girl likes me but doesn't want to see me..what's going on?

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the girl that i'm seeing now is a little bit traditional..not exactly the party girl type..the first time we hooked up it was great..then one day i went to a party without her with a bunch of other girls and i think she got kinda pissed cus after that she started playing games with me..like flaking on me on purpose etc..but i think that she still cares..last conversation we had she said something like "ok face it..we both didn't put in enough efforts to see each other" so i don't really know what that means..i mean i asked her to come out a few times but she didn't..anyways my questions are:
1. have any of you guys ever been in my situation?
2. what should i do about it? should i play it cool or give her more attention if i'm actually seeking some kind of relationship? (maybe the more traditional type of girls like to be chased somewhat?)
 
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Next her simple as that....Your the prize if she's worth your time then qualify her to see if she is lucky to be with you. You can play it cool but don't be needy. If she doesn't bite then "fuuck it" who cares NEXT hottie.
 
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To answer your questions:

1. Yes.

2. Depends on what exactly you did. Were you two just dating (and not exclusively)? If so, she shouldn't be up in your business like that. If you two were exclusively dating, then you should've invited her to the party. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Would you like your girlfriend to go to a party with a bunch of boys without inviting you? I sure wouldn't.
 
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The Deacon said:
To answer your questions:

1. Yes.

2. Depends on what exactly you did. Were you two just dating (and not exclusively)? If so, she shouldn't be up in your business like that. If you two were exclusively dating, then you should've invited her to the party. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Would you like your girlfriend to go to a party with a bunch of boys without inviting you? I sure wouldn't.
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ok...you're right..we're just casually dating but still..i know what you mean. so now she's flaking on me a lot on purpose and said something like "we both havent tried hard enough to see each other.." i don't really understand what's going on...i always thought if you like someone you'd wanna see them..but at the same time girls have their ego too so i assume if she thinks she's not important then she won't see me..
anyways what do you think is the best thing to do in this situation?
 
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carlitos said:
the girl that i'm seeing now is a little bit traditional..not exactly the party girl type..the first time we hooked up it was great..then one day i went to a party without her with a bunch of other girls and i think she got kinda pissed cus after that she started playing games with me..like flaking on me on purpose etc..but i think that she still cares..last conversation we had she said something like "ok face it..we both didn't put in enough efforts to see each other" so i don't really know what that means..i mean i asked her to come out a few times but she didn't..anyways my questions are:
1. have any of you guys ever been in my situation?
2. what should i do about it? should i play it cool or give her more attention if i'm actually seeking some kind of relationship? (maybe the more traditional type of girls like to be chased somewhat?)
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Pay her the attention that you think she deserves.know what you want and be honest about it. Try and get a good feeling of where she is coming from, all a bonus to you.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Window of opportunity...lost. Interest level...dropped. You need to move on and do better next time.
 
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Since you're not quite sure, give her one more chance. Ask her out on a date. Make the time & place clear & firm. If she shows signs of flakiness as you're making the plan, tell her that you need a definite confirmation now, not in a few days, not the day before the date, as you're a busy man. If she still goes with her BS games, ignore her from then on & go game other girls. You don't need to delete her number & all that yet. She will be chasing you after that if she's really interested and realises that her silly games don't work.
 
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