I'm going to talk about patience and how important it is. A DJ must have patience, it shows composure, control, value, and a confident demeanor. I see all too often where guys mess things up all because they just weren't patient enough. You see, when it comes to dating, girls are far more patient than men. Heck, girls will usually agree to a date a week from now, while guys will want to set the date for the very next day! In fact, girls will usually flake on the first date. And why wouldn't she, she probably has a lot of options. So we must turn the tables. However, if we don't show any patience, and rush the process, we're sending all the wrong signals. A huge red flag will enter her mind. So...When setting up a date, make it next week! And when you show her a great time, take your time and play it cool. Real cool. Slow things down and take another week or more on that second date. This should drive her crazy. As long you guys are hiiting it off, being patient will send all the RIGHT signals. I know this is hard to do, because instinctively we just want to rip her clothes off and do this every day. But you must have control over your instincts and play the game right, because it will pay off at the end. Now I'm sure you've all heard this before but I just want to remind you the importance of all this. So for ex...
My friend just got kicked to the LJBF zone last night for the hundreth time. He's a great guy, above average looks, charming, outgoing. But he keeps getting the LJBF line from every girl he dates. I mean at first, girls like him because he's somewhat agressive, he's very confident. He's the kind of guy who has absolutely no fear when approaching girls. But what happens?
Well, the exact trait that first attracts the ladies, is the exact trait that brings him to his downfall. He's just too agressive and has absolutely no PATIENCE. He's the kind of guy who needs answers all the time and just cannot relax. And that's whats going on with his girls. He's texting too much, always wants to know where she is, and tries to move things to the next level too soon. Now if he just played it cool, didn't care what she did or where she was, and showed that he was always busy, I wouldn't be writing about him right now.
And lastly my own experience. I recently signed up for an online dating site. I've never had one so I thought I'd give it a try. Anyways, I was writing emails to HB8 and we were getting along fine. I never gave her my number, I never asked for hers. I never tried to set anything up, just teased her and played some C&F. Well, she finally wrote me a message saying, "Ok that's enough! Here is my number ###-#### hope to hear from you!" When I finally talked to her she said I was so different from all the guys that were constantly hitting on her. She said all these strangers were trying to set dates the next day, and emailing her constantly. In the meantime I rarely emailed her and when I did it was good. She said that she couldnt take it anymore and had to give me her number! And she said she never does this!
It's hard to be pateint sometimes, especially when your dealing with someone very attractive. I mean sometimes I just want to set something up this weekend, email her, or send a text. But I fight those urges and remember that Patience is a virtue and that it will pay big dividends at the end. Also remember, it takes a girl a lot longer to start falling for a guy, than it is for a guy to start falling for a girl. Hell, the first date and we're already crazy about her. Unfortunately this doesn't happen for a girl and that is why they have so much patience in the beginning. And it's probably why they tend to flake. They're instinct is too develop a lot of trust and comfort first. It's just nature. On of the best ways to develop your patience is spinning your plates. When you have options you will naturally be busy and have a lot more patience. You may have heard this many times before but I just wanted to reiterate the point and show real life examples. Sarge on!
My friend just got kicked to the LJBF zone last night for the hundreth time. He's a great guy, above average looks, charming, outgoing. But he keeps getting the LJBF line from every girl he dates. I mean at first, girls like him because he's somewhat agressive, he's very confident. He's the kind of guy who has absolutely no fear when approaching girls. But what happens?
Well, the exact trait that first attracts the ladies, is the exact trait that brings him to his downfall. He's just too agressive and has absolutely no PATIENCE. He's the kind of guy who needs answers all the time and just cannot relax. And that's whats going on with his girls. He's texting too much, always wants to know where she is, and tries to move things to the next level too soon. Now if he just played it cool, didn't care what she did or where she was, and showed that he was always busy, I wouldn't be writing about him right now.
And lastly my own experience. I recently signed up for an online dating site. I've never had one so I thought I'd give it a try. Anyways, I was writing emails to HB8 and we were getting along fine. I never gave her my number, I never asked for hers. I never tried to set anything up, just teased her and played some C&F. Well, she finally wrote me a message saying, "Ok that's enough! Here is my number ###-#### hope to hear from you!" When I finally talked to her she said I was so different from all the guys that were constantly hitting on her. She said all these strangers were trying to set dates the next day, and emailing her constantly. In the meantime I rarely emailed her and when I did it was good. She said that she couldnt take it anymore and had to give me her number! And she said she never does this!
It's hard to be pateint sometimes, especially when your dealing with someone very attractive. I mean sometimes I just want to set something up this weekend, email her, or send a text. But I fight those urges and remember that Patience is a virtue and that it will pay big dividends at the end. Also remember, it takes a girl a lot longer to start falling for a guy, than it is for a guy to start falling for a girl. Hell, the first date and we're already crazy about her. Unfortunately this doesn't happen for a girl and that is why they have so much patience in the beginning. And it's probably why they tend to flake. They're instinct is too develop a lot of trust and comfort first. It's just nature. On of the best ways to develop your patience is spinning your plates. When you have options you will naturally be busy and have a lot more patience. You may have heard this many times before but I just wanted to reiterate the point and show real life examples. Sarge on!