FR:On my own, cycling around the lake

Francisco d'Anconia

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First I have to say this, no matter if you've been out of the game for a while or you've been out on the court for d@mn near 4 full quarters, APPROACH-APPROACH-APPROACH and follow your gut instincts...

Now the report; I was out this afternoon riding my bike around the this lake where there are a ton of honeys either biking, blading or jogging in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, these women were all on the pedestrian path and I'm more of a racer so I'm out on the road with the traffic going about 20mph.

About my fourth time around the lake I begin to notice different women who are also going around the lake several times so I make sure that I get their attention by saying "Hello" to them whenever there wasn't too much traffic around. Many replied "Hello" and there was a couple who were too cool to brake their stride by forming a two syllable word like "Hello," no sweat off of my nose.

Each time I would pass one after another lap, I'd say something funny to them about us meeting up so often or something to that effect. Hey, I was going off the cuff, it's more genuine that way.

Anyway, there was this tall, tan, thin blond Nordic goddess that had exchanged pleasantries with me for about three laps, each time with a bigger smile than the last. Then out of the blue as we were passing one another she says "Wow, you are really fast!!!" Uh-oh, male ego stroking, I've gotta forgo my training and talk to her for more than a second and a half the next time around.

After the next lap, I spot her and she sees me and I yell out "Hey, you're going to have to change direction so that I can have a real conversation with you!" She agreed excitedly.

We did some of the obligatory small talk, about how often we visited that lake and how long we usually work out. I found out that she works at a health club [ka-ching]! Oh yeah, she had to ask me my name since I hadn't provided that information. We ride together and chat some more and I give her a couple of hidden complements. She had to fish for them since she had to outright tell me that she had great legs since I hadn't mentioned anything about her looks.

After chatting a bit more she had to confess that she was married. No big deal to me, I got some good sarging practice plus she lived a couple of hours away (I don't do long distance). I did however, tell her that she should come up to my neck of the woods more often. She had friends in the neighborhood so I said that if she came to the lake, she may get lucky and see me again.

The look on her face was priceless, she had met a guy and hit it off really well with him and he was fine with continuing with his life with or without her and it was no big deal. Actually, it was HER privilege to have met ME! :D

Anyway, after some some small talk, she realizes that she has to check on her husband who she had left at the beach. I tell her good bye and tell her to consider coming back to the lake sometime. She might get lucky and we may cross paths again. Then I ride off. But wait, there's more...

I ride around a couple of laps and decide to call it a day. I had been out there for a couple of hours and had ridden about 40 odd miles. But instead of going back to my car, I decide to do one more lap just to verify the circumference of the lake.

About half way around I see a hot looking woman in a bright blue sun dress calling me and waving at me to stop. I pull over and tell her that she was lucky that I noticed her sun dress, otherwise I would have sped past her (somewhat of a neg hit).

Now get this, she asks me if she could put my telephone number in her cell so that she could call me to ask if I would go cycling with her. Now this was a round about way to ask me for my number and a date I thought, but no sweat, she would have to do all the work. She would have to sneak and call me without her husband finding out AND she would have to come out to MY neck of the wood to be with me. I don't have to do a d@mn thing but show up! If I'm not already busy :p

Long story short, a married woman wants to hang out with me and it all started with me just saying "Hello" to her. Now you may think that there's a slim chance in h3ll that this could go anywhere but understand that I didn't reveal in this post about the details of our conversation while we briefly rode together. I'll just say that she has admitted to almost getting into trouble by learning that she can make her own decisions and to occasionally take chances to improve her quality of life . Read into that however you may choose.;)

In a nutshell, you don't have to have fancy lines or have to have a perfect spot to meet women. They are all around you and there's always a few out there who are willing to meet a guy with DJ skills. It may not be the first or second woman you meet, but they are out there. Just approach and listen to your male instincts. SARGE ON!!!!
 

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lake calhun, is that the one u were at?

i remember going there quite tipsy with 2 best friends and two girls (read, immature *****es) as soon as we roll to the beach, me and my buds take off, approach first 2 girls we see, start talking.. they acted all nice untill i said "how about we get together, what are your numbers.. they left quite quickly".. next we approach 3 asian girls, they flat out tell us they are looking for "25+ rich daddies to provide for them" we are like "well, we are 26 (im 19 :D) , wanna hang?

after a couple of more approaches and crazy freesbe thrwoing while drunk, we headed home.

but hey, good to see you still trying man, keep it up.
 

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It was actually Lake Nokomis. And by the way, I just got off the phone with "Miss Nordic Goddess." We talk for a while and she asks if I have Caller ID. I tell her yeah and ask why she asks and she tells me that she wanted to know so that I could call her. I tell her that even though I had caller ID, I wouldn't call her unless she gave me her number (I'm a gentleman y'know :p).

Anyway, she gives me her number and tells me that she will be back in town tomorrow and wanted to know if I wanted to see her. I told her that I would like to see her but I have other plans. I did tell her that I would call her if my plans change. ;)

Y'know guys, we can play the same games that they play. Why should they have all of the fun? Hmm, no mention about her husband. Well, there's no need for me to bring him up if she doesn't :D .

Well, I'm off to the club, I'm stuck in DJ Overdrive and I might as well take advantage of it...
 

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alright, ill be the first one to warn ya bro, watch your ass, she seems to be a little too flirty for a girl with a husband.. and i guess at 36 you arent ready to die just yet.

"look but dont touch motherfvcker think twice"
 

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A smile to my face. Do what ya gotta do!
 

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Originally posted by Oxide
alright, ill be the first one to warn ya bro, watch your ass, she seems to be a little too flirty for a girl with a husband.. and i guess at 36 you arent ready to die just yet.

"look but dont touch motherfvcker think twice"
Concern noted. You're right. I don't usually go after married women, it's actually too much work. But in this case, she's making all of the effort. I'll go along on the ride just to see where it goes.
 

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Well, we got together today. No big deal, she buys me lunch and we talk. I tell her about how life is worth living and the taking advantage of the moment is the best way to live (yada, yada, yada).

Lo and behold, she just tells me that her kids (grown) are always checking in on her. Alright, I'll bite, "Why are your kids checking up on you, what are they trying to learn?" She tells me that she isn't happy with her marriage (no duh:rolleyes: ).

So I make her feel special and say, "I could tell that something was weighing on her shoulders and that I was glad that she could open up and tell me about it." Alright I know, gag me with a spoon, LOL.

Anyway, she's taking me out to dinner later this week "so we can talk further." My question is whether or not I should change my name to "Bruce Bigelow" so I can truly be the man wh0re that I am? :p
 

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haha u cat, hey im all in for getting together, as long as what i say contains at least SOME truth and honesty about how i feel (read: dont uslessly bs just to get some) escpecially at your age.. good luck u doing great.. wait, scratch that, you dont need any luck, you know what you are doing.:p ;)
 

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Francisco: What happened to the girl you met online that you were going to marry I thought?
 

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Good FR. I just have one observation:

"Open up" can be used as a NLP phrase. I didn't think it was corny at all, but likely since you didn't realise it (I think), you didn't deliver it *that* way.

Keep it up though, and keep us posted!
 

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Originally posted by NatureGuy
Francisco: What happened to the girl you met online that you were going to marry I thought?
Right.. all the posts I've read from Francisco were always mentioning some LTR

Well, I guess you broke up, sorry to hear that
 

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D@mn!! Someone was actually reading my earlier posts!!! :p But yeah, I had met this woman online and we dated for a year and a half. It's coming to an end now and there were no plans about marriage. Thanks for the condolences, they are much appreciated but guess what??? They aren't needed!!!!

It's been asked before what is the best way to get over a failed relationship. Well there's truth about getting back out there and letting the ladies know that you are available. PLUS nothing rattles your ex's cage more than seeing you survive after her or better yet, having a better time!!!

So that's where I'm at. I'm in better shape now than when I had met my ex. Her friend are asking me to hang out with them, with or without her. Her girlfriends are becoming more open with flirting with me, even if she is around. I'm approaching women and being approached (the Nordic roller blading goddess made a picnic for me yesterday and we ended up spending many hours together). If you are wondering, third base ;) . Plus she and a couple of my other girls that are friends are begging to take me out on my birthday this weekend.

Oh breaking up is so hard to do.... :D

Oh, and by the way, I'm hitting the Internet personals again and have turned down a handful of women that didn't qualify. So I'm using all avenues to meet women.

Am I looking for another relationship? Nah, it's too soon. But guess what, good women don't care if you can show them a good time by making them feel better about themselves when they are around you. That's all it takes.
 

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Thanks for the feedback guys. Well, she calls me at home from work (she's a second shift nurse). She tells me over and over that she had a great time and that she did things that she doesn't normally do. I told her that she did pretty well but I bet she could do better if she tried harder (ba-boom ting).

I'm pretty sure she's hooked. That's probably because I'm getting a little board. Time to move her into the stable and keep her on standby. Does that sound rude (as if I care) :D. But think about it, she's taking advantage of me, she's the one that's married. *snicker* (I just had to say that).

Anyway, I don't know if there's much more I can share about this encounter that would be of any benefit to you guys. It's just proof that approaches aren't necessary that bad if approaching is made part of your lifestyle. It doesn't matter if you've been out of the game as long as you always live by the DJ method especially if you get into a relationship.

Speaking of which, my soon to be ex (we still live together) just told me that she is going to send a email to our friends asking if any of them wanted to become her room mate. She was concerned about what they would think. The first thing that came to my mind was "GREAT, free advertising to her hot girlfriends that I am available!!!!"

Being a DJ has its privileges. ;)
 

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Wow, 3rd date and you already have her eating.... ;) that's one "strong" marriage.


We should go meet sometimes man, i've talked to a lot of older guys about women, but you seem to be like me in a body of 36 year old.
:p

p.s. post your pic, lemme see what you look like.
 

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good to see some old timers still here (oxide and frisco)...Seems like the posters have changed each time i come here...

So, shes cheating on her husband...Even though she's doing all the work, Daddy may come across a phone number, or overhear a voicemail or a convo...Be careful, people have had their lives ended for doing less...

gl....
 

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Originally posted by Oxide
Wow, 3rd date and you already have her eating.... ;) that's one "strong" marriage.


We should go meet sometimes man, i've talked to a lot of older guys about women, but you seem to be like me in a body of 36 year old.
:p

p.s. post your pic, lemme see what you look like.
Age is nothing but an attitude, a mindset. My mistake in my last relationship was that I "acted" my age most of the time. THAT SUCKED! So now, I'm back to form, doing the things that I wished I knew how to do back in my early 20's.

Sorry Oxide, I don't post my pic for hard legs. I'm sure you can understand why. However, we should hook up some day. The only problem is that you can't really go clubbing to anywhere other than Tropix. I'm a First Ave type of guy. Gotta be 21 to get in there.

I'm open to any suggestions you may have...
 

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Originally posted by DankNuggs
good to see some old timers still here (oxide and frisco)...Seems like the posters have changed each time i come here...

So, shes cheating on her husband...Even though she's doing all the work, Daddy may come across a phone number, or overhear a voicemail or a convo...Be careful, people have had their lives ended for doing less...

gl....
I hear 'ya, you're telling the truth. That's why I'm going to ease back and see her maybe twice a month. Y'know, she's just a friend anyway... :p

And thanks for recognizing us "Old Timers." I'd never stopped lurking around the boards, but I do agree that the posts have changed a lot. Maybe we can get some more substance in here.
 

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UPDATE

Just an update...

I've gone out with Mrs. "Married" a few times, all initiated by her. Always tons of kino on both our parts and I imagine her IL is at about 15 on a 10 point scale. How do I know? She's tired of being asked where's she's been until the early hours of the morning and she wants to just tell him that she's met someone that she enjoys being with!

So of course I ask her how does she benefit from doing that? I know that part of the attracting is that she is being what she calls a "bad girl" by doing everything under the cover of darkness. I convince her that if it feels so good, why change it?

Yeah, this one is becoming high maintenance by always wanting to hang out. I have to work on putting her on some type of schedule. I'll probably make a special day that I make myself available just for her (women go for that type of thing).

You may ask why I put up with this if it is becoming a bit challenging. Well, being involved with a married woman that has a ton of pent up sexual energy helps especially if she wants to direct it at you :D.

The funny thing is that she knows that I can have my my pick of several different woman. That is probably why she is trying so hard to keep me interested. She's doing a good job at it but don't worry, there's not going to be any one-itis here. That's another great thing about being involved (does not mean dating) a married woman.
 

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