After we left Wild Onion on Friday night, all I could think was "Holy ****..." I simply couldn't think of any other words to describe what just happened. Watching Solomon go from group to group, opening this set and that set, I was literally left speechless.
Here's some background on me. I'm 22. I've had 3 lays, all one-night stands that didn't go anywhere. Hell, I've never even had a gf. I've always been kind of clueless in regard to social interactions/etiquette especially when it comes to attracting women. Maybe it's because I've spent excessive amounts of time studying in college rather than trying to build any sort of social circle (which has both it's pros and cons). I've read into multiple PUA methods (Mystery Method, Love Systems, David D. Angelo, Juggler, Style's Annihilation Method, blah and the list goes on). And what did this material do for me? Well it did give me some ideas in relation to the art of attracting women and social interaction, but the problem was that while all this "text book" knowledge was great, it doesn't mean **** because I really couldn't figure out HOW to APPLY the material. Hence, whenever I'd spout off a routine or canned opener, it totally sounded incongruent. This more often than not resulted in hardcore awkwardness. Additionally I've never seen any one operate in the field (seeing demonstrations in the field can help, why do you think they have labs in college courses). I was almost at the point of giving up on this whole thing of trying to figure out women (believe it or not), because I simply wasn't getting anywhere.
Then I met Solomon. Watching this guy on Friday night was like an epiphany. I'd never seen anyone work the room the way he did. He had so much social proof it was ridiculous. Not only that, he was chatting it up and kinoing every HB that crossed his path. And the vast majority (about 80&) gave him positive responses. The funny thing was he did this WITHOUT any wing or the help of any goofy routines/canned openers.
WHAT HAPPENED
So I show up at the joint (by myself) about 1215am. I walk in and the music is blaring, and the women are ridiculously gorgeous. Now I'm a total newbie at night game, I've only been the the bars/clubs a couple times, so needless to say I was kind of intimidated.
I finally meet up with Solomon. He's totally shooting the **** with a group of about 5 guys. He introduces me to them. I'm thinking "Wow, are these all his PUA friends, the guys he goes sarging with?" I ask him, and heres the kicker, he tells me he just met them 20 mins ago! Solomon showed up to the club, by himself (essentially no social proof) and 20 mins later, he's chilling with a group of cool guys and they're buying him drinks. Needless to say I'm pretty impressed right off the bat.
He keeps reiterating to me, "If you see something you want, go get it" and that I just "gotta have fun." This guy was definitely having fun. He totally exuded a cool, chilled, awesome, fun vibe.
Next, he points out to me a two set of HB blonds and tells me about 10 different guys have already tried opening them tonight, all shut down. He goes up to them and immediately starts dancing with them. They're all hardcore kinoing and the girls look like they're totally having fun. Before I can process what he just did, he's already opening another 2 set. I'm thinking to myself "WTF, how's this guy doing all this stuff?" Then he was gone, opening others sets from across the room.
As the night progressed, he didn't let up. He kept opening set after set after set. And not only was he opening women, he was opening guys as well. There seemed to be no end rung in sight on the ladder of social proof he was climbing. And the funny thing was, he seemed to be the only guy in the room able to do this. I was looking around and saw tons of other guys totally not approaching anyone or willing to leave their clique (I was one of them lol). If I did see any guys approaching, they seemed as if they already had too much to drink resulting in average to less than average responses from whomever they were approaching.
And here was Solomon, a fun, energetic dude planting "seeds" left and right. He'd open one set, get a positive response, run off and open another set, get positive responses, run off and open another set, and the cycle continued. Later on he would go back and chat it up with some of the sets he had already dropped a seed on - resulting in a sense of familiarity between him and whomever he was chatting it up with (this was definitely important). He even #closed with this technique later in the night.
Initially I noticed that after he'd open a set of HB's and move over to another side of the room, these HB's that he had previously opened would "suddenly" appear near his vicinity ("proximity"), almost as if they wanted him to re notice them so as to re initiate a convo. At one point during the night he opened this 2 set in the far back of the room. Not too long after he was on the dance floor on the other side room doing his thing, and this set that he had previously just opened "suddenly" was near his vicinity. He didn't even notice! After opening multiple sets on the dance floor, he went up to another part of the room and opened another set (where he got the #close), and low and behold while he was chatting it up with this set, some of those ladies from the dance floor that he opened, "suddenly" were no longer on the dance floor but were just hover around near where he was totally giving him proximity again. Of course he didn't notice because he was too busy #closing lol.
At the end of the night, I was at a complete loss for words. I asked him what he was doing, if there was some sort of tactic he was using (he could have easily said "magic" and I would have believed him, because it sure seemed like "magic"). And the truth was, he WASN'T using any tactics. None of this PUA crap that the gurus want you to follow. He told me he was just simply having fun. When he was having fun, everything just came naturally to him. So I was like "what openers did you use?" because every guy wants to know "the opener" right. Well, here were some of them:
-"How are you doing tonight?"
-"What are you drinking?"
-"What are you eating?"
-"Why aren't you on the dancefloor?"
-ETC.
And that was it. I was so stupefied because I didn't think it was ever that simple. I've been so drilled to believe that canned opener type stuff works the best. But I was wrong. Solomon made everything look so easy, and I was totally blown away. Whenever I'd see that 1st group that he had initially opened up earlier that night, they were blown away as well. One of the guys looked totally bewildered at how Solomon was so easily chatting it up with everyone. I was in the same boat as well.
All in all, Friday night was an epiphany for me. Solomon showed me that it is totally possible to open random people in a night game atmosphere (I've never seen this prior to last night, especially to the extent he was doing it). He must of opened at least 25 different sets in a matter of 2 hours. I couldn't even open one lol. But after observing him do this so effortlessly, at least I know now that it's totally possible!
MORE TO COME.
Here's some background on me. I'm 22. I've had 3 lays, all one-night stands that didn't go anywhere. Hell, I've never even had a gf. I've always been kind of clueless in regard to social interactions/etiquette especially when it comes to attracting women. Maybe it's because I've spent excessive amounts of time studying in college rather than trying to build any sort of social circle (which has both it's pros and cons). I've read into multiple PUA methods (Mystery Method, Love Systems, David D. Angelo, Juggler, Style's Annihilation Method, blah and the list goes on). And what did this material do for me? Well it did give me some ideas in relation to the art of attracting women and social interaction, but the problem was that while all this "text book" knowledge was great, it doesn't mean **** because I really couldn't figure out HOW to APPLY the material. Hence, whenever I'd spout off a routine or canned opener, it totally sounded incongruent. This more often than not resulted in hardcore awkwardness. Additionally I've never seen any one operate in the field (seeing demonstrations in the field can help, why do you think they have labs in college courses). I was almost at the point of giving up on this whole thing of trying to figure out women (believe it or not), because I simply wasn't getting anywhere.
Then I met Solomon. Watching this guy on Friday night was like an epiphany. I'd never seen anyone work the room the way he did. He had so much social proof it was ridiculous. Not only that, he was chatting it up and kinoing every HB that crossed his path. And the vast majority (about 80&) gave him positive responses. The funny thing was he did this WITHOUT any wing or the help of any goofy routines/canned openers.
WHAT HAPPENED
So I show up at the joint (by myself) about 1215am. I walk in and the music is blaring, and the women are ridiculously gorgeous. Now I'm a total newbie at night game, I've only been the the bars/clubs a couple times, so needless to say I was kind of intimidated.
I finally meet up with Solomon. He's totally shooting the **** with a group of about 5 guys. He introduces me to them. I'm thinking "Wow, are these all his PUA friends, the guys he goes sarging with?" I ask him, and heres the kicker, he tells me he just met them 20 mins ago! Solomon showed up to the club, by himself (essentially no social proof) and 20 mins later, he's chilling with a group of cool guys and they're buying him drinks. Needless to say I'm pretty impressed right off the bat.
He keeps reiterating to me, "If you see something you want, go get it" and that I just "gotta have fun." This guy was definitely having fun. He totally exuded a cool, chilled, awesome, fun vibe.
Next, he points out to me a two set of HB blonds and tells me about 10 different guys have already tried opening them tonight, all shut down. He goes up to them and immediately starts dancing with them. They're all hardcore kinoing and the girls look like they're totally having fun. Before I can process what he just did, he's already opening another 2 set. I'm thinking to myself "WTF, how's this guy doing all this stuff?" Then he was gone, opening others sets from across the room.
As the night progressed, he didn't let up. He kept opening set after set after set. And not only was he opening women, he was opening guys as well. There seemed to be no end rung in sight on the ladder of social proof he was climbing. And the funny thing was, he seemed to be the only guy in the room able to do this. I was looking around and saw tons of other guys totally not approaching anyone or willing to leave their clique (I was one of them lol). If I did see any guys approaching, they seemed as if they already had too much to drink resulting in average to less than average responses from whomever they were approaching.
And here was Solomon, a fun, energetic dude planting "seeds" left and right. He'd open one set, get a positive response, run off and open another set, get positive responses, run off and open another set, and the cycle continued. Later on he would go back and chat it up with some of the sets he had already dropped a seed on - resulting in a sense of familiarity between him and whomever he was chatting it up with (this was definitely important). He even #closed with this technique later in the night.
Initially I noticed that after he'd open a set of HB's and move over to another side of the room, these HB's that he had previously opened would "suddenly" appear near his vicinity ("proximity"), almost as if they wanted him to re notice them so as to re initiate a convo. At one point during the night he opened this 2 set in the far back of the room. Not too long after he was on the dance floor on the other side room doing his thing, and this set that he had previously just opened "suddenly" was near his vicinity. He didn't even notice! After opening multiple sets on the dance floor, he went up to another part of the room and opened another set (where he got the #close), and low and behold while he was chatting it up with this set, some of those ladies from the dance floor that he opened, "suddenly" were no longer on the dance floor but were just hover around near where he was totally giving him proximity again. Of course he didn't notice because he was too busy #closing lol.
At the end of the night, I was at a complete loss for words. I asked him what he was doing, if there was some sort of tactic he was using (he could have easily said "magic" and I would have believed him, because it sure seemed like "magic"). And the truth was, he WASN'T using any tactics. None of this PUA crap that the gurus want you to follow. He told me he was just simply having fun. When he was having fun, everything just came naturally to him. So I was like "what openers did you use?" because every guy wants to know "the opener" right. Well, here were some of them:
-"How are you doing tonight?"
-"What are you drinking?"
-"What are you eating?"
-"Why aren't you on the dancefloor?"
-ETC.
And that was it. I was so stupefied because I didn't think it was ever that simple. I've been so drilled to believe that canned opener type stuff works the best. But I was wrong. Solomon made everything look so easy, and I was totally blown away. Whenever I'd see that 1st group that he had initially opened up earlier that night, they were blown away as well. One of the guys looked totally bewildered at how Solomon was so easily chatting it up with everyone. I was in the same boat as well.
All in all, Friday night was an epiphany for me. Solomon showed me that it is totally possible to open random people in a night game atmosphere (I've never seen this prior to last night, especially to the extent he was doing it). He must of opened at least 25 different sets in a matter of 2 hours. I couldn't even open one lol. But after observing him do this so effortlessly, at least I know now that it's totally possible!
MORE TO COME.
