Friend talking/appologizing after 3 months of ice

So basically a friend of mine of a couple years started flaking out constantly with me 4 months ago, likely due to her boyfriend. I was only in town for a few months (I go to university about 4 hours away now) and she and I both made plans several times to get together but she flaked every time. Usually it wouldn't take me this long but since she was a semi-long friend (we weren't THAT good of friends though) I literally told her "have a nice life".

Anyways 3 months later after absolutely 0 contact I get this on msn:

her: hey
me: hi
her: r u done hatin me yet
me: depends if ur appologizing
her: maybe
me: ummm k
her: i'm just kidding i'm sorry
me: for
her: being a ***** to u
me: haha alright appology accepted
me: i guess i may have overreacted too
her: haha k cool thx..i'll make it up to u
her: we can go golfin in the middle of winter if u want
me: haha alright sounds good, will probably have no wait for a tee time
her: haha ya no soubt
her: *doubt
her: when u comin up again
me: ummm i dunno since my dad lives in **another town about 2 hours away** now
her: ya that sucks..
her: i mite be comin up the last weekend in oct
her: if i do we should meet up or somethin
her: i u want..
her: *if
me: ya maybe if ur lucky
her: but i gota go so if u wana gimie a text or somethin
her: cya



to be honest I didn't really expect this and I was actually a little drunk at the time otherwise I probably would've given her a harder time and busted her a bit more. But basically I'm thinkin of tellin her she should take me out to dinner, but make sure it's somewhere classy etc. etc. and then seein how the night goes and possibly makin a move since she's only down for a while. I don't really want/think a relationship is possible but she's definitely a 9-9.5 worth a ONS. And I can pretty much gather from all this that she is single now.

Anywho, any thoughts?

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act as a challenge.. .. dont become aloof but act hard to get. perfect oopturnity..give her the chance of "WANT WHAT I CANT HAVE"

then she will try harder for u

tell her she is still on your sh1t list and that it is going to take a lot of effort on her part to get off the list!

put her in the state of mind that she has to work for you- you are the prize.

Alright thanks, any more advice?

bump

noone?

Here's what I just sent her in a text message (didn't want to call long distance):

"Hey when you comin down? I'm thinkin if you take me out to dinner I might consider being friends with you again haha. Just make sure it's somewhere classy."


What do you guys think?

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backbreaker said:

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what about it?

ebey11 said:

what about it?

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read it

sexy_kuta said:

act as a challenge.. .. dont become aloof but act hard to get. perfect oopturnity..give her the chance of "WANT WHAT I CANT HAVE"

then she will try harder for u

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this is the only advice u should look into considering and if u dont understand my advice thne i would readvise the dj bible.. read it and understand th concept. u cant just expect us to give u an advie and force u to understand it. u have to apply it yourself and if you hare having trouble understanding it at least make an effort urself and read the bible. we will then help you guide through it and make sure u are on the right step

lol I have read it and understood it. What am i doing wrong?

ebey11 said:

lol I have read it and understood it. What am i doing wrong?

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you are not applying your knowleadge.. what have you learn from the bible?

use what u have learned, trust me dude.. asking here for advice may get u a step forward but how about the steps after that? how about actually gettin the girl in bed? how about 2 years down the road? we cant be here for you..

im being honest, not tryin to sound like a azzhole, i rather see you suceed on your own... show me u can then i will help u

u need to become a challenge.. make her work for u, dont let her win u that easily then she will take u for granted and use u then dump u because of lack of interest.. to keep that interest maintainced.. u have keep her on her toes and u can do that by acting as a challenge,

now read the bible under attraction for a few days and apply the knowleadge u gained from reading it.. if u have any questions about it then post it on here i will be more than happy to answer it for u same with the fellow djs

sexy_kuta said:

you are not applying your knowleadge.. what have you learn from the bible?

use what u have learned, trust me dude.. asking here for advice may get u a step forward but how about the steps after that? how about actually gettin the girl in bed? how about 2 years down the road? we cant be here for you..

im being honest, not tryin to sound like a azzhole, i rather see you suceed on your own... show me u can then i will help u

u need to become a challenge.. make her work for u, dont let her win u that easily then she will take u for granted and use u then dump u because of lack of interest.. to keep that interest maintainced.. u have keep her on her toes and u can do that by acting as a challenge,

now read the bible under attraction for a few days and apply the knowleadge u gained from reading it.. if u have any questions about it then post it on here i will be more than happy to answer it for u same with the fellow djs

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Ok I've read and practiced all the stuff in the bible many times before with success. Can you please tell me how this:

"Hey when you comin down? I'm thinkin if you take me out to dinner I might consider being friends with you again haha. Just make sure it's somewhere classy."

isn't acting like a challenge and making her work for me? Please just answer that 1 question.

ebey11 said:

Ok I've read and practiced all the stuff in the bible many times before with success. Can you please tell me how this:

"Hey when you comin down? I'm thinkin if you take me out to dinner I might consider being friends with you again haha. Just make sure it's somewhere classy."

isn't acting like a challenge and making her work for me? Please just answer that 1 question.

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no. YOU sent her that message, TElling her to take YOu out for dinner, and "consider being friends" after she takes u out for dinner? whoa apply ur breaks dude.. "make sure its somewhere classy" u dont say that to the girl.. its just a big no.

acting a challenge is making HEr work for U. she came back to u right? shes the one contacted U right? so let her chase u

she will phone you. and if she wants to see u again she will ask u out for dinner, thats all, and dont always be there for her..

50/50 rule, only accept half her invites..

now that i answered your question please answer mine..

why would you text a girl who fuked with u, flaked 4 times for HER BOYFRIEND .. after u cut her.. why would u text her? wat u forgive her that easily? might as well give her the key to ur heart! never let a girl slip that easily, DOESNT matter how good she suks or how big she can make them puppie eyes. DOnt let her slip that easiler. make her PUT The effort in you and if she doesnt then its clearly to see why the fuk shes around

This might sound weird, but if things don't shape up with a girl, I usually wait about two months with no contact, and then get in touch again. Sometimes it has surprising results!

One girl, who I found out later had a long term live-in bf the entire time, rejected me the first time I tried, but 3 months later went on 6 dates with me.

Another girl totally ignored me, but since she was so hot I gave her another chance 3 months later. I played my cards so well, I ended up being invited up to her apartment. Turned out she had just been dumped by her girlfriend... good timing! Not that I did anything with her (too stubbornly a coward). But still!

Another time, I went on a few dates with a girl, but she started being bogus and ignoring me (again because I was too stubbornly chicken to make a move on her, but still). After a year, she apologized and we went on three boring ass dates.

There's a saying, Work hard but give the universe room to work too. Sometimes for various reasons a thang can't happen at one moment. Wait a bit, play your hand again, and, amazingly, sometimes it works out. Women appreciate your persistance and patience. They also learned that when they don't cooperate you leave. An important lesson for every woman!!!

Go for this chick, but obviously, be a bit more cautious than usual. Not much, just a bit. Sometimes the first time isn't the right time.

#1 I changed my phone # - she doesn't know it yet. If I don't make any contact she'll never even have a chance to see me.
#2 How is telling a girl that the only way she MAY be out of the doghouse is if she takes YOU out to dinner chasing her? How am I chasing her if I haven't talked to her in 3 months?
#3 I'm not forgiving her at all yet, nevermind forgiving her easily
#4 I won't contact her again after this. Eventually she'll contact me again and it will be on

ebey11 said:

#1 I changed my phone # - she doesn't know it yet. If I don't
make any contact she'll never even have a chance to see me.
#2 How is telling a girl that the only way she MAY be out of the doghouse is if she takes YOU out to dinner chasing her? How am I chasing her if I haven't talked to her in 3 months?
#3 I'm not forgiving her at all yet, nevermind forgiving her easily
#4 I won't contact her again after this. Eventually she'll contact me again and it will be on

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#1 you never stated that..
should have texted her with a inside joke then let her work from there

#2: you told her to take u out for dinner didnt u? and u even gave it easy for her by saying u might consider being friends after dinner. when she disrespected u for another guy

#3, good i like that additude.. keep that mind set ebcause you are the prize.
#4: now you are applying your knowleadge, but please im curious.. i just wanna see where u are.. explain to me in your own words on why would u let her contact u then u will work from there.. and why wont u forgive her at all just yet?..

ebey11 said:

Here's what I just sent her in a text message (didn't want to call long distance):

"Hey when you comin down? I'm thinkin if you take me out to dinner I might consider being friends with you again haha. Just make sure it's somewhere classy."


What do you guys think?

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:crackup:

Dude, I know you're trying to seem ****y and funny, and to challenge her and all. But you sound like an idiot. Tone that corny crap down 24 notches.

C/F and challenging should be used sparingly, IF EVER at first!! I was once like you, every statement was a challenge or an arrogant "joke" - it was not funny, it was not ****y, it was not a challenge. It was annoying.

I know you don't know quite what this means yet, but I'll say it anyway. Be yourself.

Fortunately, what counts is effort and experience - keep at it.

Izza