hey im a new member can someone please give me some advice on my problem

i'm really having trouble talking to women, i like get really nervous when i see a beautiful girl i want to talk to. my mouth starts getting dry and heart beats quickly and i end up doing nothing and it just don't seem to stop happening. when i go chat rooms and talk to women i come across really good to them and they are really interested in me and find me funny, but when it comes to the real thing it just goes totally wrong. Even when i do talk to them it just comes out boring and i ask stupid questions. I feel really confident sometimes, but as soon as a situation comes straight in my faace involving a nice woman my confidence shatters and i just go quiet. i'm really hoping for some advice that will solve my problem so please can someone help me.

mr elor is right. the dj bible is full of good advice.

but what works good for me is my own little trick: whenever i see a nice woman, I just imagine that she's a class mate of mine or co-worker whatever. you know, just people who i naturally talk to. besides that, it really helps to have a plan prepared. like, what do you say when she ignores you, what do you say if she's nice, for every case. it's like an exam. when you're not prepared you're nervous. but when you know exactly what problems might occur and you already have the solutions to them, you won't worry because you can't fail.

you know what I'm trying to say? just try to be ****y-funny and act as if you been knowing her all your life

thank you very much. what makes me nervous around women, well at a point when i come across a beautiful woman i just think ill just end up looking desperate and stupid if i talk to her. when i do pull the courage out the conversation just ends up sour and boring and then i get worried it will happen the next time.

and another problem that destroys my confidence is when there is more than 1 woman because im always worried what the other one will say or do.

thanks guys i owe ya ill get reading cheers

This is a typical problem 123, I used to have it and at times still do. The thing is, the more you face the fear and nervousness, the lesser it becomes.

Don't be worried about looking stupid, when you look back on it it will only make you laugh.

i know exactly what you mean when you say that you get nervous when the girl you want to approach ain't by herself.

i tell you what. that used to be my biggest fear. but now i love it. i'm actually more nervous when i talk to a girl who's by herself. and I tell you why. when there are two girls it's easier to keep the conversation going. and you can keep them guessing cause they won't know who you're interested in. sometimes they even start to compete for your attention.

just read the dj bible. "the weapons of mass seduction" is an incredible piece and very entertaining too.

when you approach a group of girls, look at the situation like this:

imagine it would be you standing around with a friend of yours and a girl approaches you. would you think she's stupid? no! you'd be like "yeah!" lol

you would want to talk to her (if she's hot lol) but you know, it's the same thing when you approach her. so don't worry. just be prepared. it makes a better impression when you approach a group because it takes more confidence to do that and the girls know that.

if you don't read the bible, then at least DAFS! I ain't mad, but to senior members here, you get really old and will not get much good help if you don't do some work on your own finding the info that is published here.

Mods really should close this like they say in the sticky.