Well, a 54 year old wrote to me despite the fact that I clearly stated in the profile that I am not interested in anyone beyond 45 and that in actuality I prefer younger men. I responded to him saying that he was over 45 and I wasn't interested, just as my profile stated. He's old enough to be my father...gross.Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Because what a woman says she wants when it comes to what makes her wet has absolutely no bearing on reality.
It's a very simple concept to grasp.
Oh come on Luveno...what attractive 39 year old woman in their right mind would want to date a mediocre looking man 15 years older than her? Yuck.Originally posted by Luveno
The guy who has the text that is supposed to represent a pair of breasts is right: women say one thing, but mean another. Most of the time it seems they don't know what they mean anyway.
It is one of the main rules of the DJ bible.
Ask Catherine Zeta Jones.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Oh come on Luveno...what attractive 39 year old woman in their right mind would want to date a mediocre looking man 15 years older than her? Yuck.
It's not as big of a deal if a guy your age goes after a woman 25 to 30. You aren't old. I'm talking guys in their mid to late 50's and older hitting on women 10, 15, even 20 or more years younger. I'm a year older than you are and I still look good, too. Why on earth would I want to date someone significantly older than myself? They're getting to the point where they have serious health problems and could be a few years from dying. F*ck that. If I'm going to get involved with someone I'm not going to invest my time in someone who could croak in a few years that I'm not even attracted to in the first place.Originally posted by swampwiz
A man can still adequately be a father into his 50's, while a woman begins to have difficulty at 35. Plus, there are a lot of men like myself who take care of themselves, whereas women just b1tch and complain why men their age aren't interested in an obese woman. If I am 40, but look 30, why shouldn't a woman consider me as she would consider someone 30? I'm just as virile as the 30 y.o. guy, and my young looks indicate that I am a healthy specimen that should stick around a long time. It's a lot different for women - a 40 year old who looks likes a 30 year old still has eggs with the expiration date of the 40 year old.
The particular situation now is that there are more folks that are around age 40 as age 30 (Baby Bust), so men around 40 hav had to put with slim pickings for quite some time, and now that there is the Baby Echo of women in their lower 20's, we want to finally get our sexual and family due. I never married and had kids - why should I marry some woman my age who has her own kids?
Hope that helps
Gross...that's all I can say...just gross.Originally posted by DJDamage
Ask Catherine Zeta Jones.
There's the real issue:Originally posted by Wyldfire
Oh come on Luveno...what attractive 39 year old woman in their right mind would want to date a mediocre looking man 15 years older than her? Yuck.
No, the issue is that I'm NEVER attracted to older men. I can't even think of a 45 year old man that I have ever found attractive. I have always prefered younger men and I state that CLEARLY on my profile. I state CLEARLY that I would CONSIDER a guy up to the age of 45 tops. You can't get much clearer than that...so why on earth would a 54 year old even write in the first place? Because he mistakenly thinks that the standards I set forth for what I was looking for didn't apply to him.Originally posted by Luveno
There's the real issue:
Attactiveness.
He is only mediocre looking. That is the real problem.
If this old old man looked like George Clooney you wouldn't have posted your original concern.
So, specifically the question is "why do mediocre looking men on dating sites message me?"
The answer is: they don't know they're mediocre. Or, they do but don't know that you have higher standards than that.
Or, they know that self-looks aren't as important to guys as they are to women.
My suggestion is to just say that you don't want any mediocre looking men. You'll weed out those who are not confident, which is a big plus.
I just asked because I get a lot of much older guys who totally ignore what I put in the profile about age and still write even though I made it clear I won't be interested. It's the same thing with married men. I'm just wondering why guys seem to think that even though they clearly fit what you say you aren't looking for they still think it doesn't apply to them.Originally posted by iveyleeger
So ignore his email. End of story.
Well, I'll say this much...it makes me understand why some women make some of the comments in their profiles you guys were talking about on that princess thread. I get mail from guys who fit what I describe in the profile, too, so it's not only the ones I don't want to hear from who write. There have been times I've contacted guys I thought were attractive and who fit what I'm interested in before and I always take the time to carefully read what they write. If they have an age range and I'm not in it, I don't write. I'm going to update the profile and try to be even more clear while trying not to sound really biotchy. I get contacted a lot and it gets annoying having my time wasted by guys who I already have said I'm not interested in.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
It's like what's been posted in other threads about non-fit (alright, FAT) women wanting slim or athletic guys. Some people, both men and women, may not have a realistic view of themselves, at least not what the actually portray to the world.
These people feel that even though they do not fit the characteristic the other person is looking for, they feel that they are actually better than the image they present. I guess it may be a form of delusion.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.