should i tell her im a virgin?

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yeah so ive been out with this girl a couple of times and now she wants to have sex this weekend. now the thing is im a virgin, never even been to third base, and she definitely has some experience(im not sure id say she's slutty, but she's definitely been with a few guys). let me make it clear that this is definitely not an ltr, although it just might turn into one. my friend told me the first time is always awkward and not good, so should i tell her im a virgin so she doesnt just think i suck? vote and then tell me why

mods dont fvckin tell me to do a search and close my thread, ive already searched, i wanna know what people think about this particular situation

fake it until you lose it

Fake it dude! Retarded people have children, so sex isn't like brain science or anything. Anybody can do it, RELAX!

ive learned the hard way that its better to wait until after sex. or even dont tell them at all.

a fair enough portion of women have hangups about a guys sexual experience as well as their AGE... and i dont blame 'em. from what ive seen and learned, through my mistakes and those of others, is that the more experienced you are, the better. they want you to be the James Bond, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Vin Diesel... guys who've been through some tough times, whooped a couple asses, have a dangerous edge about them, and have made love to many great women.

from what ive seen, its the "natural order of things" that drives them to want such dominant, protective, experienced men.

MAYBE if you are in an exclusive relationship with a RARE girl whos a virgin too... you can tell her without ruining it.

but the vast majority of women sort of look down on virgin men. like they feel sorry for them. as if they are not men yet.

girls will tell you how great and wonderful and impressive it is that you are saving it for someone special or some bull**** like that... but later that night, theyre getting railed by the stud whos already had 3 different girls that week.

my advice to you:
play it cool.

get together with her and have the time of your life. DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT THE SEX. DONT PLAN ON HAVING SEX THAT NIGHT. just let go and enjoy the moment. enjoy her company.

ONLY IF ITS ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE, would i say its your first time. maybe she'll be understanding. but if you tell her up front youre a virgin, imo it gives her the upper hand and makes you look less like someone who can dominate her.

if things get intimate, youre probably going to feel a different kind of turn on. e.g. different than when you masturbate. thats your instincts start to kick in. just go with the flow and follow your gut. i was nervous for a long time... but suprised how great my first time was. it wasnt really awkward at all. even if it is, its no big deal.

if youve watched a lot of realistic porn, sex isnt much different.

- men get turned on like a light switch. on/off. women takes off clothes, pulls down your pants, puts your c0ck in her mouth and BAM. youre ready for intercourse.

- women get turned on more like a dial. many degrees between on and off. the little, sensual things like running your hands through her hair, brushing it to the side, running your hands slowly against her cheeks, all while gazing deep into her eyes, then giving her a passionate kiss. each small intimate action like that clicks it up a degree or two. soft kisses up and down her body. slowly kissing/nibbling the skin as you remove her clothes. stuff like that. after that kind of foreplay, then you can move on to fingering her and such.

just let nature take its course. try to ENJOY THE PLEASURE, rather than think about what to do next. the guys who get all intellectual about it and over-analyze the situation, are the ones who have terrible first times.


good luck.

-SLB

FVCK NO!!!

Ok, this is probly a bad analogy, but let's say you want to get the plumbing fixed in your house.

The guy walks in, he's got all the tools already but before he starts he tells you that he's never fixed a pipe before. First thought in your mind is "Oh no, I hired someone incompetent to get the job done... will he actually get the job done?!"

The same thought goes through the chicks head.

You're on this site so obviously you aren't happy with the way things are. If what you want is booty, then go ahead and get some from this chick - she's obviously interested, and after you finish up then you won't have this "virgin complex" anymore... However, I wouldn't tell her you're one unless you want to stay one - and since you're asking whether you should mention it or not it would seem like you don't want to keep your V-Card... not that I blame you.

Get yourself some booty and only mention it after, if ever. If nothing else she'll feel a responsibility to teach you the ropes since she can't undo what's been done... if you tell her beforehand she'll likely think "no way" and steer clear of you - girls don't view guy virgins the same way that guys see girl virgins.

You can always try using nonverbal communication. For example, premature ejaculation is a subtle way to tell a lady that you have no experience.

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You can always try using nonverbal communication. For example, premature ejaculation is a subtle way to tell a lady that you have no experience.

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Just letting you know you owe me a new keyboard for that; I spit out my drink when I read it.

I wouldn't say anything, there's no need. Who do you think gets more respect in a womans eyes, a guy who has never had sex, or one that has, but might not be the best lay in the world? You can always improve on "technique." Don't ruin her impression of you by telling her this, just concentrate on having a good time and as others have said let nature take it's course. When I first kissed and groped a girl I was on autopilot, and she got horny as hell (lets say she had also been around the block a few times). Be passionate about it.

Dilemna

I would tell her plain and simple a lot of girls especially slutty ones love to strip a man of his virginity just like dudes but before I did it I would tease her to get her panties wet and her wanting to f. U and I would also read things on this website about foreplay where to kiss touch etc... I would then wait a couple of days after playing with her and then bang her and since your a virgin she'll be like wow for a virgin that sure was good and you'll be like yeah now get out

If she asks, You can say it, just don't make it a big deal.

She'll like that you're a virgin, because that means you don't have Chlamydia, and she'll know that. That shyt is EVERYWHERE.

If she asks, don't lie to her, go ahead and tell her--but DO NOT volunteer the information without initation from her, and my guess is that she won't ask about it.

Don't tell her you're a virgin..as in DO NOT. "Fake it till you make it" like they always say.

Which scenario do you think is better bro?

A. She thinks sex with you is going to be a total letdown in advance and changes her mind...which means you walk away still a virgin and not getting any.

or

B. She finds out sex with you sucks after you're "gone in 60 seconds" (probably less than that) but thinks to herself "maybe he just hasn't gotten any in a while" and hopes next time will be better.... even though it won't be till you build up tolerance for snatch... but you keep giving her bullsh!t cover ups like..."I only thought you wanted a quickie" ... "I can't help it you're just so hot" and ... "I'm sorry you just feel so much better than the last girl I was with" until she finally figures it out and it's too late.


I'd go with B ...cause that's exactly what I did with when I was 17. She never even found out I lost my virginity to her since I didn't have anything official with her. She was also pretty stupid too.


Here's some things you can try to do in order to enhance your cover up:

Try to catch some head from her first, that way you may end up busting in her mouth if she's good enough...which should make you last longer on your second trip to O land unless you're wired differently.

Finger f*ck her really thoroughly for 5 minutes or so. Start going back and forth with 2 or maybe even 3 digits as if it were your c*ck. If you're lucky, you might make her UHHHH OMG which means she might forgive you when it's your turn to use your peepee to do the samething.

If you're still busting in less than a minute after your 2nd or 3rd time with this chick...there's always these magical contraptions they call Trojan Extended Pleasure condoms. They'll really suck for you but it can't always be about you can it?

Most importantly:

Breath in breath out breath in breath out breath in. Tied to a wheel...fingers got to feel... bleeding through a tourniquet smile...


Oh...my bad.

Absolutely nothing positive can come from telling her you're a virgin. Why c0ckblock yourself when you don't have to?

Ahh yes....the first time. She was about a year younger. We had been just making out hot'n heavy for a couple of days when all of a sudden she just got up, got naked (what was left), stripped me down and the rest was all natural. Nothing awkward about it, but I do recall being really nervous-AT FIRST. After I was in, that feeling was ancient history, and I just relaxed and went with the flow. Afterwards, I did tell her it was my first time (like an idiot), but she didn't believe me, so I KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT and didn't push it.

Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
If she asks, don't lie to her, go ahead and tell her--but DO NOT volunteer the information without initation from her, and my guess is that she won't ask about it.

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Just make sure your protected man. And don't tell her(as in the above quote).

Please HER first

... and she won't even be thinking you're a virgin!

Let's face it: most guys are pretty fuggin' incompetent in bed. Even if you have no experience at all, you can be better than many.

The key is to warm her up. Really good! Use your hands, your tongue, and all your body to stimulate her all over. Kiss deliberately and teasingly. Tease, tease, tease! Instead of rushing right in to the hot spots, work your way there slowly. make it seem like you're going to touch her there, but pass by, draw back, eventually just barely make light contact as you're passing by her nipple (and later, downstairs).

I'm talking on the scale of an hour or more to even get to third base after you begin making out. Be gentle downstairs, unless she asks otherwise, becuase it can be pretty sensitive. Read Sir Chancealot's posts in the bible. Study up a bit on female anatomy, and even is it's just "book knowledge," you'll turn her on like a pro, compared to a lot of klutzes she's probably experienced. Get her off real good -- maybe even multiple times -- before you even enter her, and she won't care if you last 10 seconds!

And I almost forgot. Don't tell her. Unless, perhaps, afterwards if she's really pleased, in which case she might think you're a natural love god.

And one more thing. Above all, have fun!

If u tell her or not may depend a lot on just how much do know. Lets say your an idiot and don't know when a girl is coming on to you. She is going to be thinking "what the f### is with this guy, doesn't he want me?" If you leave it to about the point when when she does come on to you or you are allready getting down to it I doubt you would have anything to loose by telling because she is unlikly to back out at that point. Girls want to deflower guys just as much as we do them. Many years ago when I told 1 I was a virgin she begged to be mine. In fact several girlfreinds did until I chose the one I wanted to loose it to.

Not one day on this earth has been promised to you, so treat every day as if it was your last and every breath as if it was the same

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i voted for don't tell her.

i wrote in another thread earlier today that some girls just lie their like dead fish and are not as good in bed as you think they would be.

i'll keep this simple...i didn't tell my first, and she assumed i'd had more partners than her, which was not the case at all.

so, just because she is a girl and has had sex, don't expect her to be a porn star in bed.

and, speaking of porn stars...all it takes is watching some porn...if you have done so before, watch it more educationally this time, lol. lesbian porn helps for licking tits, and then just know some a few basic sex positions...i know that much.

oh, and one more thing, practice slipping on a condom once or twice before you do it the first time...i messed up with this a bit...hahaha, but it's all good.

have fun man :cheer: