What girls face from online dating sites...

Well, I raised a stink on this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=184618

Recently, though, I got another girl on the popular "Plenty-o-Fish" dating website to tell me about some of the experiences she's had. I had been talking to her previously and I saw her online, so I asked her, "how's fishing". In response to that, I got something of a frustrated lament.

This is a girl who seems to be pretty straight-up...has her life together, runs her own business, good family, fairly good looking. Might be breaking the "8"s...I'd have to meet her in person first to tell.

Some of the more interesting comments:

- One guy she got on a date with told her he was being evaluated by Social Security for disability due to "mental health issues". He swore he was just trying to "work the system". When she broke contact with him, though, he would NOT stop texting her.

- Another she says "lied about so much I had no idea what was the truth".

- Another she dated for a while until she found out he had "an ex-gf that hadn't moved out yet".

- She said she could start her own porn website with all the pen!s pics she received...completely unsolicited. She also said guys would vid-chat with her and just start taking their pants off. This is probably in addition to the "hey baby I'd like to" messages that we all know about.

I guess this kind of explains why the girl from the previous thread went berserk over what I saw as a MILD suggestive statement that I thoroughly expected her to shrug off as "idle banter".

For women on common dating websites, the experience is HELL. Everyone laughs about "dating internet weirdos", but on PoF at least, the joke is actually a scary truth. Girls lie about two things...their weight and how many kids they have. Guys lie about EVERYTHING, and the greater majority of them are either sex-crazed perverts or creeps who women won't go NEAR in real-life.

That REALLY stacks the odds against a "normal guy" trying to get through. It doesn't mean you can't "go fishing", but don't be surprised if women don't trust a word you say, and it sounds like you NEED to tread on eggshells with regard to sex, at least until you meet in person, and then you can go with the subtle eye-contact/kino stuff you would normally use.

In fact, you may be better off creating an interesting profile and letting the women find YOU.

I've also heard that it's a little better on some of the "pay sites", because casual weirdos often won't invest MONEY when they know their chances of landing a girl aren't good. (free probing doesn't hurt anything) But I have yet to test that.

All I can say is that suddenly, after this conversation, I understand. I mean, I expected a lot of guys on there to be socially awkward and girls to get turned off, but when she started talking about wang-pics, I was just dumbstruck.

Oh, and if you're ribs-showing thin, don't take a shirtless pic. Girls over the age of 18 don't find that attractive. Hit the gym. In fact, shirtless pics in general = automatic rejection. Apparently THAT is a lot more prevalent than I thought as well.

squirrels said:

- Another she says "lied about so much I had no idea what was the truth".

- Another she dated for a while until she found out he had "an ex-gf that hadn't moved out yet".

- She said she could start her own porn website with all the pen!s pics she received...completely unsolicited. She also said guys would vid-chat with her and just start taking their pants off. This is probably in addition to the "hey baby I'd like to" messages that we all know about.

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Lol, all guys from the DJ Forum, no doubt
Her complaint about the penis pictures reminds me of how Roissy is always pushing the ASCII penis is an appropriate response for practically anything.

It's surprising to see any empathy here for what women have to go through, squirrels. There's a lot of whining here about how they have it so good, and they have so many options and all this, but there's no way I would change places with them for anything.

One thing that's overlooked here is their disadvantage as the physically weaker sex. They really need to screen out the pervs and creeps or their lives could easily be in danger. For the most part, that isn't something guys have to worry about when it comes to dating.

I like this post squirrels.

I get the sense that you are opening up to new ways of thinking.

This chicks experiences on POF are indicative of just how lame so many guys are.

There is so much time spent trashing women around here when it is really both sex's fault for the current state affairs.

One bonus to all this though, is that if you can set yourself apart from the masses of wang exposing dorks it makes things a lot easier.

I wrote an articulate, intelligent profile talking about interests and that I'm looking for a person to share them with and sat back.

Never did have to initiate one conversation. The women came to me.
Many commented or even thanked me for a "normal" e-chat.

The most shocking story I heard from a women, is that she was kissing someone she met there (after 4th date), but told him not to expect much else, and he dry humped her leg for 20 seconds and jizzed in his pants.

Oh ya, women lie about their age too.

MB

Slickster said:

I like this post squirrels.

I get the sense that you are opening up to new ways of thinking.

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ditto this

Why has my fake online female profile never received a single penis picture? This epidemic seems to be greatly exaggerated. How many guys would do this? 1 out of 1000?

The profile has never gotten a ""hey baby I'd like to" either. It's almost exclusively just boring "hey beautiful" type stuff.

mrRuckus said:

Why has my fake online female profile never received a single penis picture? This epidemic seems to be greatly exaggerated. How many guys would do this? 1 out of 1000?

The profile has never gotten a ""hey baby I'd like to" either. It's almost exclusively just boring "hey beautiful" type stuff.

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I imagine your fake profile might be a bit too hot.
Find some more ditch-piggish pictures, bubble up the profile and try.

Don't humanise the enemy, squirrels!

mrRuckus said:

Why has my fake online female profile never received a single penis picture? This epidemic seems to be greatly exaggerated. How many guys would do this? 1 out of 1000?

The profile has never gotten a ""hey baby I'd like to" either. It's almost exclusively just boring "hey beautiful" type stuff.

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Do you actually try to talk to any of these guys?

Even a total perv isn't going to whip his d!ck out until he's sure you're looking.

I had a talk with one of my on and of again FB's about this who I met on POF coincidentally. She gets about 10-15msg's per day. She was showing me some of the msg's and it was guys in decent shape being lame etc. Granted she could lose some major weight (sadly she is a fattie now). But the fact that guys were clamoring for her confirmed what I already knew about online dating

"Oh Please...Please feel sorry for me (sniffle, sniff). I just got 100 emails from desperate guys who want to date me,
wine and dine me and take me on expensive trips, but over half of them sent me a picture of their penises!"​

squirrels said:

In fact, you may be better off creating an interesting profile and letting the women find YOU.

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Ah! A smart realization, my friend! It only works, however, when you're average+ and have a killer, funny profile with great pics. Otherwise, you're gonna be "forever alone" using online dating this way.

I've also heard that it's a little better on some of the "pay sites", because casual weirdos often won't invest MONEY when they know their chances of landing a girl aren't good. (free probing doesn't hurt anything) But I have yet to test that.

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I also think so but I have no hard facts to corroborate it.

Giving us the Gospel Tonight..."Brotha Todd!"

lol....

sure nuff da truth!

Todd Preston said:

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"Oh Please...Please feel sorry for me (sniffle, sniff). I just got 100 emails from desperate guys who want to date me,
wine and dine me and take me on expensive trips, but over half of them sent me a picture of their penises!"​

LOL....!

Women are such "Con Artists" and Men are "So Gullible"

This chiks is complaining ? ? ?

Ask her how much her membership was?

What about the HELL that MEN are put through on those Humiliating, degrading, Emasculating Dates Sites?

• Women don't even PAY to be members of those sites (can you believe that???...verify it...you'll see).
• Half of those ads from women, don't exist,
• pics are so old from high school,
• when you come get them, you don't recognize the girl. (IF she's sitting down when you meet her, make sure she gets up so you can see the rest of her. Most them are hiding their lower body under the table)
• have numerous psych issues
• have baggage from 2-3 relationships prior
• looking for a sugar daddy to spend his hard earned money on them so they
  can take a break from the REAL WORLD that men have to face everyday.

...yeah lets feel sorry for women.

Here are the Real World Stats

• -Men make up 90% of the world prison population
• -Men make up 75% of the mental institution population
• -Men make up 80% of the Homeless popluation
• -Men are 12 times more likely to be murdered
• -Men live 10-15% lower life span.
• -Men comprise 75% of the critical care patients in hospitals
• -etc

i could go on but don't have the time.

Hey Squirels...follow this rule when it comes to women: "Believe none of what you hear...and half of what you See!"​

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Jitterbug said:

Don't humanise the enemy, squirrels!

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If women are the enemy what does it say about us guys that we are trying to get with them. A lot of times this site can sound really sexist.

Squirrels while I'm not saying that the girl you chatted with you is a liar. I've known from experience that a lot of women like to exaggerate in order to gain sympathy and further their personal agenda. Next time you meet with a woman who broke up with her ex ask what happened a lot of times you'd never hear her say anything about the negative role she played in all of it. Instead what you hear is how bad the man was. Yet this man isn't here to defend himself.

If a lot of those women took a more proactive approach in reading a guy's profile and contacting him they could actually make good contacts. The annoying thing is you see the fat girls deluding themselves and try to get a guy they know they don't deserve.

Dear Squirrels,
I went to the trouble of asking five different girls about their online dating experiences...Sure this is Australia but Not one bad incident reported.Three cases of guys putting the hard word on them,in that they wanted the Girls to tell of their attitude to taking on a Lover....In my opinion,that should be mandatory anyway,though I suppose there are a number of give away clues....about six years ago there was a case bought to my attention of a Guy who supposedly took over a Ladies E.Mail,stalked her and so on....Is that possible? No I think these girls are just echoing Urban myths fostered by scare mongering in the media.

squirrels said:

- She said she could start her own porn website with all the pen!s pics she received...completely unsolicited. She also said guys would vid-chat with her and just start taking their pants off. This is probably in addition to the "hey baby I'd like to" messages that we all know about.

For women on common dating websites, the experience is HELL. Everyone laughs about "dating internet weirdos", but on PoF at least, the joke is actually a scary truth. Girls lie about two things...their weight and how many kids they have. Guys lie about EVERYTHING, and the greater majority of them are either sex-crazed perverts or creeps who women won't go NEAR in real-life.

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So why do these B|TCHES stay on the site if it's such a "hell" for them??? BECAUSE THEY'RE ATTENTION HORS!

I don't know about you but i would think any moral woman with a decent upbringing would have closed her account at the first foul pic she received.

I could care less what this girl you talked to has to say. She can complain about POF all she wants yet still stay on it cause she's an attention hor like 99% of women on pof.

I thought SS is one of the few places in the world I could make a sexist joke and get away with it. Apparently not!

f283000 has a point though. Why do those women stay on dating sites if it's "hell"? If I get on a dating site and am bombarded with fatty fuglies sending me pics of their hairy vags & hideous flabs, I'd be outta there before you can say "Plenty of Fatties".

I've renowned from know-how that many of women like to overstate in alignment to gain understanding and farther their individual agenda. Next time you rendezvous with a woman who smashed up with her ex inquire what occurred many of times you'd not ever discover her state any thing about the contradictory function she performed in all of it

Truth is I have done fairly well in online dating. When most of your competition is idiots emailing pictures of their junk, you stand out for being normal. In many ways online dating is like real life. Ninety percent of the people you interact with you don't want to get involved with.

POF has been amazing for both just sex and meeting more serious propects. I signed up in April and took my profile down last week since I'm getting serious with someone I met on there. I can't believe I used to badmouth online dating without actually seriously trying it.

My online game is great and thankfully there are so many weirdos and wackjobs out there that it helped me stand out instantly. Instead of having to try hard women were more receptive to me.