Feelings for a friend ever turn out good?

First off would like to say that this forum changed my life about 5-6 years ago and i have been going strong ever since. But after an indecent i had the other day i am starting to question some things and really need advice. This girl and I have been really good friends through all four years of college she and i both rushed for a frat and a sorority our freshmen year and know almost everything about each other.

Today she got really sick and I brought her to the Emergency Room. She sat there holding my hand for 5 hours and we were talking about each others lives, college, and how we have not seen each other for the past few weeks and it hit me about how much i really like and care about this girl.

Should I just wipe these feelings under the rug. I know once in the friend zone it is almost never a good idea to pursue and waste ones time. Need some advice from people who have been there done that. Did it ever work out

I try and avoid friendships with women because this scenario usually happens somewhere down the line.

I say go for it, you could be on to a winner! If not, no big deal, just put an arms length between you and her and chase other totty.

Yeah i am thinking i have to at least make a move or something. Can't just sit back and wonder what if. I think we are close enough that it won't **** things up to badly if I am just feeling that way

johnm420 said:

Yeah i am thinking i have to at least make a move or something. Can't just sit back and wonder what if. I think we are close enough that it won't **** things up to badly if I am just feeling that way

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If she says "no", walk away, don't hang around.

Women and men aren't put on this earth to be friends. We are put on this earth to mate and further our bloodlines.

You don't see a Lion making friends with a Lioness, he screws her real good and extends his bloodline throughout the clan. Don't be a wimp, be a man and carpe diem because if you do not someone else will.

Listen man, if your feeling and you are being the hero of the moment then by all means pursue it, the friendzone thing is something that is to be feared when we initially start talking to a woman with the intention of dating her and instead she says " i think we should just be friends"

You don't want to sit there and ask yourself why you didn't try when you see her dating some a$$hole later on, make a move and see what can happen and if it doesn't work out at least you can say you tried.

I have turned friends into fvck buddies and girlfriends several times, BUT I am very flirtatious with all my attractive female friends. So even though we are just friends, there is some sexual tension there and I never allow myself to become her gal pal or the guy she talks to about her feelings etc.

If you're already in her friendzone and have no tension between you it may be more difficult to escalate. Not impossible however. You just need to flirt a little more and see how she responds. If you get good feedback, push it a little further, make some suggestive comments and so on.

Whatever you do, don't make any sudden moves or reveal how you feel. This is 99% guaranteed to scare her off! Women, especially friends, need time to adjust and you need to plant the seeds and have the patience to watch them grow.

Jariel said:

Whatever you do, don't make any sudden moves or reveal how you feel. This is 99% guaranteed to scare her off! Women, especially friends, need time to adjust and you need to plant the seeds and have the patience to watch them grow.

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Talked to her today and am going to hang out with her this weekend just the two of us during thanksgiving break and see how things role .

[Both get drunk and see what happens. If she rejects you later, you can just blame it on the alcohol]

I like this idea a lot too

johnm420 said:

Talked to her today and am going to hang out with her this weekend just the two of us during thanksgiving break

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Well that is a good sign in itself.

good sign yeah but if you are serious about her friendship then listen

If you do get drunk with her and start making moves, be very careful because if you just come on way to strong and keep ignoring her rejection then your friendship is going to be out the window, there is seriously only so much you can blame on alcohol before they think its what you want but you are trying to pin on the beer. Now if you get drunk try to make it appear like you are drinking more than you really are, that way you retain more self control and dont end the night throwing up all over the place.

Another tip, if she gets really hammered you can try getting some info out of her by steadily talking about relationships and you two in particular, don't keep bringing it up and only talking about this but try and bring it up and if the conversation doesn't change, make it. You will subtly have a discussion about you two dating with her barely knowing, and if she does get drunk she will know even less.

Don't do anything stupid!

Do not spill your guts with mushy nonsense.

Do not consume large quantities of alcohol!

What you need to do escalate kino, start off light, give her a hug, touch her arm for a second every so often throughout your meeting and do some light flirting. If she is responsive to this in a positive way then escalate further and then if she continually acts positively towards your advances at the end of the meeting home in for this kiss.

It's useless going in all guns blazing especially if she is only used to you as a friend, you need to build up the rapport and the sexual attraction.

I know you're probably not gonna like this but I would like you to consider the following:

johnm420 said:

This girl and I have been really good friends through all four years of college she and i both rushed for a frat and a sorority our freshmen year and know almost everything about each other.

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The problem with this is that there is little (if anything) new for her to find out about you. Women love mystery in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. If she already knows everything about you, it's extremely difficult to create that "spark" that gets women all giddy about being in a romantic relationship.

Now, if all you want out of this girl is a nice FB, then this will probably won't matter... as long as she's interested, of course.

Which brings me to my next point. Is she even interested in being more than friends with you? Sure, we know you dig her. But does she dig you?

What is it that you want out of this girl?