guys wanted to take a quick moment to discuss a topic.
its very important to understand that women do NOT see themselves as your protector. they dont know how to be a protector. they aren't hard wired for it.
heck, they don't even know how to protect themselves (many of them have a hard time being responsible for their own lives and require a man to do so).
you MUST understand this if you are to have any success with women.
its not that they are cruel, cold hearted b*tches - its simply that they are NOT your mother!
the only time a woman even comes close to taking on the protector role is with her children.
and this is why many of us get let down when it comes to women. becuase our first and longest experience with a woman is with our mother. and our mothers were protective of us. if we scrapped our knee they put a bandaid on it. they tucked us in to bed. they made us breakfast. they did our laundry. they control dad when he pushed us too hard, etc.
and then when we deal with women when we are older we are awestruck at how unprotective they are of us.
but you MUST understand that a woman doesn't know how to be a protector. she will only begin to understand this role if/when she has children.
moreover, women lack any real understanding of what its like to be a man. they have no clue what we go through. they fail to understand that we hurt just like they do.
now often times when you grow close to a woman, and show her the various pain and suffering you have inside of you (and most people have quite a bit of it) they often run for the hills.
the reason is that they dont know what to do. when you show them your pain, they don't know how to help you. and it freaks them out. so they run.
on top of all this the media conditions women to believe that they should find a prince, a knight in shining armor - a man who does not need saving but rather one who saves.
for all these reasons (and more) its critical to understand that most women will not, even for an hour, be your protector. she may occasionally be your nurse, she may hug you and say 'there there it will be alright', but she will never take responsibility for your well being (ie. be your protector).
you must find your protector elsewhere. perhaps it is your father. perhaps it is a hero that you emulate (maximus aurelius, ghandi, JFK, whoever). perhaps it is with friends. perhaps with your priest. perhaps sosuave. perhaps with a psychologist. or perhaps (like with myself) it is God.
but whoever or whatever it is, your Protector in life (the person or thing you turn to when suffering and in need of protection) it must NOT be your (a) woman.
they do NOT know how to be a protector, and especially do not know how to do so with a man.
when you stop expecting a woman to exhibit this quality you will find that your relationship with them becomes much simplier.
its very important to understand that women do NOT see themselves as your protector. they dont know how to be a protector. they aren't hard wired for it.
heck, they don't even know how to protect themselves (many of them have a hard time being responsible for their own lives and require a man to do so).
you MUST understand this if you are to have any success with women.
its not that they are cruel, cold hearted b*tches - its simply that they are NOT your mother!
the only time a woman even comes close to taking on the protector role is with her children.
and this is why many of us get let down when it comes to women. becuase our first and longest experience with a woman is with our mother. and our mothers were protective of us. if we scrapped our knee they put a bandaid on it. they tucked us in to bed. they made us breakfast. they did our laundry. they control dad when he pushed us too hard, etc.
and then when we deal with women when we are older we are awestruck at how unprotective they are of us.
but you MUST understand that a woman doesn't know how to be a protector. she will only begin to understand this role if/when she has children.
moreover, women lack any real understanding of what its like to be a man. they have no clue what we go through. they fail to understand that we hurt just like they do.
now often times when you grow close to a woman, and show her the various pain and suffering you have inside of you (and most people have quite a bit of it) they often run for the hills.
the reason is that they dont know what to do. when you show them your pain, they don't know how to help you. and it freaks them out. so they run.
on top of all this the media conditions women to believe that they should find a prince, a knight in shining armor - a man who does not need saving but rather one who saves.
for all these reasons (and more) its critical to understand that most women will not, even for an hour, be your protector. she may occasionally be your nurse, she may hug you and say 'there there it will be alright', but she will never take responsibility for your well being (ie. be your protector).
you must find your protector elsewhere. perhaps it is your father. perhaps it is a hero that you emulate (maximus aurelius, ghandi, JFK, whoever). perhaps it is with friends. perhaps with your priest. perhaps sosuave. perhaps with a psychologist. or perhaps (like with myself) it is God.
but whoever or whatever it is, your Protector in life (the person or thing you turn to when suffering and in need of protection) it must NOT be your (a) woman.
they do NOT know how to be a protector, and especially do not know how to do so with a man.
when you stop expecting a woman to exhibit this quality you will find that your relationship with them becomes much simplier.
