My self-improvement program

3rd night out in a row.

Today I got up after not much sleep and spent the whole day driving around, running errands, doing sh*t that needs to be done (I drove a couple hundred miles, mostly city. That tires the sh*t out of you). So, when evening fell, I was pretty damn tired and didn't really feel like going out.

But I went anyway.


Same club. Huge place, like 7 rooms. Sadly no karaoke this time, but awesome live music. I wander around a bit, make a chat left and right, but I'm not getting in the zone yet. Tired, having trouble keeping the energy up. Voice in head: "Plough on, don't give up, you p*ssy."

Then I see a girl sitting all by herself. She is really pretty. Like not in-your-face smoking hot, but just this really beautiful little thingy. She had that little extra something that just catches your eye right away. I sit next to her and start a conversation. It turns out she's in the military flying helicopers and that she's playing ice hockey in her spare time. Total badass chick, but she is super, super shy. I'm pretty physical, but she doesn't really react to it; neither positive nor negative. Usually they either tell me to f*ck off right away, or they're into it. But not her, it was like she didn't really know how to deal with it or something. I couldn't get an emotion out of her.

She finds her friends, who are also in the air force. One other chick who flies airplanes, and one dude who's flying fighter jets. I hung out with them, talked and it was all good.

At one point I talk to my girl again and pull her on the dancefloor. Now, I'm not a good dancer, but what I usually do is just move around with the rhythm a little and the chick dances herself too. The last few times I did that it ended up in some nice grinding action. Hey, it worked last week, right? But she really wanted me to lead, like in classical dancing. I did really try, but like I said, I'm not a dancer; don't have the rhythm and moves and sh*t.

I went in for the kiss when I thought I saw a green light but she turned away. I pulled her into another room and kept going from where I left off. She told me she thought I was being a little "too frisky". I just said I love that sh*t and love giving people hugs, but she said it made her uncomfortable.

I got her number and said we should meet up. She was like "okay, sure", but again, almost too shy to say yes or no. I just didn't really knew what to do with this chick.

And again, why was she so shy? She had the looks of a movie star. I know I'm a handsome guy, but I'm sure she gets approached by all kinds of guys all the time.


I approached a bunch of other chicks but my battery was just empty, nothing really worked out.

But you know, still. New experiences, new situations and I did push myself to whatever I could get out of the night. Differences:

2 days ago and yesterday=high energy
today=low energy

And the results show that I think.

Also again, no drinking. Same with last night. I'm sober for a week now, which is good. I have been drinking way too hard the last few years.

Well, that's it for today. I'm really motivated and positive about everything at the moment and I'm sure more awesomeness will ensue.

By the way, I just realized that a year ago, I'd probably be psyched to have gotten a number, especially from a really beautiful girl. Now I just don't really care about that and think it kinda sucks I didn't get a makeout or got her home. Hmm... definitely progress here.

Stay tuned.


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Good stuff snowdog and welcome to this continent :rockon:. Ironically Florida is the only state that doesn't have snow, well until you came along I guess.

That IS ****ing cool. Thanks for pointing out that ironic little fact. Man, I gotta say I love the south, man. I made so many really cool friends here so easily. Again, stay tuned, cos this whole deal has been a huge adventure and confidence boost so far.

Just got a number from a chick from my class. Total hottie, great figure. She runs marathons and ****.

Well I went out yesterday. I went out with some other international students, they're from Sweden. There were two girls, one blonde and one brunette. They are both hot, but I especially like the blonde. We have some fun in the cab, I'm riding with the two girls and one of other guys. Laughs, ****s 'n giggles, I'm the center of the little party in the cab. When we get out I put my arm around the blonde Claw style and we walk down the street towards the bar. She puts her arm around me as well. It's like we're a couple, haha. Later on it turns out the guy that was riding in the cab is her boyfriend, but everytime I grabbed her in a way that very clearly showed my intentions she went with it and the guy just kept his distance. It was weird. I only knew because one of the other guys in the group told me that they were a couple, otherwise I wouldn't had known. From that point on, I took it easy, because I like these folks and I see them as my friends.

From now on I focus on the brunette. We hang out, have fun. She's nice. But, every time I make advances, she sorta pulls back. I'm being super physical as well. At one point the group splits in two. The one half goes to some dance club around the corner that is just f*ckin' PACKED. The other half hangs back in the bar for a while to join them later. I'm in the latter group, because it was just too crowded to have any fun. We seperate, I slap both girls on their asses at the same time and we go on our own way. I drink a few beers with the guys and we bond a little. It feels good making new friends.


Off to the dance club. One pretty big hall, they play hip hop and house or some ****. I don't care. I try to dance and mess around with the Swedish brunette but she keeps her distance. Probably because she's with her friend group.

There were dangerous looking guys walking around there and I wouldn't be suprised if they were having guns on them either, because that **** is legal where I am right now. I'm talking about dudes with prison tattoos in their face and sh*t. While I was taking a piss, one enormous guy with tattoos all over his huge arms standing next to me was sorta trying to intimidate me by mumbling something. I just reacted cool to him, telling him I couldn't understand what he said and asked if he could please repeat it. I did this in a relaxed, cool way, showing that I wasn't scared of him, but also in a completely neutral way, like I wasn't looking for trouble. It was funny to see how this completely shifted his attitude. He suddenly was like a cool guy, funny ****. I also had some interesting chats with a pretty big group of gangsta looking black dudes with diamonds in their teeth. When I was waiting to order a drink at the bar, I made it a hobby to make a chat with whomever was standing next to me. It didn't matter who it was. I had a few interesting talks with people I wouldn't normally talk to. One very funny thing I noticed, that a lot of these hard-ass looking bad mothaf*ckas with chains, tattoos and huge muscles were the biggest chodes standing on the side, watching the crowd.

I walk around and approach every hot girl I see. this was the first time for me being in a club in a month or so, and I couldn't believe how much better I was doing than usual. I went crazy and truly didn't gave a f*ck about what I was doing. I couldn't leave my coat, so I just left it on. At some point I put the rain cap on, I didn't gave a sh*t and just had fun by being ridiculous. I grabbed the hottest chicks, I grabbed two girls at the same time, I tried to go in for the kiss right away, I befriended the fatty in the group that started to ****block me right away etc. Approach, approach, approach. No closing, but a whole lot of opening and physical aggression that I hadn't did before. I tested out a whole lot of new stuff that I never did before and it was a big confidence boost. I did try to close a lot, but it didn't follow through. I dunno why. I just need some more calibration I guess.

One girl behind the bar had a very tight body and very big fake tits. This isn't a common sight around where I'm from so this was new to me to actually see a chick like this for real instead of just in a porno movie. It was funny to see a lot of the guys react to it, it was like they were scared of her. I actually managed to get her interest for a while, until I accidently knocked my beer over and it spilled on her, LMAO.

All in all a very good night now I look back on it. I learned a lot, I did things I never did before and I had some real fun, which is rare for me in a club. I could clearly recognize my old behavior in a lot of guys. I wrote this before, but this happened to me again in a new way. I’ve advanced another stage and it feels like I’m finally entering the league of the winners. Today’s horoscope: f*ck yea.

Recap:
Approaching: check
Opening: check
Confidence: check
Having fun: check
Not giving a ****: check
Getting physical: check double check
Closing: STILL NEEDS WORK.


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I got AIDS in my throat or something. I'm coughing up all this green sh*t with blood in it and I feel like I'm gonna die. Still, my drive towards chicks is alive though.

I went to the grocery store today. At the bakery was this total hottie, really cute. Blonde hair, blue eyes. There were some people in front of me, so I just waited in line and messed around with my phone a bit.

When it was my turn;

Her: Can I help you?
Me: Oh, no. I don't need anything. I just thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you. The name's Snowdog, what's yours?

Holy sh*t. I never had the balls to open a chick like this, but now I just did it and it felt like something completely normal. A nice chat ensued out of it. It turned out she was married (she showed me the ring) and even had a kid. But still, I got her blushing, great eye contact etc. She was hooked from the start. Pretty friggin' awesome. I'm gonna push this sh*t further than I could ever imagine.


But first, I gotta deal with the AIDS in my lungs.

I still got the lung-AIDS. It sucks ass and I feel like ****. ****ing flu bull**** mother****er.

Good for you for being more direct! maybe that's what will work best for you. btw I wouldn't joke about aids stuff man, kinda bad karma but hope you get better soon

Snowdog gets laid

I finally got laid, I guess.


Now here's some irony for ya. It should be my middle name really.

A couple of days ago, I sort of completely "gave up" and stopped caring about all of it. My attitude turned into "Whatever, I really don't give a **** anymore whether I get laid or not. F*ck it, maybe I’ll die as the 40 year old virgin, I really don’t give a sh*t anymore.". Lo and behold, the very same day I got the number of a pretty damn cure girl on the bus and I didn’t even try at all to do that. She basically threw it at me. Granted, I started a conversation, but that’s it.

I invited her over and she came. We made out wildly and I fingered her. I didn’t knew what the f*ck I was doing but she seemed to enjoy it. She didn’t want to have sex on the first date, so we set up another meeting. She came over again, hot making out again, clothes come off, we go to the bedroom. I eat her pu$$y and I decide I’m not a fan of what it tastes like.

She sucks my d1ck and compliments me on my size. She tells me “I’m also handsome with my clothes off”. Now here’s the thing. I couldn’t get hard. Ain’t that’s some funny sh*t. I finally have a hot girl in bed with me. God damnit I jerked off to nasty ass skanks in the past and here’s this hot chick in bed with me. We’re making out wild and she’s really hot. She has a nice slim body and great legs and my d1ck is like in hibernation mode. I get like halfway there but that’s useless.

After a few awkward moments of trying to get my spaghetti d1ck in her pu$$y, we give up and talk and cuddle a bit, which is nice. So, I finally tell her it’s my first time and she doesn’t believe me, at all. She tells me she thought I had tons of girls before because “I’m really suave and good looking and she was afraid I didn’t want to use a condom”. I tell her the short version of my story in 4 minutes, because I only think that’s fair. And whatever, I just don’t give a sh*t. It was not like I could turn this situation around into something cool. Only after all of that, she believes me. That was a confidence booster to me, because it shows to me that at least I’m on the right path, hah.

It wasn’t like an awkward moment though and I really didn’t care that much. I kinda laughed at myself like “dude, how could you possibly f*ck this up, you really like to do sh*t wrong before you get it right”. We talked and after that we drank some wine and smoked a few cigarettes and then we made out heavily again. She was still really into it and it was good.

She said she wants me to call her for sure. I promised her I will so “I could make it up to her, with a vengeance”.

So yea, I guess I’m not a virgin anymore, cos I penetrated her like half an inch with the tip of my d1ck.


Haha, I know I should be happy. And I kinda am, I guess. Don’t take that sh*t away from me now.




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Post #500. That's pretty cool.

Congratulations!!

First off, don't worry about the not getting hard thing...it was just nerves.

Secondly, this is huge because you finally got the damn monkey off your back...I remember losing mine, I think the most valuable experience of it all is just seeing how it can happen. Making that move, getting her all hot and bothered, getting her clothes off, etc. Once you do it once, you have the confidence AND technique to do it again, and again, and again

Congrats sd! Next time just relax you've already lost the v-card so just have fun and if you can't get hard tell her to suck you off or suck on her boobs or watch porn with her, you'll be ready to go in no time.

I hate to be a downer, but that does not count as s ===) x, you are still a virgin. A minimum of 10 strokes of full penetration is required.

The not getting hard has happened to every guy at least once, so don't let it get you down.

But you've had valuable experience and seen how it can happen, make sure next time you make it count.

Telling this girl you were a virgin was a mistake. You should have just passed it off as being worn out (and let her wonder from what).

No matter what she says, this girl may not meet up with you again, maybe she will...only 1 way to find out.

You are so close, now go get it.

runner83 said:

I hate to be a downer, but that does not count as s ===) x, you are still a virgin. A minimum of 10 strokes of full penetration is required.

The not getting hard has happened to every guy at least once, so don't let it get you down.

But you've had valuable experience and seen how it can happen, make sure next time you make it count.

Telling this girl you were a virgin was a mistake. You should have just passed it off as being worn out (and let her wonder from what).

No matter what she says, this girl may not meet up with you again, maybe she will...only 1 way to find out.

You are so close, now go get it.

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10 stroke minimum? This is not a handicap in golf. If any **** hard/soft gets into pvssy, it is sex. Congrats snowdog

macallik said:

10 stroke minimum? This is not a handicap in golf. If any **** hard/soft gets into pvssy, it is sex. Congrats snowdog

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after further review, the ruling on the field stands: snowdog has gotten it in. runner83 is charged one hater point.

runner83 said:

I hate to be a downer, but that does not count as s ===) x, you are still a virgin. A minimum of 10 strokes of full penetration is required.

The not getting hard has happened to every guy at least once, so don't let it get you down.

But you've had valuable experience and seen how it can happen, make sure next time you make it count.

Telling this girl you were a virgin was a mistake. You should have just passed it off as being worn out (and let her wonder from what).

No matter what she says, this girl may not meet up with you again, maybe she will...only 1 way to find out.

You are so close, now go get it.

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What are you the sex police? Your thesis on 10 stroke minimum is for YOU don't mean squat to anyone else. I admit telling the girl he's a virgin killed the mystery and is likely to act as a deterrent to a repeat performance, she just might not be sure she'll enjoy getting fvcked by sd. Things might also go well so no need to swear the details. Not caring is the right attitude but I'll trust that you displayed enough value and personality that she will overlook that fact. Just keep sensitive info to yourself next time and let her fantasies take over, there is great power in imagination she will dream all sorts of sh*t about you so don't kill it for her by telling the truth if you don't have to.

First of all, Snowdog, congratulations are in order.

Now, some practical tips:

1) The not getting hard thing - this happens. Especially your first time. It's because you're not in the moment. You have expectations, you have buildup, you have anxiety. Try to let all that go and let it happen as it should. Remember, your body knows what to do, so clear your mind. Be in bed as you are becoming in life - focused, in the moment, and free of anxiety and self-doubt.

Sometimes we have trouble (especially the first time). Don't sweat it.

2) Get used to using condoms. Learn to whack off with a condom on. I'm serious. You catch anything that starts with "H," you have it for life.

3) Take your time when you bring her over. Go out and do something first. Build anticipation. It takes time to build the kind of comfort with a girl's body to just get hard immediately and go at it. So before all of that, go out, get a drink or two (not too many, then you get whiskey d*ck), but take your time. Use this time to build up the physical preparation for the act, not the mental preparation. If you're rushing to get her into bed, it's because your MIND is going "oh sh*t gotta get laid gotta get laid gotta get laid" before your body even knows what's happening.

Go get em, dude.

Hahaha, thanks fellas! I guess I'm officially part of the club now.

About telling her, I dunno, I just felt like telling her so I did. I guess maybe I shouldn't had, but meh, I can't change it anymore so whatever. guess I was just a bit overwhelmed by it all. I mean, this whole thing was my main life goal for years as you can see by this thread, which has reached 26 pages by now. This was the moment I was working towards to. Like Loveshogun says here, my mind was going like "oh sh*t, oh sh*t, oh sh*t, it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen".

She really didn't seem to care or react negative towards it though and like ten minutes after she left I got a Facebook invite from her, so I guess that's positive.

And yea, I did use a condom.

Finally Runner83, you ARE a downer. Keep your negativity and silly rules to yourself, please.

Congrats, I always enjoy reading success stories!

However, I was a bit disheartened by the fact that you've been here for 3 years and according to this hot girl are suave and good looking, yet this is your first time having sex.

Can you explain this, cause it kinda makes me want to jump off a bridge hahaha

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I didn’t knew what the f*ck I was doing but she seemed to enjoy it.

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That's fantastic, man! Look at all of the progress you've made! "Getting laid" doesn't really matter. Lots of guys use it in terms of a 1 time thing like "once I get laid I'll be a totally different person", (I'm pretty sure this is unconscious) you know, that kind of mindset. I think that a lifestyle of getting laid is so much more desirable than just losing your virginity. I suppose you'd want to achieve that in steps and stages though. You are an inspiration to guys like me who are on the lower levels seeking to make it to the top. Step by step is the way to go.

You rock snowdog!

I'm very happy for you Snowdog. I think I remember seeing some of your posts two-three years old. I've only come back to this forum this week. I would send you cake, but I can only imagine how much shipping would cost me.

I lost my virginity less than a year old too. The first time always sucks, but it is a milestone for you. I have no doubt that you will have many more sexual exploits, and they will get better and better every time. The best sex is usually when I don't care, I lose myself to lust and passion. Thats when I have no problem getting hard, because well... things just keep escalating and escalating until the final "eruption".

But, If I have to think about ****, thats when I start to keep soft... etc... etc.. its just horrible.

Anyway.. enjoy your new status! :rock: