backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I will be 30 in 28 days and it's become apparent to me that the 20's, the time from when you are 21 until you are 30, is just as much about what you DON'T do as much as it's about what you do do.
ages 21-30 are the most important time period for a man IMHO because it sets the entire tone for the rest of your life. You are either ahead of the curve or behind the 8 ball from here on out. By the time you are 30 you can either start to play and have fun or you can be looking at years of doom and gloom.
This is a site about women and it's becoming more and more apparent to me that what makes me attractive at 30 is not what made me attractive at 20. looks always will and always have mattered, but there is a lot more to it then that.
Theses are pitfalls that the vast majority of males between the ages of 21-29 fall into
The divorce trap= i wanted to say the marriage trap but i'm married lol. Jokes aside, marriage in itself is not a problem but marriage to the wrong partner in your 20's will put you behind your male breathern for years. You will be behind the ball ball financially because she will without question take your money, she will probably fvck up your credit and your self esteem
And on top of allt hat, it's just baggage. we talk about women and their baggae but **** men have it too. womend on't want to deal with another woman's drama. And this is assuming there is no alimony payments AND /OR any lingering feelings. No woman is going to put up wtih you while you play wishy washy going back and forth with your ex wife.
Also a woman is going to ask, just like i wouldi ask if i met a woman who is divorced.. why did she get a divorce i don't know if i want someone else's 2nd hand stuff. There might be a very good reason for a divorce, but even if there is it's reason for concern.
If you are going to get married in your 20's you need to make sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the one.
the baby trap - This is the big one. And again full disclosure, i have a knucklehead 5 year old son just turned 5 2 weeks ago. I love the dude more than I love myself, but this is still a trap.
The truth is, the vast majority of men have kids before they are emotionally or financially ready to raise them in this society. you can't be AS care free anymore, you don't' have anywhere near as much disposable income anymore and your financial priorities can't be the same as they were pre child. at least I hope they aren't. What if some kick ass job comes up in your late 20's that you would love to take and it's half way around the country and this is your dream job but you can't do it now beucase you have a 2 year old and your baby momma is tripping if you leave her and the kid behind plus you can't afford the higher cost of living plus taking care of the child. so ****ty job it is for you.
Kids, more than anything, are the number 1 stunter of growth for men in their 20's. put a fvckign condom on for crying out loud please. i know a dude that is 3 months older than me and has 6 freaking girls. "man I like sex" damn bro I like sex too but you know what else I like lol going out to eat with just me and the wife or going on a vacation with just me and the wife or not having to watch Nickelodeon every freaking night and not having to eat nachos and kid food every day. i like sex too but i ware (wore) condoms i don't care how much i trusted the girl.
If you haven o kids and you are 30 and single, you are virtually guaranteed unless you are just like, crazy or abnormal to be a HB7. just this alone.
i have a son but i can afford a son. my son's college is already paid for. i have the same amount of dispoible income as i would have pre kid. thinking about having another. strongly. but i can. most CAN'T. EVEN though i can afford it the only thing and this is a big one, is the time constrains having another one would put on my business / work / ambitions.
this would actually make for a good sub post but i will save that for another day. the wife and i have had some interesting conversations about this issue recently
The debt trap - let's say you are 29 years old and you don;t' have any kids. that's freaking great. And let's say you don't have a bat**** crazy x around and you aren't paying her a monthly fee to fvck someone else. even better.
but what if you are paying 900-1100 a month in school tuition fees, and another 400 dollars a month for a car payment and you got about 20k in credit card debt. it doesn't matter if you are making 60-70k a year if 2500 of that is going towards debt. you are basically making 40k a year.
I'm to even going to say stay out of debt. I will say that your 20's should be to establish your way in the world. by the time you are 30 you should be outside of a house wrapping up debt
i wish more kids fresh out of college would load up on their student loan payments and get that **** over with, screw moving out right now do what you got to do so then when you are 30 you can actually play a little.
the women i know today who are around my age, a little older and a little younger they value looks but that's like 35-40% of the whole package. you need to have income to have a decent wardrobe. you need to have disposlbe income to be able to have fun. not trick but you can't be a guy who is so broke and so behind on his loans where he can't go out with friends to that concert because he doesn't have 10
to spare. that's a guy who isn't going to get laid right there.
something else i've learned is most guys don't so much have bad taste in clothes as much as they just don't have the budget to dress nicely.
That's really it. If you are 30 years old, and you
1. aren't in a stupid amount of debt and even better are in a position to pay your debt off very soon
2. don't have any ex wifes
3. don't have any kids
4. work out often
you are a de facto HB8. it really is that simple. that's it.
sounds crazy. how many guys do you know are all three of the above. no debt, no wife no kids. i know 2. most guys have kids most are in such a hurrty to play house they do it all wrong.
ages 21-30 are the most important time period for a man IMHO because it sets the entire tone for the rest of your life. You are either ahead of the curve or behind the 8 ball from here on out. By the time you are 30 you can either start to play and have fun or you can be looking at years of doom and gloom.
This is a site about women and it's becoming more and more apparent to me that what makes me attractive at 30 is not what made me attractive at 20. looks always will and always have mattered, but there is a lot more to it then that.
Theses are pitfalls that the vast majority of males between the ages of 21-29 fall into
The divorce trap= i wanted to say the marriage trap but i'm married lol. Jokes aside, marriage in itself is not a problem but marriage to the wrong partner in your 20's will put you behind your male breathern for years. You will be behind the ball ball financially because she will without question take your money, she will probably fvck up your credit and your self esteem
And on top of allt hat, it's just baggage. we talk about women and their baggae but **** men have it too. womend on't want to deal with another woman's drama. And this is assuming there is no alimony payments AND /OR any lingering feelings. No woman is going to put up wtih you while you play wishy washy going back and forth with your ex wife.
Also a woman is going to ask, just like i wouldi ask if i met a woman who is divorced.. why did she get a divorce i don't know if i want someone else's 2nd hand stuff. There might be a very good reason for a divorce, but even if there is it's reason for concern.
If you are going to get married in your 20's you need to make sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the one.
the baby trap - This is the big one. And again full disclosure, i have a knucklehead 5 year old son just turned 5 2 weeks ago. I love the dude more than I love myself, but this is still a trap.
The truth is, the vast majority of men have kids before they are emotionally or financially ready to raise them in this society. you can't be AS care free anymore, you don't' have anywhere near as much disposable income anymore and your financial priorities can't be the same as they were pre child. at least I hope they aren't. What if some kick ass job comes up in your late 20's that you would love to take and it's half way around the country and this is your dream job but you can't do it now beucase you have a 2 year old and your baby momma is tripping if you leave her and the kid behind plus you can't afford the higher cost of living plus taking care of the child. so ****ty job it is for you.
Kids, more than anything, are the number 1 stunter of growth for men in their 20's. put a fvckign condom on for crying out loud please. i know a dude that is 3 months older than me and has 6 freaking girls. "man I like sex" damn bro I like sex too but you know what else I like lol going out to eat with just me and the wife or going on a vacation with just me and the wife or not having to watch Nickelodeon every freaking night and not having to eat nachos and kid food every day. i like sex too but i ware (wore) condoms i don't care how much i trusted the girl.
If you haven o kids and you are 30 and single, you are virtually guaranteed unless you are just like, crazy or abnormal to be a HB7. just this alone.
i have a son but i can afford a son. my son's college is already paid for. i have the same amount of dispoible income as i would have pre kid. thinking about having another. strongly. but i can. most CAN'T. EVEN though i can afford it the only thing and this is a big one, is the time constrains having another one would put on my business / work / ambitions.
this would actually make for a good sub post but i will save that for another day. the wife and i have had some interesting conversations about this issue recently
The debt trap - let's say you are 29 years old and you don;t' have any kids. that's freaking great. And let's say you don't have a bat**** crazy x around and you aren't paying her a monthly fee to fvck someone else. even better.
but what if you are paying 900-1100 a month in school tuition fees, and another 400 dollars a month for a car payment and you got about 20k in credit card debt. it doesn't matter if you are making 60-70k a year if 2500 of that is going towards debt. you are basically making 40k a year.
I'm to even going to say stay out of debt. I will say that your 20's should be to establish your way in the world. by the time you are 30 you should be outside of a house wrapping up debt
i wish more kids fresh out of college would load up on their student loan payments and get that **** over with, screw moving out right now do what you got to do so then when you are 30 you can actually play a little.
the women i know today who are around my age, a little older and a little younger they value looks but that's like 35-40% of the whole package. you need to have income to have a decent wardrobe. you need to have disposlbe income to be able to have fun. not trick but you can't be a guy who is so broke and so behind on his loans where he can't go out with friends to that concert because he doesn't have 10
to spare. that's a guy who isn't going to get laid right there.
something else i've learned is most guys don't so much have bad taste in clothes as much as they just don't have the budget to dress nicely.
That's really it. If you are 30 years old, and you
1. aren't in a stupid amount of debt and even better are in a position to pay your debt off very soon
2. don't have any ex wifes
3. don't have any kids
4. work out often
you are a de facto HB8. it really is that simple. that's it.
sounds crazy. how many guys do you know are all three of the above. no debt, no wife no kids. i know 2. most guys have kids most are in such a hurrty to play house they do it all wrong.
