I have been involved with an AW who is pretty good looking for almost a year now. Started off as friends then became a couple. The reason was because I was on the rebound and she was right there after. About 3 or 4 months into the relationship I found out about AW's. She fits one to the T. I have now been with her for about 8 or 9 months now but it looks pretty grim considering a bunch of messed up stuff has happened. If you ever get involved with one be prepared to deal with many battles and have strong emotional feelings if you have never dealt with one. There are strong signs and ways to get them but you will just go through a lot of ups and downs. But they do fvcked up things that are magnified times 10 and have disregard a lot the time for others feelings. Overall AW's are selfish try to get what they want at others expense do fvcked up stuff to guys. One moment they are slvtty then they want a bf and complains about how guys use them for sex.
Here are the signals that I saw from her that she is one, sucks it was too late by then to realize it and I am very involved in a vicious cycle:
1. Very sexual
When I first met her she seemed very open and was very talkative. She doesnt dress to slu*&y though maybe a little to provacative. My roomate hooked up with her for a little bit and would say all this sh*t about her in bed. I started hanging out with her after I broke up with my ex and she would ask me to have sex all the time and be very flirty of course I didnt right off the bat. She would flirt with other guys at the same time laying it on thick at certain points to myself espcially.
2. Make you feel very special
She would make me feel soooo special smother the sh*t out of me and spend some cash and be there if you needed a ride from the bars.
3. Wanting a relationship really fast
She would ask me constantly about only a couple of weeks of knowing her that she wanted a bf I would say no and she would act like no challenge at all.
4. Make you jealous by doing extreme things and want to get a rise out of you.
I would constantly say no to her when she asked me to have sex and be her bf. But she was a friend who was there and pretty cool to hang out with. We hung out so much people thought we were together. I would sleep with her sometimes and be with her every weekened. I eventaully had sex with her but still would say no to her when she asked about being in a relationship. Then all of the sudden I found out she hooked up with someone I knew, like a night after I did. That pis$*d me off so bad. Even later on she would still answer calls from other guys and talk to them in front of me
5. Cut off communication out of the blue.
I made her mad one time by doing something small. She didnt call for a whole week then she called one day out of the blue. Now she is very distant and it is very hard because I try to cut everything off but she eventually calls or does something to reel me back on. She cut off attention from her ex out of the blue of 1 yr and he chased her so bad because it came from no where and she would still talk to him. She did the same thing to me but Im not that crazy I still get strong urges to call her though but I try to hold my self back.
6. Easily forgives
After that incident happened and some other stuff I would say all this messed up stuff to her like dont talk to me and say some other stupid stuff. Enough to try to have her not talk to me anymore. I dont know a lot of people espically girls who could take what I said. Anyways she would say sorry pretty quick. Even If I would mess up she would be mad but forgive quick.
7. Very Selfish doesnt care about others feelings think they can do what they want
She started becoming very selfish only calling if she needed me rather for emotional or something else. Call her and she would be "busy." Ignores even her friends when they want to talk to her. When we have problems she will
8 Flatter themselves by using others
At one point she said I loved her and was obsessed cause I heard her friend saying that one night about me. I would never call her or anything like that.
9. Isolate you from their friends
I am isolated from her friends sometimes. She talks so much sh*t about them and Im sure she does about me so we dislike each other. Sometimes she acts like she doesnt even know me in front of her friends. Pretty weird stuff.
10. Low self esteem (the main reason she is an AW)
She is very insecure about herself and others. Yea Im insecure about her cause you don't know what the hell shell do next but im not about myself.
Me and her might be done Im not sure yet. I did some chasing right now cause some REALLY messed up stuff happened between me her and and someone else so she has every right somewhat to be mad but she is doin it in a typical AW way. Taking it out on me so I will turn on the other person and being very manipulative.
Watch, she has become very distant and basically wants to end things, ive been calling her the last couple days acting like a stupid puppy exactly what she wants. But from today on out im not going to call her maybe not pick up the phone for a couple of days and shell call me again maybe even willing to fix things and get back together it wouldn't pass my mind. I dont know if we could be together longer weve talked about living togehter she has brought up stuff like kids and a house a while ago but its crazy stuff.
Dont get me wrong but i think AWs have two sides she is a really cool girl but she has the bad AW in her that can fvck with you. You do anything to bring that out your screwed unless you can snap the line. Your best bet is to not treat them like a princess a lot and treat them like sh*t. If you want excitement, learn how to play games and drama then deal with an AW. If you can make it through a LTR with an AW then you deserve props.
Here are the signals that I saw from her that she is one, sucks it was too late by then to realize it and I am very involved in a vicious cycle:
1. Very sexual
When I first met her she seemed very open and was very talkative. She doesnt dress to slu*&y though maybe a little to provacative. My roomate hooked up with her for a little bit and would say all this sh*t about her in bed. I started hanging out with her after I broke up with my ex and she would ask me to have sex all the time and be very flirty of course I didnt right off the bat. She would flirt with other guys at the same time laying it on thick at certain points to myself espcially.
2. Make you feel very special
She would make me feel soooo special smother the sh*t out of me and spend some cash and be there if you needed a ride from the bars.
3. Wanting a relationship really fast
She would ask me constantly about only a couple of weeks of knowing her that she wanted a bf I would say no and she would act like no challenge at all.
4. Make you jealous by doing extreme things and want to get a rise out of you.
I would constantly say no to her when she asked me to have sex and be her bf. But she was a friend who was there and pretty cool to hang out with. We hung out so much people thought we were together. I would sleep with her sometimes and be with her every weekened. I eventaully had sex with her but still would say no to her when she asked about being in a relationship. Then all of the sudden I found out she hooked up with someone I knew, like a night after I did. That pis$*d me off so bad. Even later on she would still answer calls from other guys and talk to them in front of me
5. Cut off communication out of the blue.
I made her mad one time by doing something small. She didnt call for a whole week then she called one day out of the blue. Now she is very distant and it is very hard because I try to cut everything off but she eventually calls or does something to reel me back on. She cut off attention from her ex out of the blue of 1 yr and he chased her so bad because it came from no where and she would still talk to him. She did the same thing to me but Im not that crazy I still get strong urges to call her though but I try to hold my self back.
6. Easily forgives
After that incident happened and some other stuff I would say all this messed up stuff to her like dont talk to me and say some other stupid stuff. Enough to try to have her not talk to me anymore. I dont know a lot of people espically girls who could take what I said. Anyways she would say sorry pretty quick. Even If I would mess up she would be mad but forgive quick.
7. Very Selfish doesnt care about others feelings think they can do what they want
She started becoming very selfish only calling if she needed me rather for emotional or something else. Call her and she would be "busy." Ignores even her friends when they want to talk to her. When we have problems she will
8 Flatter themselves by using others
At one point she said I loved her and was obsessed cause I heard her friend saying that one night about me. I would never call her or anything like that.
9. Isolate you from their friends
I am isolated from her friends sometimes. She talks so much sh*t about them and Im sure she does about me so we dislike each other. Sometimes she acts like she doesnt even know me in front of her friends. Pretty weird stuff.
10. Low self esteem (the main reason she is an AW)
She is very insecure about herself and others. Yea Im insecure about her cause you don't know what the hell shell do next but im not about myself.
Me and her might be done Im not sure yet. I did some chasing right now cause some REALLY messed up stuff happened between me her and and someone else so she has every right somewhat to be mad but she is doin it in a typical AW way. Taking it out on me so I will turn on the other person and being very manipulative.
Watch, she has become very distant and basically wants to end things, ive been calling her the last couple days acting like a stupid puppy exactly what she wants. But from today on out im not going to call her maybe not pick up the phone for a couple of days and shell call me again maybe even willing to fix things and get back together it wouldn't pass my mind. I dont know if we could be together longer weve talked about living togehter she has brought up stuff like kids and a house a while ago but its crazy stuff.
Dont get me wrong but i think AWs have two sides she is a really cool girl but she has the bad AW in her that can fvck with you. You do anything to bring that out your screwed unless you can snap the line. Your best bet is to not treat them like a princess a lot and treat them like sh*t. If you want excitement, learn how to play games and drama then deal with an AW. If you can make it through a LTR with an AW then you deserve props.
