jophil28 said:
When I reflect on my relationships with HBs ( especially 8's and above), there was an undeniably characteristic in my behavior that was common to all...Indifference ! and it's close cousins, aloofness and detachment.
I had NO problems with women until about 15 years ago when I started to "understand" their mindset and "empathize" .
The above is great advice - props to Jophil
I dated a former model a couple of years back, now 40s loaded too, we had to end it as I was on assignment and had to leave for my family. Some of my pearls:
1. "Other guys tell you how hot you look you don't need to hear it from me"
2. Out at a bar, etc. "see that guy over there? He digs you, why don't you go over and say hi."
3. After having sex - leave. Immediately. Or if she is at your house throw her out.
4. She was at a family gathering - "Andy, I looked at them and thought - what a f^cked up family I have!" Andy back - "what makes you think they all weren't thinking the same thing about you??"
5. The second time we met she sh^t tested me, trying to get me to do chores in her apt. I called her bluffs every time.
6. I blew her off on a Friday night date only to call her 15 minutes before a Saturday football game she was dying to go to - called her last minute "I have tix -want to go???" always keep them guessing.
7. You have to underpin the above by being confident and having a good job