OK BOYS>>... this is how it goes.... any married guy over 40 will agree.... especially if he has kids...
SO : When you are with a girl, it's just you and her... that is one thing... totally different to marriage... and a world away from marriage or LTR with kids....
It's you and her... She's in love with you, you care (and maybe provide) for her... great..... you think you've met your match....
She's your friend, confidant, lover, partner... she helps you around the house, shares the chores, maybe earns a little money, helps pay the bills, you can trust her.....
Fantastic....
Except this is a temporary situation....
First you get married, or at least get more committed... slowly your lives intertwine... maybe you sign a lease or buy a house together, your possessions, furniture, belongings, start to merge... you're getting exited about the future.... she's getting more comfortable... she doesn't need to work quite so hard to be sure that she's got you snagged.....
she can slack off on sex a little... perhaps she doesn't feel like it she won't make the effort.... perhaps she won't help out around the house quite as much, perhaps she won't dress as nice, perhaps she'll spend more of her money on herself..... more time with her friends or family... she'll put more demands on to you....
effectively she will start to lean on you.... start to use the relationship rather than contribute to it.
ops.....
and this is before children come along....
she may swear blind she doesn't want kids.... but as she passes 30 that will creep up on her... accidents can happen subconsciously if not on purpose....
if the urge for children is open and conscious, she'll subtlety push it on you, women are very clever manipulators.
women sometimes laugh between themselves, about how stupid men are.... and men are stupid in regards to women and their games....
i'm not saying this spitefully i'm just explaining to guys out there how women function.
women are out for themselves for what they want, and they play a long slow game, it's not done on purpose, they don't even know they are playing it half the time, and much of it is simply the natural function of the procreation of the species, that ultimately uses men as providers and fools them with sex, and the promise of life long companionship....
even if you don't have kids, she will be comfortable once you're in a long term relationship...
YOU have to make her work for it.... You can make it more difficult for her, make sure she carries on serving you, and contributing.....
There are theories about making marriage work and ways of spicing things up, and it can work it's true ... but for an independent, ambitious or creative man, marriage is a compromise... and not in a good way... it's one that leaves a good man "compromised"....
You may remember that great handsome guy in school who had a girl friend long before everyone else... he was always having sleep overs and snogging sessions with her.... but somehow around her, she seemed to make him weak.... sappy..... she had him wrapped around her finger... he was her puppy dog....
this is what women naturally do to men.... they use them..... men are a vehicle..... a means to an end..... it's just the natural mechanics... it's not done on purpose.....
NOW we get deeper into it....
Once a girl has a child... she is now a mother and a woman. That is TOTALLY different to the girl you once knew. When that baby comes out of her... she might as well be dead.... That girl is no more....
First of all... a woman who has a child will always love that child more than her husband... you are now no#2... sorry boy.....add a second kid and you are now her no#3..... down you slip.... add a nanny or house keeper and you're beneath her too... since the nanny is vital to your baby momma's care of the children and YOU ARE NOT ... not so much boy.....
sorry.......
down you slip......
children need constant attention, care, birthday parties, Christmas presents, school concerts... she loves her kids more than she loves you.... children NOT a husband makes a woman complete.....
Did you enjoy your childhood and school years ?
nah... pretty mundane and crap right..... well guess what.... she did.... and she's happy to be back in all that childish world, because in truth.... she thinks much like a child does... but she's also a mother.... she's your mother now..... you are roped to school functions, other kids birthday parties, minding the kids and all manner of tedious and mundane chores.....
now the nagging starts... you'll feel like the unwanted teenage step son, except where is dad to appeal to... oh you're dad... so how come momma won't listen...... ah well she's an empower woman now, a mother and it's just so wasy for her to put the fear of god into you, and control you.... just as your mother programed you to be controlled when you were a child....
it's a mans world.... ha.... when you are in it... but in the home it's a woman's world.... and you were programmed to submit, night and day for years by your own mother... years you cannot even remember....
oh well... at least you still have your good old friend and horny girl in bed....
WRONG!!!
she's had kids now, she doesn't need any more sex.... anyway.... she'll be too tired for sex most days, and most likely packed on 10+kg.... cellulite, flabby belly.... she might pretend she doesn't care, and she might not, but one way or another her loss of her looks also massively increases her insecurities... you know all those women body issues... well add the square root for a 35+ mother of two and add it again for every year after that......
insecurity breeds fear.... fear breeds all kinds of problems..... unspoken,complex ones that a poor logical male can never get to the bottom of.... he will die of cancer or a heart attack digging to the bottom of her issues..... there is no bottom.....
you're like the frog, you got cooked..... the water got hotter and hotter, the years slipped by and suddenly you are stuck with an angrier, bossier, more entitled version of your mother......
i can assure you there is no more miserable and tedious place in the world than a sexless, marriage, lauded over by her jealousy and insecurities....
and you thought you were getting married for companionship, trust, great sex,
hahahahahaha....
NO!
Understand that you are getting married to be the work horse that supports the family.
You are getting married so SHE can have a nice comfortable life... your life is not so important, it's the children that are important now.
You can look forward to creaking about when you hit 60 and they leave home, you can reminisce about the good old days before you had kids. You can remember the hot one night stand you had when you were 23... you can remember your buddies they are all fat and married too now, John died of a heart attack last week.... you'd lost touch.... you can have some memories.... ok..... like a guy in jail can remember before he was locked up....
you can have some hobbies, you're retired now, but remember most of your working capital was spent on the kids, so you'll only have a meager pension... maybe you can afford a cheap set of golf clubs or some crappy little sailing boat. you can go and lick your wounds on your own.... and she can make snide jokes to her friends as you come into her house....
Oh yes, make no mistake... the married home is her house.... absolutely.... what were you thinking of.... oh you thought you could share....
hahahahhahahahaha
You thought you could share you're life with your lover and confident...
But your lover and confidant is not your mother, or your baby momma.
OPS
Where did you go wrong.
OH Sorry... 75+ just hit...
G A M E - O V E R
SO : When you are with a girl, it's just you and her... that is one thing... totally different to marriage... and a world away from marriage or LTR with kids....
It's you and her... She's in love with you, you care (and maybe provide) for her... great..... you think you've met your match....
She's your friend, confidant, lover, partner... she helps you around the house, shares the chores, maybe earns a little money, helps pay the bills, you can trust her.....
Fantastic....
Except this is a temporary situation....
First you get married, or at least get more committed... slowly your lives intertwine... maybe you sign a lease or buy a house together, your possessions, furniture, belongings, start to merge... you're getting exited about the future.... she's getting more comfortable... she doesn't need to work quite so hard to be sure that she's got you snagged.....
she can slack off on sex a little... perhaps she doesn't feel like it she won't make the effort.... perhaps she won't help out around the house quite as much, perhaps she won't dress as nice, perhaps she'll spend more of her money on herself..... more time with her friends or family... she'll put more demands on to you....
effectively she will start to lean on you.... start to use the relationship rather than contribute to it.
ops.....
and this is before children come along....
she may swear blind she doesn't want kids.... but as she passes 30 that will creep up on her... accidents can happen subconsciously if not on purpose....
if the urge for children is open and conscious, she'll subtlety push it on you, women are very clever manipulators.
women sometimes laugh between themselves, about how stupid men are.... and men are stupid in regards to women and their games....
i'm not saying this spitefully i'm just explaining to guys out there how women function.
women are out for themselves for what they want, and they play a long slow game, it's not done on purpose, they don't even know they are playing it half the time, and much of it is simply the natural function of the procreation of the species, that ultimately uses men as providers and fools them with sex, and the promise of life long companionship....
even if you don't have kids, she will be comfortable once you're in a long term relationship...
YOU have to make her work for it.... You can make it more difficult for her, make sure she carries on serving you, and contributing.....
There are theories about making marriage work and ways of spicing things up, and it can work it's true ... but for an independent, ambitious or creative man, marriage is a compromise... and not in a good way... it's one that leaves a good man "compromised"....
You may remember that great handsome guy in school who had a girl friend long before everyone else... he was always having sleep overs and snogging sessions with her.... but somehow around her, she seemed to make him weak.... sappy..... she had him wrapped around her finger... he was her puppy dog....
this is what women naturally do to men.... they use them..... men are a vehicle..... a means to an end..... it's just the natural mechanics... it's not done on purpose.....
NOW we get deeper into it....
Once a girl has a child... she is now a mother and a woman. That is TOTALLY different to the girl you once knew. When that baby comes out of her... she might as well be dead.... That girl is no more....
First of all... a woman who has a child will always love that child more than her husband... you are now no#2... sorry boy.....add a second kid and you are now her no#3..... down you slip.... add a nanny or house keeper and you're beneath her too... since the nanny is vital to your baby momma's care of the children and YOU ARE NOT ... not so much boy.....
sorry.......
down you slip......
children need constant attention, care, birthday parties, Christmas presents, school concerts... she loves her kids more than she loves you.... children NOT a husband makes a woman complete.....
Did you enjoy your childhood and school years ?
nah... pretty mundane and crap right..... well guess what.... she did.... and she's happy to be back in all that childish world, because in truth.... she thinks much like a child does... but she's also a mother.... she's your mother now..... you are roped to school functions, other kids birthday parties, minding the kids and all manner of tedious and mundane chores.....
now the nagging starts... you'll feel like the unwanted teenage step son, except where is dad to appeal to... oh you're dad... so how come momma won't listen...... ah well she's an empower woman now, a mother and it's just so wasy for her to put the fear of god into you, and control you.... just as your mother programed you to be controlled when you were a child....
it's a mans world.... ha.... when you are in it... but in the home it's a woman's world.... and you were programmed to submit, night and day for years by your own mother... years you cannot even remember....
oh well... at least you still have your good old friend and horny girl in bed....
WRONG!!!
she's had kids now, she doesn't need any more sex.... anyway.... she'll be too tired for sex most days, and most likely packed on 10+kg.... cellulite, flabby belly.... she might pretend she doesn't care, and she might not, but one way or another her loss of her looks also massively increases her insecurities... you know all those women body issues... well add the square root for a 35+ mother of two and add it again for every year after that......
insecurity breeds fear.... fear breeds all kinds of problems..... unspoken,complex ones that a poor logical male can never get to the bottom of.... he will die of cancer or a heart attack digging to the bottom of her issues..... there is no bottom.....
you're like the frog, you got cooked..... the water got hotter and hotter, the years slipped by and suddenly you are stuck with an angrier, bossier, more entitled version of your mother......
i can assure you there is no more miserable and tedious place in the world than a sexless, marriage, lauded over by her jealousy and insecurities....
and you thought you were getting married for companionship, trust, great sex,
hahahahahaha....
NO!
Understand that you are getting married to be the work horse that supports the family.
You are getting married so SHE can have a nice comfortable life... your life is not so important, it's the children that are important now.
You can look forward to creaking about when you hit 60 and they leave home, you can reminisce about the good old days before you had kids. You can remember the hot one night stand you had when you were 23... you can remember your buddies they are all fat and married too now, John died of a heart attack last week.... you'd lost touch.... you can have some memories.... ok..... like a guy in jail can remember before he was locked up....
you can have some hobbies, you're retired now, but remember most of your working capital was spent on the kids, so you'll only have a meager pension... maybe you can afford a cheap set of golf clubs or some crappy little sailing boat. you can go and lick your wounds on your own.... and she can make snide jokes to her friends as you come into her house....
Oh yes, make no mistake... the married home is her house.... absolutely.... what were you thinking of.... oh you thought you could share....
hahahahhahahahaha
You thought you could share you're life with your lover and confident...
But your lover and confidant is not your mother, or your baby momma.
OPS
Where did you go wrong.
OH Sorry... 75+ just hit...
G A M E - O V E R
Though I think most younger guys are just horny and view women as sexual objects.. Your "wife" should be a companion, someone who supports you and wants to see you do better and ect... Its up to you to screen these ho's!
