares from some white men when they see me walking with or sitting down on a train talking to a good-looking white woman. They seem to expect me to hook up with the women they don't want, the ones they consider to be obese and unattractive in different ways. It seems to me that for the most part, many white parents in this country (and I'm not saying all) would rather have their daughters date, mate with and marry any other ethnicity of men but black. Nothing seems to piss racists off more than the possibility that an attractive white woman may end up giving a guy like me her phone number.
And at my school, a private, Catholic University, most of the white female students are either extremely scared of black men, have negative impressions of them, or don't consider them their equals. Most just won't even look at you in the eye when you walk past them in hallways, although I don't walk around seeking their attention. It is primarily for that reason that I prefer to avoid making moves on white women at my university as much as possible. Someone told me that most White Catholics have racist impressions of blacks and tend to transfer them to their children. Is anyone on here familiar with this?
It's a sad, shameful and unfortunate reality of American life for the black man.
"So apart from hitting on my girlfriend, she tells me that you are a N-----?"
Those hateful words pricked at me very sharply, but I chose not to reply to his email and give him what he wanted. I had a suspect in mind, a wimpy looking, skinny white dude who I used to see walking with that woman from time to time. Since that email, I never said a word to that woman ever again when I saw her.
Not much has changed since then. I'm tired of continually getting hateful stares from some white men when they see me walking with or sitting down on a train talking to a good-looking white woman. They seem to expect me to hook up with the women they don't want, the ones they consider to be obese and unattractive in different ways. It seems to me that for the most part, many white parents in this country (and I'm not saying all) would rather have their daughters date, mate with and marry any other ethnicity of men but black. Nothing seems to piss racists off more than the possibility that an attractive white woman may end up giving a guy like me her phone number.
And at my school, a private, Catholic University, most of the white female students are either extremely scared of black men, have negative impressions of them, or don't consider them their equals. Most just won't even look at you in the eye when you walk past them in hallways, although I don't walk around seeking their attention. It is primarily for that reason that I prefer to avoid making moves on white women at my university as much as possible. Someone told me that most White Catholics have racist impressions of blacks and tend to transfer them to their children. Is anyone on here familiar with this?
It's a sad, shameful and unfortunate reality of American life for the black man.
