just wanted to make a quick post. i think a big problem a lot of guys have on this board is that they don't understand the world of "control".
one of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is thinking that you are in control of anything other than your OWN behavior, thoughts and feelings.
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT!
think of your life as a tiny circle. whether its your personal life, your work life, and everything thats in between.
that is what you have control over. and that little circle is contained with a HUGE giant circle. and everything outside that little circle you have very little DIRECT control over.
outside of yoru little circle is chaos. sometimes you will be able to manipulate the chaos to your favor. sometimes no matter what you do the chaos is simply going to be what its going to be. sometimes that means you are going to get screwed for no good reason.
most people however, don't even have a little circle. they have no circle. their personal and professional lives are as chaotic as the world immediately around them.
hence why they live such insanely stressful lives and always seem to have unnecessary drama going on and are never really content or happy with their life.
now here's the cool thing with having a little circle - anyone who steps into your little circle lives by your rules. and if they don't, they get booted back out into the chaos. hehe.
this to me is one of the absolutely essential elements to becoming a complete man.
I can attribute probably 80% of my success in life, regardless of what area of life we are talking about, to this simple concept.
framed differently, it's basically about improving your life, living your life, and not handing over responsbility for your life to other people. It's also about NEVER EVER seeing yourself as a victim. because within that little circle your world is of your own making.
anyway, this paradigm is also seen in folks who are religious. their little circle is God, and no matter what happens externally, in that little circle they feel loved and feel secure and confident in themselves, the decisions they have made, and the future.
this little circle doesn't have to be god, it can simply be just you - but it is the area where the chaos of the external world is not allowed to enter.
master this and nothing in this world can tear you down - much less some chic.
one of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is thinking that you are in control of anything other than your OWN behavior, thoughts and feelings.
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT!
think of your life as a tiny circle. whether its your personal life, your work life, and everything thats in between.
that is what you have control over. and that little circle is contained with a HUGE giant circle. and everything outside that little circle you have very little DIRECT control over.
outside of yoru little circle is chaos. sometimes you will be able to manipulate the chaos to your favor. sometimes no matter what you do the chaos is simply going to be what its going to be. sometimes that means you are going to get screwed for no good reason.
most people however, don't even have a little circle. they have no circle. their personal and professional lives are as chaotic as the world immediately around them.
hence why they live such insanely stressful lives and always seem to have unnecessary drama going on and are never really content or happy with their life.
now here's the cool thing with having a little circle - anyone who steps into your little circle lives by your rules. and if they don't, they get booted back out into the chaos. hehe.
this to me is one of the absolutely essential elements to becoming a complete man.
I can attribute probably 80% of my success in life, regardless of what area of life we are talking about, to this simple concept.
framed differently, it's basically about improving your life, living your life, and not handing over responsbility for your life to other people. It's also about NEVER EVER seeing yourself as a victim. because within that little circle your world is of your own making.
anyway, this paradigm is also seen in folks who are religious. their little circle is God, and no matter what happens externally, in that little circle they feel loved and feel secure and confident in themselves, the decisions they have made, and the future.
this little circle doesn't have to be god, it can simply be just you - but it is the area where the chaos of the external world is not allowed to enter.
master this and nothing in this world can tear you down - much less some chic.
