MightyMate
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Yeah walking away is best stuff. I always do that and it works.
I'll add a little something to that. Be sure you have a hottie all over you, when you are surrounding them with this empathy and understanding. Living well is the best revenge.Originally posted by Roly
My best advice to anyone who's still bitter over a break up, angry, or sworn to shut out their exes in their lives is forgive them and still love them from a friendly level, surround them with empathy and understanding.
Hell, I've had some nasty break ups but I was able to forgive my exes for their " flaws" and at least keep in good terms with all of them.
We tend to feel in general that if we were to stay angry, get revenge, " get even" and shut people out of our lives that we'd tend to feel better, but the rest is far from you.
I know it might sound corny, but only through love, forgiveness, compassion and understanding that we may find peace and move on.
" You can't move on, if you can't let go." - Steven Dimasco
Yes, this hit the nail on the head. When a man walks away, the woman is bound and determined to do one of three things.Originally posted by WestCoaster
I believe in walking away before forgiveness. Sorry, but I think forgiveness is for marriage and engaged couples. Early on if you're crapped on you'll be crapped on in the future. Forgiving bad behavior enables that person to commit more bad behavior.
Walk away ... nothing bothers a woman more than a MAN who can walk away. Well, actually one thing bothers them more: seeing the MAN with another better woman. That drives them nuts.
:cheer: Fantastic story, I love the part about the other women and the grapevine. It's all true.Originally posted by KarmaSutra
Accept my thanks to you brothers who understand where I'm coming from.
I won't lie and say it's been the easiest road for me to pave but it's enriched me moreso than anything I've done thus far in 32 years.
Funny thing is, Once she (Ex-wife) heard through the grapevine that I was out with women younger and much prettier than she, Her attraction towards me went through the roof. She came by my apartment and fell on the floor sobbing and saying how sorry she was and how much she wants her husband back.
I saw this for what it was, A ploy to get back what she realized was the best thing that she'd ever had. I didn't take the bait and kindly escorted her to my bed and did things to her that are illegal in Thailand.
When I was done firing hot clam chowder up her dirtchute, I asked her to please leave and never come back or I would call the authorities and have her arrested for trespassing.
What I know now is the more I believe in myself and my abilities
the happier and more stable I become.
Props to you guys out there livin',
Karma
Originally posted by JackPrescott
:cheer: Fantastic story, I love the part about the other women and the grapevine. It's all true.
Originally posted by Oxide
Yes, in the process of letting them come back, you are destroying your own backbone.
My problem is that I am too lazy to take the time involved to fukk around with women IN GENERAL. I told my friends the other day that it would be at least TWO YEARS before I get into another relationship. They were like "Yea RIGHT!" I'll never say never, but it's gonna take one HELL of a woman to get me to give up what I got going for myself right now.On a similar note, does anybody else her have a problem GETTING into relationships with girls simply because there is no desire to exchange your time for sex? My roommate spends at least 3 hours with his girl EVERY DAY. What do they do? -- Giggle for 2 hours laying on the couch and get it on for the last hour. I can not comprehend the idea of such poor time management - i guess that is why i will remain single for a loooong time
Originally posted by ElChoclo
1 If a woman has threatened you with false accusations and you have split up, it isn't exactly wise to be making any deposits in her dirtchute,
This is as real as it gets. Goals seem to be a thing of the past.Originally posted by joekerr31
so many men out there throwing their lives away on the worthless women instead of having some standards and going in search of the good ones.
J
Originally posted by ElChoclo
Karma, sorry, I've made too many ass umptions about your grasp of the issues.
Now lets suppose some fruitcake chick wants to make a man's life harder than it has to be. Let's suppose she says "Mr Policeman, my partner raped me" Cop "Well let's get forensics to check you out." My oh my your jismprint matches her story perfectly and the rest depends on her testimony versus yours. You being the enraged ex venting his jealousy by physical methods.
I would suggest that if you were worried about a frame up for beating her up it would be easier to argue that her bruises came from something other than your knuckle than it would be too argue that your essence got into her hostile body in a friendly fashion.
ABSOLUTLEY BRILLIANT. Sheer Genius, the greatest post ever. That is WONDERFUL fuc*ing advice, my man, you need to write a book, many, many men would benefit from your wisdom, and leave many bewildered and angry women in their wake.Originally posted by The Anti Dr Phil
I've seen you guys post many reasons why it's hard for men to walk away, despite being in horrendous situations, except one very important reason. One of THE most important reasons, in my humble opinion.
Bottom line - Most men don't want to endure the thought of another man invading his territory; another man laying his woman. It doesn't matter if a man's woman is the most evil creature on the planet, a man doesn't want to endure that thought. People (men and women) are territorial, and people find it difficult to walk away because of the aformentioned reason. Many of you may disagree, but really think about it for 11 seconds. Some people would STILL feel a twinge of jealously if they were to see an ex out with someone else years later, so you can imagine what that internal struggle must be like when the wound is still fresh. Fortunately, women endure the same internal battles/demons, so I say do the smart thing and gain the upperhand by leaving the relationship first. Wicked? Perhaps, but thems the breaks.
In my opinion, he who walks away first leaves with the relationship with the most power. And leaving with the most power and dignity is akin to winning the break-up war. But if you really want to get your hands dirty, engage in psychological warfare, and introduce the trifecta into the equation. Leave the relationship 1st, without closure (which is key), and without a trace. This gem of a maneauver is akin to dropping a nuclear or bilogical weapon in the break-up war, and it can take a person years to recover. It's but one in many steps of what I like to call The Anti Dr Phil's "Medeival Torture Methods" - aka extreme psychological warfare. Closure and forgiveness are NOT an option.
So with that being the ugly and smelly facts, I will behoove me to leave first, if I can help it. The person who chooses to ride it out is usually left with the most emotionally baggage/battle scars, and their self esteem takes an even greater hit. Not only will said individual be left with the unnerving feeling that they didn't have the strength to leave first, they are left toiling in emotional uncertainty wondering what you're doing, "who you're doing", and why you didn't attempt to work things out. Their self esteem takes a hit, and it leaves them with a feeling of lowered self worth. A feeling of "he loved me the least because he had the power to walk away first - with a trace". Nothing lowers a persons self esteem quicker than dealing with feelings of rejection. And there is no feeling of rejection worse than being jilted by a former lover. Knowing all of that, a person would be an absolute fool to not leave first.
Not only would I leave, I'd dissappear like Keyser Soza (Usual Suspects), never to be seen or heard from again. And if she did see you again months or years later??? Take that time in between to self improve to ridiculous lengths, which would drive the stake home even further. It's a subconcious way of saying, "not only did I not need you, I didn't respect you enough to say goodbye". And as a kick in the tail on the way out, "I got even better without you".
Is it an @sshole move? Yep. But no one ever said war and breakups weren't ugly.
That said, if a person is married or has children, of course this would be a tad hard-core...but for general relationships??? I am unmerciful.