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STR8UP
12-17-2007, 11:15 AM
Agree or disagree?

Not saying that a lot of women won't fukk one guy and cuddle up with another one (or two or ten), but generally women have this thing about sleeping with more than one man at a time.

This has been my experience and observation anyway.

Gerard-890
12-17-2007, 11:20 AM
Wow Str8up after agreeing with just about everything you have said I strongly disagree with this statement.

You probably already know why as well so I won't go too deep into it, but if this statement were true I believe that relationships, families, etc. would be more solid.

A lot of men are losers and have failed, but women have all the power in choosing a relationship, they become "bored" with the great guys and "excited" by the low lifes. Women want to just be loose and screw all around town.

I am starting to just grow very hateful towards women. Plus Str8up, just because she "tells you" she's not cheating doesn't mean it's not happening.

Her cheating on you doesn't have to make sense, they just do it for the hell of it.

insidious
12-17-2007, 11:22 AM
Damnit I must surround myself with some
real ho's! I know and have known quite a few
women who had the scruples of a vulture
flying over a ripe battlefield. They have no
problem bedding up with multiple dudes.

I suspect you give women way too much credit.
And maybe I need to climb the social ladder a bit!

guru1000
12-17-2007, 11:31 AM
I have to agree with STr8up. Of course depending on the quality of the girl.

High Quaility girls don't sleep with multiple guys. Low quality woman do.

We will have a difference on opinion on this subject because some guys have not or will never have a quality girl to made a reference from.

Gerard-890
12-17-2007, 11:36 AM
guru1000, let's discuss this, what's your definition of a high quality girl/woman? I have been with all types of women and while their income, friends, ambitions, neighborhood, lifestyles, etc all change, there still seems to an underlying "similarity" with all women really grouping them together or making it seem like they are all one of the same breed.

So guru1000 what is your definition of the high quality girl, where did you meet her, and what qualified her as high quality?

From my experience, they have all acted the same. I'm not taling in terms of low life women either, I'm talking:

1. Had a great career
2. Had a great body
3. Had a great head on her shoulders
4. Had ambition in life
5. Would help others (some times)

Things as such, just about all of the women I interact with share these qualities. Always remember that when a woman "cheats" unless you walk in the room and catch her, they can clean up their stuff mighty well and it will be very difficult to trace it.

joekerr31
12-17-2007, 11:39 AM
agreed.

although the reason is that most women are conscious that if they get caught banging multiple guys that the guy that catches them will bolt.

so its possible that they do it more than we realize, because they keep it a secret.

most guys are not cool with sloppy seconds.

guru1000
12-17-2007, 11:42 AM
High Quality =Woman whose Internal VALUE is of importance to her

Body, Career, Intelligence and Status don't make Quality.

insidious
12-17-2007, 11:43 AM
I have to agree with STr8up. Of course depending on the quality of the girl.

High Quaility girls don't sleep with multiple guys. Low quality woman do.

We will have a difference on opinion on this subject because some guys have not or will never have a quality girl to made a reference from.

The difference between High and Low is that the High quality
woman will dump you so she can go hook up with that guy
she's hot for whereas the Low quality chick will just sleep with the
whole football team.

Mincing words here.

High - caves in to guilt, manipulates the context/situation (cleanses her soul by sleeping with one at a time)
Low - doesn't give a rat's ass about guilt and just does what she wants and has no need to cleanse her soul.

Gerard-890
12-17-2007, 11:51 AM
Well if those are the correctly prescribed definitions of High Quality Women we are speaking of the same types of women then. It appears, while I could be wrong, but it appears that you guys are falling prey to her external innocency, without having really been exposed to her overall actions.

You are correct, a lower quality woman would just openly sleep around but for goodness sakes everyone knows that a h0e correct?

She's not the one I'm talking about, I assumed you all believed that I was speaking of a sane woman?

The woman in question is the most dishonest of the bunch, at least the lower quality chick is honest in that I am seeing other guys, I'm cheating on you, etc. This woman in question does all of this on the side and you will never find out, she is an excellent "clean up" of her messings.

I've been with these women, with husbands and boyfriends of all types, some having great guys I mean you couldn't ask for more. They would cheat with me and a couple other guys and you nor Dr. Phil would ever be able to detect it.

STR8UP
12-17-2007, 02:58 PM
I've been with these women, with husbands and boyfriends of all types, some having great guys I mean you couldn't ask for more. They would cheat with me and a couple other guys and you nor Dr. Phil would ever be able to detect it.

I do agree with you about the fact that most of the time nobody knows.

But I think that most of the time when a woman wants to have sex with another man she will try to sever her physical relationship with guy #1.

Women aren't like men. Men don't have emotional voids that need to be filled as women do. It all comes down to whether or not he can justify his actions. See hot girl- want to fukk hot girl.

When a woman cheats it's usually because she is looking to fill in gaps. Women want sex too, but generally when they cheat they are doing so to compensate for an emotional need that isn't being fulfilled by her partner.

Of course, it's hard to say what exactly happens when it's your girl running around. It's obvious when it's YOU who is kissing up on someone else's girlfriend or sex partner, cause you are a party to the transaction.

This chick I was dating last year. She started seeing someone else unbeknownst to me in the beginning, but I knew something was up soon after it started.. The sex dried up. Then a good month or so later we went out on my birthday and she gave me a courtesy fukk. It was the worst sex I have ever had. The only reason she fukked me was because it was my birthday.

I just know that there have been many cases, some recently, that a chick will allow intimacy but no intercourse.

The saying "If you aren't fukking her, someone else is" rings true on both ends. If you are the boyfriend and she isn't fukking you, she is fukking someone else. If you are the guy she is fooling around with behind her boyfriends back that will play kissy face but won't fukk you. I have been on both sides and in my experience most of the time it's only one of the guys who is getting the pu$$y at any given time.

Bible_Belt
12-17-2007, 03:00 PM
I think the one-man phenomenon relates to the way that during sex, women generate the hormone responsible for emotional attachment. Although most women will also have a slvtty phase of their lives, most of the time, most women prefer just one guy, at least sexually. Women who cheat usually cut off their bf/hubby from sex as much as possible, and the sex will suck when they do have it. That's how you know when your girl is cheating, btw, your passionate love life turns to infrequent robot sex.

azanon
12-17-2007, 03:02 PM
Yes I definitely agree, Str8up. Most women make an emotional investment by the time you're having sex; even the lose ones. Rare is the woman who can completely, emotionally detach herself from a sexual act. Given that, she can't have strong emotional attention towards 2 or more men without (internal) interference.

But I'm only agreeing with "most". Certainly not all.

Rudra
12-17-2007, 03:38 PM
Agreeing completely with you, azanon.. and Str8up or course.

That´s why men can f0ck around without doing much damage to themselves, and women canNOT. There is NO woman out there that is promiscuous and does not have psychological problems. Never met one, never heard of one. Azanon, you seem to have met some specimen.. but I guess that would be a chick with strong male psychological traits.
Let the feminazis go rampant and rage about male double moral standards - but nature does not WANT women to f0ck around and punishes them severely for doing so. Men it does not punish.

STR8UP
12-17-2007, 04:23 PM
Thatīs why men can f0ck around without doing much damage to themselves, and women canNOT. There is NO woman out there that is promiscuous and does not have psychological problems. Never met one, never heard of one. Azanon, you seem to have met some specimen.. but I guess that would be a chick with strong male psychological traits.

I was going to try to prove you wrong until I read the last sentence in the quote.

I had a g/f that I believe was loyal to me, however, she was VERY sexually open and I would bet that she had more than her share of sex with quite a few men AND women before I got together with her. I don't know if I could say she was "promiscuous", but she definitely leaned in that direction. And wouldn't you know it.....she had some masculine personality traits.

Drum&Bass
12-17-2007, 04:29 PM
Agree or disagree?

Not saying that a lot of women won't fukk one guy and cuddle up with another one (or two or ten), but generally women have this thing about sleeping with more than one man at a time.How about option C, I'll never know the truth.

I can theorize all I want, but I'll never know what anyone ever thinks or does when I'm not looking (man or woman), regardless of what experiences I've had that might lead me to think one thing while something else is happening.

Colossus
12-17-2007, 05:26 PM
Most women, yes. I agree with azanon.

But everyone is different.

I slept with a good female friend once who had a serious bf. I mean like almost-engaged. Great guy, too. She loved him very much and often told me she would eventually marry him. I think at the time she felt a little guilty, but we talked about it later and she said she was glad and did not regret it. She does not have psychological problems. She is a very cool, forgiving person. But that's her. She is not a 'typical' girl.

lookyoung
12-17-2007, 05:54 PM
Agree or disagree?

I agree but there are always exceptions to the rule. I am sure that most girls have fvcked another guy while seeing another. Many girls have a slut stage they go through. But 90% of the time I agree. Especially with woman over 25 years old. Most woman prefer to fvck one man at a time. I have fvcked a couple of girls with boyfriends and usually they have an excuse. He cheated on her. He is boring never wants to go out. He is abusive.

But then again who knows the real story. Woman will only tell you there side of the story. Sometimes these girls deserve what they get.

aliasguy
12-17-2007, 06:04 PM
How do any of us KNOW for sure? Where does this 90% number come from?

I'm not saying you guys are WRONG, but I see a LOT of f*cking around going on out there. And these chicks are not, in my experience, cutting off the boyfriend/husband.

I think most women are perfectly capable of screwing two (or more) men at the same time (well, not at EXACTLY the same time, that's another deal.)

Why are so many of you so convinced that 90% will only be sexual with one man at a time? Given the frequency of affairs and cheating, I just can't buy it.

Also, one of the WARNING signs of a cheating wife or gf is an INCREASE in sexual frequency/attention given to the husband/boyfriend.

I'm just not on board with the apparent consensus here. I guess I may be looking at this wrong, I dunno.

ketostix
12-17-2007, 06:45 PM
I believe most women maybe 60-70% will only regularly fvck one guy at a time but may occasionally hook up with another guy. Probably a good percentage are playing the field and being promiscuious, but they're not regularly having sex with any one guy. There's probably a small percentage that will only fvck one guy at a time, basically not cheat. That is dependent a lot on how into you she is. The smaller remainder of girls might have 2 or more regular sex partners. So my view is the majority of girls who you begin to fvck regularly probably are cutting other guys off sexually.

aliasguy
12-17-2007, 06:55 PM
I believe most women maybe 60-70% will only regularly **** one guy at a time but may occasionally hook up with another guy. Probably a good percentage are playing the field and being promiscuious, but they're not regularly having sex with any one guy. There's probably a small percentage that will only fvck one guy at a time, basically not cheat. That is dependent a lot on how into you she is. The smaller remainder of girls might have 2 or more regular sex partners. So my view is the majority of girls who you begin to fvck regularly probably are cutting other guys off sexually.

Even her HUSBAND or her BOYFRIEND? Really?

ketostix
12-17-2007, 07:00 PM
Even her HUSBAND or her BOYFRIEND? Really?


I don't understand your question, partly because you quoted a lot of my post. Ayway, I assumed this thread was talking about girls you just started having sex with and not what GF's or wifes tend to do. Otherwise Str8up's thread title would've been " Most women won't cheat?" right?

STR8UP
12-17-2007, 08:25 PM
Why are so many of you so convinced that 90% will only be sexual with one man at a time? Given the frequency of affairs and cheating, I just can't buy it.

I believe that there is a tendency for a woman to only want to be sexual with one man at a time. If a second man works his way in, it usually tends to squeeze the first man out.

Also, one of the WARNING signs of a cheating wife or gf is an INCREASE in sexual frequency/attention given to the husband/boyfriend.

Personally I have never experienced this.

ThunderMaverick
12-17-2007, 08:36 PM
Me neither.

Bible_Belt
12-17-2007, 09:21 PM
I did, but it was only right after she cheated, and it was robot-sex.

TooColdUlrick
12-17-2007, 10:16 PM
due to feminism, women have gotten the crazy idea in their heads that whatever men do, they too can do with impunity. the classic case is "nice guys finish last". therefore, to them, nice girls finish last. so become a b!tch.

and to the point, more and more women think that because guys historically (and for good reason) bang several at once, that they too can as well. so become a slvt.

due to the myspace's and such, the slvt factor is diminishing greatly.

i met a chick a while back who off-the-cuff remarked that she dumped her "two boys". TCU did a double take on that, esp thinking why on earth she would even tell me.

i got the official answer to what was obvious, and politely said, that's nice to know...see ya.

by any other measure she was top quality.

what's the old school term for sloppy thirds?

STR8UP
12-17-2007, 10:27 PM
i met a chick a while back who off-the-cuff remarked that she dumped her "two boys". TCU did a double take on that, esp thinking why on earth she would even tell me?

If there's one thing I have learned it's that when a woman says something that makes you go "Why did she just tell me that?" you need to run. Run as fast as you can.

One chick I was dating I was asking her which character she thought I would be on a certain tv show. She told me who she thought I would be (the specific name of the character), and when I asked her which character SHE would be she answers "The slut??" I should have stopped returning her calls right then and there instead of letting her "dump" me three months later for the other dude she was seeing.

Another chick I was seeing awhile back....second night I met her we end up back at my place making out on the couch. We start talking and i asked her what brought her to Florida. She says "Rehab". I did fukk her a couple of times so i guess I got what I wanted, but when a chick tells you she moved to town to go to rehab, you can pretty much be assured that things are gonna be interesting.......

Gerard-890
12-17-2007, 10:33 PM
I am in TOTAL agreement with aliasguy, and I am seriously wondering why the majority of you guys are sitting there believing that a woman will only have sex with one man at a time?

I'm starting to get a little upset at the fact that you guys, having all this knowledge, study, research on women, will sit there with a straight face and conclude such a thing?

You guys are being fooled. Badly.

Women choose their boyfriends/husbands etc., but that doesn't mean they don't get turned on by other guys, and if you are a certain type of guy that can move it forward, you can hit that.

This is what I'm talking about when I say you can't have a serious relationship with women anymore. What are you guys talking about by women won't sleep with another guy? Are you guys going crazy?

STR8UP
12-17-2007, 10:59 PM
This is what I'm talking about when I say you can't have a serious relationship with women anymore. What are you guys talking about by women won't sleep with another guy? Are you guys going crazy?

If you have read any of my other posts you know that I agree with you.

I'm not saying that a woman WON'T sleep with another guy, what I am saying is that they PREFER to have one sexual partner at a time, and if it happens that they start sleeping with another man, the first one will get demoted a notch.

Women can't separate sex from emotion like us men can. When she has sex with another guy it will effect her prior sexual relationship. A guy can fukk the hell outa his wife in the morning and give his mistress an equally good banging that night. Women I believe tend to emphasize the emotional component of sex, and as such they prioritize one man over another, there usually aren't two equals.

I think in most cases when a woman is casually dating and often even when she is in some kind of a relationship, she will tend to have a main guy, the guy she likes the most, as her sex partner. Then she will also have one or more "on deck" who she will trade intimacy (not to be confused with sex) with in exchange for the prospect of one day getting sex.

This is where too many men screw up. They get stuck in the #2 or #3 position THINKING they might get a shot (and they might) when in reality they are only there to ensure a steady supply of the sex, intimacy, validation, and attention in the event that the main guy doesn't come through.

aliasguy
12-17-2007, 11:42 PM
STR8UP, you KNOW i respect you and your views, BUT....


GOOD GRIEF.........Women want to f*ck when they want to to f*ck. And they WILL. Husband, boyfriend, another guy, whatever ---

They just don't want to be JUDGED for it. They will cheat and lie and f*ck whoever they feel attracted to at the time. Just like us guys. They might not be able to "separate" sex and emotion, but they sure as hell can f*ck around as if they COULD.

YES, women will "prioritize" their men, and "prefer" one over another, but JESUS, don't fool yourself into thinking that they will "stick" with ONE only, most of the time.

I see WAY too much out in the real world to buy this.

And, BTW, it doesn't matter to the #2 or #3 guy if he KNOWS that's where he is, and he has other "plates."

Gerard-890
12-17-2007, 11:47 PM
Yes, I stand right beside aliasguy and quite honestly I'm perplexed as to how you other guys can't as well?

I mean I've noticed this since my teens come on guys.

STR8UP
12-18-2007, 01:29 AM
GOOD GRIEF.........Women want to f*ck when they want to to f*ck. And they WILL. Husband, boyfriend, another guy, whatever ---

They just don't want to be JUDGED for it. They will cheat and lie and f*ck whoever they feel attracted to at the time. Just like us guys. They might not be able to "separate" sex and emotion, but they sure as hell can f*ck around as if they COULD.

YES, women will "prioritize" their men, and "prefer" one over another, but JESUS, don't fool yourself into thinking that they will "stick" with ONE only, most of the time.

I agree with you completely. You are misreading what I said.

I have posted several times about stuff along these lines. I'm the last one to give women the benefit of the doubt when it comes to this. I see people cheating ALL THE TIME.

But check out this thread from awhile back-
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116511

I notice SOOOOO much inappropriate behavior with women in relationships. BUT.......it's mostly restricted to activities that are precursors to sex, and it usually stops before intercourse.

And it's not even just women in relationships.

My buddy has a g/f and he is also fukking his ex. The ex has a thing for me and we have "done things" in the past. I have gotten a finger or two in, but never any clothing off or anything.

I finally realized "What the FUKK am I doing? I'm giving HER what SHE wants and getting nothing in return"

One of the last times she was in my bed I was fingering her and trying to get her to give me head. She kept saying "I want to, I REALLY want to, but I can't" I finally realized that she "can't" because of the mental block put in place by her sexual relationship with my buddy.

I didn't ask any questions i just rolled over and tried to get some sleep. Hard to do when she's tugging on me for more kissy face crap.

And, BTW, it doesn't matter to the #2 or #3 guy if he KNOWS that's where he is, and he has other "plates."

It doesn't matter even if he doesn't have plates, as long as he keeps things in perspective.

ketostix
12-18-2007, 09:24 AM
I think everyone forgets that men will almost always fk a pretty girl given the opportunity, whether they are in a relationship or not.
Girls are somewhat less slutty on AVERAGE in my experience. Maybe i have just been hanging around the right kinda girls.. Alot of the woman i hang with dont cheat on their men cause they are expecting the same from their man. Plain and simple.. Sounds like you guys all go for strippers or nimphos.. Also you all wanna fk multiple girls but you get angry when they fk other guys. You can only expect them to. After all if you are stealing woman from other guys then im glad they are fkn the other guys. I dont think its fair that you have them all to yourselves. You aren't super heroes you just have dillusions that you should be worshipped by all woman and that other guys should just die virgins or something. You all take this alpha male thing too far. In the good old days the male virgins would simply get together and club you to death and share your woman among themselves :woo: You under-estimate the sex drive of a male virgin


Yeah there wouldn't be so many AFCs and undersexed guys if most girls were fvcking multiple guys to the degree a few posters assume in this thread. I don't understand where the disagreement is really. All most of us are saying is most girls will tend to focus on fvcking one guy at a time. That's not saying they all do at all times and situations or that they never ocassionally have a rare ONS with some other guy.

If you're sexing a girl past a ONS she more than likely is cutting other guys off sexually. I've cut other guys off and have been cut off by other guys. We all have been. Women can only get pregnant by one penis. There's no real biological purpose for her to have multiple partners concurrently.

guru1000
12-18-2007, 09:36 AM
Some of you guys chracterize women as a group mentality. Every woman is different. I've been blessed to sieve through the garbage and hold onto quality women. These women only had a few sexual partners in their past so for them to have 2 at a time would be out of their comfort zone.

Do most men sleep with more than 1 woman at a time? I would say NO. So are women more "Evil Natured"?

I think alot of thinking on this site is " I've been hurt, Woman are EVIL!". But the bottomline is just like anything else in life , you have GOOD apples and BAD apples. To sit here and say "ALL WOMEN ARE SLUTS", is not practical or logical.

Guess what? Women aren't evil. As well, women are not all the same.

If you have been hurt, get over it. This is human to human interaction. It takes two to tango. Accept responsibility and learn. Be a better Don Juan next time around.

vorbis
12-18-2007, 09:58 AM
thats a good point guru1000. What on earth is this argument about?

70% of guys (at least) have one regular sex partner at a time. I'm 25 and in my social circle I don't know anyone who has multiple regular sexual partners. The most I've seen is once off cheating by girls and guys!

wheelin&dealin
12-18-2007, 04:16 PM
Agree with Str8up. Hence the term "anti-sl*t defense".

iqqi
12-18-2007, 04:25 PM
Some of you guys chracterize women as a group mentality. Every woman is different. I've been blessed to sieve through the garbage and hold onto quality women. These women only had a few sexual partners in their past so for them to have 2 at a time would be out of their comfort zone.

Do most men sleep with more than 1 woman at a time? I would say NO. So are women more "Evil Natured"?

I think alot of thinking on this site is " I've been hurt, Woman are EVIL!". But the bottomline is just like anything else in life , you have GOOD apples and BAD apples. To sit here and say "ALL WOMEN ARE SLUTS", is not practical or logical.

Guess what? Women aren't evil. As well, women are not all the same.

If you have been hurt, get over it. This is human to human interaction. It takes two to tango. Accept responsibility and learn. Be a better Don Juan next time around.

8 right thumbs up.

bigjohnson
12-18-2007, 04:34 PM
Do most men sleep with more than 1 woman at a time?

As long as they're not sisters. Oh, I guess I misunderstood, my bad. :)

DavenJuan
12-21-2007, 01:41 PM
STR8UP, you KNOW i respect you and your views, BUT....


GOOD GRIEF.........Women want to f*ck when they want to to f*ck. And they WILL. Husband, boyfriend, another guy, whatever ---

They just don't want to be JUDGED for it. They will cheat and lie and f*ck whoever they feel attracted to at the time. Just like us guys. They might not be able to "separate" sex and emotion, but they sure as hell can f*ck around as if they COULD.

YES, women will "prioritize" their men, and "prefer" one over another, but JESUS, don't fool yourself into thinking that they will "stick" with ONE only, most of the time.

I see WAY too much out in the real world to buy this.

And, BTW, it doesn't matter to the #2 or #3 guy if he KNOWS that's where he is, and he has other "plates."

I think we are all somewhat agreeing in the grey area.

women PREFER to sleep with one individual, but WILL based on particular situations sleep with more.

Doesnt this relate to the specific womens sexual history?? Is she a relationship type of girl, or always single? is she sexually active, or really doesnt put out? i think alot of that plays a bigger part in this equation than her just being a WOMEN.

even more interesting is...

what do WE prefer..? is it any different?

do we prefer to sleep with a particular individual or sleep with as many women as possible?

let me better ask this question.... if in a relationship, dont we TRY to be faithful TRY to sleep wtih only that particular person? or do we go into these relationships with platent disregard and searching for the snatch everywhere we go?? again, this is based on the particular individual.

sometimes we slip up and mess around with other women. but has there ever been that situation were you probably could have done more, but you put that shield up because how you would feel if you did do something.

is this any differenet from women?

DavenJuan
12-21-2007, 01:46 PM
by the way....

i remember a couple years ago i came home from the movies with this girl i was talking to. she dropped me off and my roomates had 2 girls over to party with.

i walk in the were doing jello shots, i take one, head to bed since i had to work in the morning. my convo with these women were nothing more than 15 minutes.

1 hour later i get awaken to someone poking at me and telling me she wanted to get some sleep and crawls in my bed. Inevitabely we did the "deed".

the NEXT DAY! i get home from a party and this SAME women is back at my place. she is walking out of my buddies/roomates room. and she stayed over for a 2nd night only this time she was in his bed.

quite disgusting actually, but what does this say about some women? again, based on the particular situation, but in this case ...

she PREFERRED to sleep with more than just one.

joekerr31
12-21-2007, 02:02 PM
women with low self esteem will sleep with lots of guys at once. they crave male attention.

women with high self esteem tend to only sleep with one man at a time and do so within the context of a relationship (or at least knowing the person beyond their name).

and sure, some women are just sex fiends and can't get enough. but the amount of women sleeping around simply cuz they are so horny they can't get enough is maybe 1%. most of the women sleeping with multiple guys at once simply have low self esteem.

potato
12-21-2007, 10:17 PM
Itís all tied up in a womanís emotions. Most women are such that having sex with more than one man overloads their emotions causing them all kinds of anxiety problems. However, many have the characteristic that they have no problem bouncing from guy to guy, but once they fall in love with a particular guy their emotions kick in and dedicate their emotions only to him.

When I first got together with my girlfriend, there were two different guys who we ran into, who had apparently been her lover, expressing his frustration over her suddenly shutting him out. When she first introduced me to her greater social circle, at a rather large gathering, she made a statement in front of everybody, something about me being all the man she needs. I donít think that she was complementing me, just putting out a message.

A couple of times I have had affairs with married women. In every case the woman claimed that I was her second or third. Imagine that, a women getting into her mid 30ís to early 40ís and having had sex with only one man. What caused her to cheat? Mostly it was because her husband had become unavailable to her. He was always at work, working long hours, taking business trips, never having the time to just sit and snuggle with her. Once he cut back and became more available to her, the affair ended.

Those women who have many, many lovers tend to have emotional and/or mental problems, some severely so. Most of them, I suspect, would become monogamous if the right guy came along and took care of her.

aliasguy
12-22-2007, 12:10 AM
Itís all tied up in a womanís emotions. Most women are such that having sex with more than one man overloads their emotions causing them all kinds of anxiety problems. However, many have the characteristic that they have no problem bouncing from guy to guy, but once they fall in love with a particular guy their emotions kick in and dedicate their emotions only to him.

When I first got together with my girlfriend, there were two different guys who we ran into, who had apparently been her lover, expressing his frustration over her suddenly shutting him out. When she first introduced me to her greater social circle, at a rather large gathering, she made a statement in front of everybody, something about me being all the man she needs. I donít think that she was complementing me, just putting out a message.

A couple of times I have had affairs with married women. In every case the woman claimed that I was her second or third. Imagine that, a women getting into her mid 30ís to early 40ís and having had sex with only one man. What caused her to cheat? Mostly it was because her husband had become unavailable to her. He was always at work, working long hours, taking business trips, never having the time to just sit and snuggle with her. Once he cut back and became more available to her, the affair ended.

Those women who have many, many lovers tend to have emotional and/or mental problems, some severely so. Most of them, I suspect, would become monogamous if the right guy came along and took care of her.


Women ALWAYS say they've f*cked fewer men than they have. You know better than to believe a woman has only f*cked one or two guys. I truly doubt that the married women you've tagged had husbands who were "unavailable" to them. What does "unavailable" really MEAN, anyway. (He's not opening up about his "feelings"?) These women were doing what they wanted to do, BECAUSE they wanted to do it. Do you believe that their husbands wouldn't F*CK them?

I agree with you that it's all about the woman's EMOTION. You are right. They crave drama, fun, intrigue, sex, excitement, etc.

They may "dedicate their emotions" to one guy, but only for a while. If she gets "bored," or the wind changes direction, though, she WILL scr*w another guy on the side. It doesn't take much. Her husband can be doing it ALL right, but she will f*ck you if you "push her buttons."

Running around with more than one guy doesn't "overload" their emotions, it SATISFIES their emotional and sexual needs. They NEED the "emotional overload." This is the thing that many of us do not recognize. We expect them to be satisfied with a solid relationship. But they NEED turmoil and drama.

You can argue that only emotionally messed up women are like this, but I think that MOST women could be termed "emotionally messed up," at least when it comes to behavior that MEN would expect.

I know I'm not explaining this very well, but the bottom line is-----> if you expect women to make sense emotionally, and if you expect them to be mostly faithful, you are going to be disappointed.

Expect to be let down. It's not the exception, it's the rule.

Saying that "most women want to be sexual with only one guy" doesn't make it TRUE. It's what we WANT to believe. I understand that. But, what I see out there in th real world tells me otherwise.

Doesn't your experience with these married women bullsh*tting you tell you the same?

Getting "taken care of," and sitting and snuggling make women BORED, and they seek adventure, drama, excitement and fun.

It sucks, but it's true.

Open your eyes.

potato
12-22-2007, 07:29 PM
Women ALWAYS say they've f*cked fewer men than they have. You know better than to believe a woman has only f*cked one or two guys. I truly doubt that the married women you've tagged had husbands who were "unavailable" to them. What does "unavailable" really MEAN, anyway. (He's not opening up about his "feelings"?) These women were doing what they wanted to do, BECAUSE they wanted to do it. Do you believe that their husbands wouldn't F*CK them?

I agree with you that it's all about the woman's EMOTION. You are right. They crave drama, fun, intrigue, sex, excitement, etc.

They may "dedicate their emotions" to one guy, but only for a while. If she gets "bored," or the wind changes direction, though, she WILL scr*w another guy on the side. It doesn't take much. Her husband can be doing it ALL right, but she will f*ck you if you "push her buttons."

Running around with more than one guy doesn't "overload" their emotions, it SATISFIES their emotional and sexual needs. They NEED the "emotional overload." This is the thing that many of us do not recognize. We expect them to be satisfied with a solid relationship. But they NEED turmoil and drama.

You can argue that only emotionally messed up women are like this, but I think that MOST women could be termed "emotionally messed up," at least when it comes to behavior that MEN would expect.

I know I'm not explaining this very well, but the bottom line is-----> if you expect women to make sense emotionally, and if you expect them to be mostly faithful, you are going to be disappointed.

Expect to be let down. It's not the exception, it's the rule.

Saying that "most women want to be sexual with only one guy" doesn't make it TRUE. It's what we WANT to believe. I understand that. But, what I see out there in th real world tells me otherwise.

Doesn't your experience with these married women bullsh*tting you tell you the same?

Getting "taken care of," and sitting and snuggling make women BORED, and they seek adventure, drama, excitement and fun.

It sucks, but it's true.

Open your eyes.

I get the feeling that you only deal with a select group of women. Sure there are plenty of women out there who will give it up rather easily but not all, not by a long shot. Most women, just like most men donít have a lot of opportunity and donít go looking for it. While I can agree that most people will cheat, for most it requires certain conditions, a willing partner, yet it happens few times and far in between. There is no pattern to it, no regularity. Iíve long known that the hardest woman to get is one that is in love with someone else. Sure she may eventually tire of him, but at the moment, sheís not interested in anyone else.

In those affairs with married women that I was talking about, in one case her husband was out of town, physically thousands of miles away for months at a time. In the other her husband was tending to his failing business, only coming home to eat, sleep, bathe, and change his clothes. I always give people the benefit of doubt until they give me reason not to. These women never gave me reason not to trust them.

I hang out with lots of different people. While I do see a lot of casual relationships and whatnot, it is not nearly as widespread as you make it seem to be. I think youíve come to believe the PUA hype too much.

Iím sure, for most people, the preferred relationship is long term and monogamous, it just doesnít always work out.

Not every woman wants the drama. Many want a nice comfortable, peaceful, loving environment. You should try and meet one of these women.

iqqi
12-22-2007, 07:43 PM
Not every woman wants the drama. Many want a nice comfortable, peaceful, loving environment. You should try and meet one of these women.

That's what I've been trying to tell him.

He hangs out with gold diggers and attention wh0res, and bases most of his views on women from those types.

Gerard-890
12-22-2007, 08:08 PM
I think, while these are great responses, that we have to all watch out for stereotypes and generalizations.

Women want a lot of things, just like men want a lot of things, however one particular woman could want more of one thing then another area, but it depends.

One question that's never discussed around here is what do YOU want?

1.) What type of women do you prefer?
2.) What do you expect of her on a physical, financial, emotional level?

We talk to much about trying to "figure out" what women want and cater to those desires, but what about your own?

Quite honestly, the point of all this is your own internal happiness, does it make sense to learn how to seduce and attract women that will make your life uneasy?

Ask yourself this question, what do I want in a woman? After realizing that, how about adopting an Anti-Dump mentality and creating your own "group" of women?

I notice that many times, we find ourselves on this site talking about how "women" aren't this or that, and how we would like them to be this or that, yet, we continue to approach the same women? :confused: Are we starting to do what a number of women do, by "saying" they don't like jerks and lowlifes but continue to sleep with them?

Gentlemen figure out what you want, then go out and find it, I'm quite sure with the use of the Internet, Networking, night clubs, etc., we all can find a woman that fulfills our needs.:)

STR8UP
12-22-2007, 10:07 PM
Iíve long known that the hardest woman to get is one that is in love with someone else. Sure she may eventually tire of him, but at the moment, sheís not interested in anyone else.

This is a good point, because this factors into the equation as well.

Women **TRY** to have one man they are fixated on at any given time. This is what they live for. To a woman this is the ultimate high. When she would jump in front of a train for a minute of your attention, all other men are shut out sexually. It's best not to even give these women a minute of your time, cause they are in another reality.

If there is any hope that this person she is fixated on MIGHT get with her or if he IS with her (sexually) she won't have sex with anyone else.

aliasguy
12-23-2007, 06:16 PM
That's what I've been trying to tell him.

He hangs out with gold diggers and attention wh0res, and bases most of his views on women from those types.


Nice try, babe.