To the person who started this topic,
Here's what's really going on. The normal way that most men are taught to treat women is unbalanced. Men are taught and women expect, from a very young age, that women get a free pass to engage in uncivilized behavior. That no matter how ridiculous her demands and no matter how irrational she acts and no matter how bad her behavior is, he is supposed to always be nice to her and be there for her.
It's like the stupid little lists that sometimes you'll see women put up. "I want a man who is strong but sensitive. Can make me laugh but will also let me cry whenever I want. Will put up with all of my crazy behavior. Who will always tell me that I'm right, blah blah blah, yada yada bullsh*t bullsh*t.". Basically, she wants a doormat. And men are taught that they are supposed to be doormats when it comes to women.
The expectation is that you'll be her little chore boy, cater to any ridiculous demands she makes, allow her to act in any uncivilized manner she wishes when she experiences negative emotions, beg her for sex, and gladly pay for 100% of everything while she either gets to stay at home or if she works, she gets to spend all of the money she makes on HERSELF, while YOU are supposed to keep her up and pay for everything. Slavery isn't dead, my friend.
What I just stated above is most women's DREAM and also how most men believe they are supposed to behave. In this society, women are allowed to get away with entirely too much bad behavior. So, of course, since this extreme form of bootlicking that men are expected to do is encouraged and the brainwashing is so widespread, any treatment that you give a woman that deviates from this extreme form of grovelling bootlicking, seems mean and harsh if you still have traces of the old brainwashing in the back of your lizard brain.
What do you think would happen if a man started throwing a temper tantrum and demanding you do this and that and no matter how nice you were to him while throwing this tantrum, he kept acting like a fool and throwing even more of a tantrum and started acting ugly and disrespectful? You'd probably punch him in the face! I'm not saying that you should walk around punching people in the face, but you see, we know what civilized behavior is. And in situations OUTSIDE of romantic relationships, women are expected by society to behave in a civilized manner.
The one context where she should be expected to behave in the most civilized and ladylike manner, in a relationship with a man who will love her and protect her, the expectations are completely the opposite. Of course, I'm no fool. I don't play by those stupid rules. But just because you don't play by those stupid rules doesn't make you a sociopath. It has everything to do with expecting civilized, respectable, LADYLIKE behavior from the women you have romantic relationships with.
It also has everything to do with NOT TOLERATING UGLY, RUDE, MEAN, SPITEFUL, DISRESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR FROM WOMEN.
This isn't always pleasant. Sometimes you have to put a woman in her place. Sometimes you have to put a stop to an idiotic temper tantrum or talk over her to put a stop to a wild string of illogical emotional ramblings. Especially when she is basically pulling words out of her a$$ and making unfair or unreasonable statements and then expecting to put you in some kind of a hotseat where you're "supposed" to reason her out of her unreasonable state. The wrong move is to play the submissive role to someone who is suffering from temporary insanity.
The right move is to tell her the conversation is over, that she's wrong, that she's being disrespectful, and that you don't have to answer to her but that she had better watch her tone or she will have to answer to YOU. Then simply be silent and don't say anything else, but keep powerful, dominant body language like you own yourself and that you own HER.
Save the rational, adult, grown-up conversation for times when she is not in a state of temporary insanity. Reasoning with a woman is, like everything else, about timing. There are times you can reason with them and times when you can't. When their negative emotions are at a peak, it's time to cut the conversation short, correct her, and go into "training mode". She has to learn that just like in any other situation in the civilized world, where she is expected to be well-behaved even when she is experiencing negative emotions, she must not use her bad moods as an excuse to be rude and disrespectful to you. You're her man. And you're there to love and protect her. But you're also there to correct her when she needs it and will NOT tolerate a situation where she uses her emotions as an excuse to act out unacceptable, disrespectful behavior.
