Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
I finally purchased my first dating advice "book". Of course I'm talking about David DeAngelo's C&F Book, DoubleyourDating (although, if my dating is at 0 right now, will doubling it really help?)
Anyways, I definetly agree with everything he suggests in the first 50 pages, which is basically just common sense self-improvment stuff. But then I get to the part where he explains how he uses C&F, and some of the ideas I can see working but others...well, I'm not sure they would always work on everyone. Especially when he says to be somewhat serious and not let them think your joking around.
SO I want to know a few things
1. Does C&F work for you?
2. Do you agree with David D.'s method of C&F?
3. Do you think there are exceptions or limitations to using C&F?
For example, people who you just want to have as friends or people you shouldn't or don't want to date? OR do you only use C&F in particular situations?
Next, if you think you are good at rating C&F or just have a good idea of how it works, I would appreciate it if you read the following story on how I tried to use C&F today.I been reading DYD lately and I have a few inquiries I would like and some ideas I need your opinoin on.
I volunteered to help out with a wedding today in the Banquest dept. at my hotel. There was this new girl that was pretty cute but a bit bossy, although partially because I don't work in that dept much so I DO need to be told what I need to do. I was pretty busy, but during a slow moment me and another friend were standing around
and the other guy asked her what her name was. Now her name tag said something like Kaoutar (earlier I asked her where that came from and she said "Nowhere", I should have picked on her for having such a boring or uninteresting name with no cool story behind it)
But when he asked she said.
"Carrie"
Me: What? it's not Carrie, it's 'Katar'
Her: No it's Carrie.
Other Guy: How can it be Carrie *looks at her name tag* there's NOT an 'r' or 'i' at the end.
After that we picked on for awhile on how she couldn't possibly have a name like "Carrie" when her nametag said 'Kaoutar'.
Me. Apparently, she can just make up the rules when it comes to how her name is pronounced.
Her: Of course, I ALWAYS make the rules! Then she proceeded to Stare intensley into my eyes.
Unfortunately, I didn't have a good comeback for that but I chuckled a bit and looked away smiling.
I looked back and she was still staring at me.
I mumbled something about how "You don't get out enough" (in order to be in a place that doesn't go by her rules.
Now that I think about it, I should have said something like "Well, obviously you've never been with a real man." or "you've never spent a day in my world"
The work day continues and each banquet person gets their own section to maintain. I'm a volunteer however, so I get to be a "floater". As I look for someone to help, this guy named Frankie grabs me and starts telling me how I can help him with his 5 tables. Only a few minutes pass until she comes by again and says, "Alright, your with me!" and proceeds to have me follow her around and help her out. Of course, I got tossed around a lot and helped a lot of people and of course I always had to be told what to do but she just seemed a little more bossy about it, plus she's only been there for month or so. ( I should have said soemthing about how I'm 'High in Demand' or made some remark about her coming on to me since she practically set it up saying I'm with her)
Anyways, at the very end I had some more C+F lines I wanted to use but the situation didn't really present itself.
What I WOULD have said those was something to the effect of ...
"Geeez, After working with "Carrie" for a few hours, I know what it feels like to be married now".
Probably followed by.
"Something about weddings gives females this dominating power rush, knowing they can imprison a Man for the rest of his life"
Perhaps followed by a mock evil laugh.
Anyways, that's what I did or perhaps SHOULD've done, but I Want to know what you think? Do you think any of it is good C+F material? (even the stuff I didn't use)or do you have better ideas for what I should have done, or perhaps can do in the future if I see her again.
OR what would you have done? Remember, it's your job to be somebody's assitant so you can't just walkway and not help her.
Anyways, I definetly agree with everything he suggests in the first 50 pages, which is basically just common sense self-improvment stuff. But then I get to the part where he explains how he uses C&F, and some of the ideas I can see working but others...well, I'm not sure they would always work on everyone. Especially when he says to be somewhat serious and not let them think your joking around.
SO I want to know a few things
1. Does C&F work for you?
2. Do you agree with David D.'s method of C&F?
3. Do you think there are exceptions or limitations to using C&F?
For example, people who you just want to have as friends or people you shouldn't or don't want to date? OR do you only use C&F in particular situations?
Next, if you think you are good at rating C&F or just have a good idea of how it works, I would appreciate it if you read the following story on how I tried to use C&F today.I been reading DYD lately and I have a few inquiries I would like and some ideas I need your opinoin on.
I volunteered to help out with a wedding today in the Banquest dept. at my hotel. There was this new girl that was pretty cute but a bit bossy, although partially because I don't work in that dept much so I DO need to be told what I need to do. I was pretty busy, but during a slow moment me and another friend were standing around
and the other guy asked her what her name was. Now her name tag said something like Kaoutar (earlier I asked her where that came from and she said "Nowhere", I should have picked on her for having such a boring or uninteresting name with no cool story behind it)
But when he asked she said.
"Carrie"
Me: What? it's not Carrie, it's 'Katar'
Her: No it's Carrie.
Other Guy: How can it be Carrie *looks at her name tag* there's NOT an 'r' or 'i' at the end.
After that we picked on for awhile on how she couldn't possibly have a name like "Carrie" when her nametag said 'Kaoutar'.
Me. Apparently, she can just make up the rules when it comes to how her name is pronounced.
Her: Of course, I ALWAYS make the rules! Then she proceeded to Stare intensley into my eyes.
Unfortunately, I didn't have a good comeback for that but I chuckled a bit and looked away smiling.
I looked back and she was still staring at me.
I mumbled something about how "You don't get out enough" (in order to be in a place that doesn't go by her rules.
Now that I think about it, I should have said something like "Well, obviously you've never been with a real man." or "you've never spent a day in my world"
The work day continues and each banquet person gets their own section to maintain. I'm a volunteer however, so I get to be a "floater". As I look for someone to help, this guy named Frankie grabs me and starts telling me how I can help him with his 5 tables. Only a few minutes pass until she comes by again and says, "Alright, your with me!" and proceeds to have me follow her around and help her out. Of course, I got tossed around a lot and helped a lot of people and of course I always had to be told what to do but she just seemed a little more bossy about it, plus she's only been there for month or so. ( I should have said soemthing about how I'm 'High in Demand' or made some remark about her coming on to me since she practically set it up saying I'm with her)
Anyways, at the very end I had some more C+F lines I wanted to use but the situation didn't really present itself.
What I WOULD have said those was something to the effect of ...
"Geeez, After working with "Carrie" for a few hours, I know what it feels like to be married now".
Probably followed by.
"Something about weddings gives females this dominating power rush, knowing they can imprison a Man for the rest of his life"
Perhaps followed by a mock evil laugh.
Anyways, that's what I did or perhaps SHOULD've done, but I Want to know what you think? Do you think any of it is good C+F material? (even the stuff I didn't use)or do you have better ideas for what I should have done, or perhaps can do in the future if I see her again.
OR what would you have done? Remember, it's your job to be somebody's assitant so you can't just walkway and not help her.